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I quit drinking for a year
- tim-tday 5mo agoGood start. I quit drinking for six years. My only regret is that I didn’t do it twenty years earlier.
- gnabgib 5mo agoYou missed[1][2] one: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47752798 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47752798 [1]: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47753306 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47753306 [2]: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47706723 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47706723
- tim-tday 5mo agoConsistency is king I suppose. I was just thinking this morning about how if every drink I had at a bar over the last 20 years had gone into the stock market I’d probably be a million dollars richer. I was putting nothing into the stock market in my twenties because I “couldn’t afford it” but somehow I could afford to go out and spend a hundred bucks a night on booze. Then there’s the hangovers, pretty sure every bad hangover made me permanently stupider. If I could go back in time and kick myself I would.
- gnabgib 5mo ago$100/night in 2006? Wow.. NYC? That is a lot of income that could be disposed of elsewhere.
- x______________ 5mo agoIs it to late to go back to the stock market?
- fallat 5mo agoNice! I'm doing the same. 9 months in. Everything you said is on the frickin' money. Every. single. word. Canada Dry Zero is my new "thing". That "thing" by the way, is the dopamine reward.
- tayo42 5mo ago>went to a restaurant, I thought, “Should I have a drink?” Usually I decided not to. But making that decision required effort. Every restaurant shoves alcohol menu in your face and your always being asked if you want a drink. Idk why I felt weird just having water for so long. I think the only I miss about drinking is mostly being 20. Alcohol is a little painful now hangovers and heartburn and bloated feeling.
- pton_xd 5mo ago> But gradually I noticed that I didn’t really want a drink, I just wanted a thing. ... It could be alcohol, but I found dessert worked just as well. Whoa! That's not healthy at all... ;) I've found non-alcoholic beers are actually pretty tasty these days, moreso the longer its been since having a real beer. They definitely scratch the itch to "have something" while out socializing. I don't miss the alcohol at all.
- JumpCrisscross 5mo ago> That's not healthy at all I do two weeks dry a quarter (versus dry January, which became silly once I moved to a ski town). My otherwise non-existent sweet tooth revs into first gear in the second week.
- rhyperior 5mo agoI agree, I actually prefer them now because there’s no ill effects AND they’re generally lower calorie, too.
- foobarian 5mo agoWow that is a good way to describe it. For me it's constant coffee, or chocolate, or chips.
- yangikan 5mo agoWhich one do you like?
- anarazel 5mo agoI stopped drinking a few years back, after some (unrelated) health stuff. I don't miss wine, beer, that stopped - like for the author - after a relatively short amount of time. But interestingly I still really miss the feeling of a good scotch after a long day. Not being buzzed, but the sharpness mixed with interesting tastes. My sleep has gotten so much better. I really didn't realize that alcohol didn't affect just the night after I had a drink, but even the next one or two nights..
- al_borland 5mo agoI’ve stopped drinking several times for longer stretches and I can feel a difference after a couple months in overall energy levels and sleep. It seems to have some pretty long tail effects that are subtle, but noticeable. If anyone hasn’t tried cutting it out for 3+ months, I would recommend running a little experiment. My bloodwork improved a lot as well. I had actually completely forgot I stopped drinking when I had it done, so when the doctor asked what I did to see such an improvement, I had no idea. I had gained weight during this period as well, so the alcohol had a bigger negative impact than the weight… though neither is ideal.
- lfaw 5mo agoHave you tried loose leaf green tea? Fermented and aged tea like pu'er has very complex flavors. The caffeine content can be quite low so its safe to drink in the evening. Found it to be even more fun and interesting than tasting e.g. wine.
- tpm 5mo agoand for even lower caffeine content one could try hojicha (high temperature roasted bancha or sencha), higher grades have interesting taste.
- FeloniousHam 5mo ago100% on sleep. I drink regularly, and very much enjoy it, but I'm always cognizant of the price I'm going to pay in good sleep. I've started not drinking at home as simple way to curb consumption without giving it up entirely.
- loveparade 5mo agoI haven't had a drink in 6 months or so. Not because I wanted to stop, I just have not had the desire to drink recently. Now I would love to tell you about all the amazing magical healthy benefits that have come with that, but unfortunately there are none. I feel no difference at all.
- brianpan 5mo agoYou should not be touting magical health benefits on a sample size of one either way. There are already plenty of studies available to be found.
- andsoitis 5mo agoSleeping better? Clearer skin? Lost fat? Biological age < calendar age?
- californical 5mo agoBut I bet whenever (if?) you do have a beer or two again, you’ll notice how it affects your sleep and probably just makes you feel kinda meh. I say that as an occasional drinker. Some of my family loves to drink, nearly every evening. But I join them occasionally and just feel kinda bloated and bad, especially if it’s been a few weeks. Makes it harder to make other healthy choices But yeah love the taste of beer so it is all about tradeoffs!
- Eddy_Viscosity2 5mo agoWhen I stopped drinking I almost immediately lost like 15 lbs. It just fell off without doing anything else different over a few weeks. It was just the extra calories from both the drinks themselves and the snacks I would usually eat with or after drinks. It stayed off too.
- abrookewood 5mo agoYeah, I did the same for roughly 6 months and I don't think that I felt better .. I just never felt SHIT.
- gandalfgreybeer 5mo agoBased from my experience, stopping drinking didn't have noticeable effects as well. However, whenever I would drink once in a blue moon socially, it feels even worse than what I remember. I think it just felt normal before.
- 2Gkashmiri 5mo agoI have been trying to ask people this but its havent gotten a satisfactory answer. Sure alcohol is ingrained in society, sure Americans tried prohibition and all that but its not gloom and doom. Muslims who are about 2 billion choose not to consume alcohol and go about their lives without it. They just do fine without it. How does that work for them? ? I mean I have never consumed and never will so why is it that your society finds it acceptable? Isnt tobabbo going down in consumption because it is being taxed shit out of? Why can't you voluntarily try to influence your alcohol consumption by paying a "alcohol tax"? There are benefits of not consuming alcohol, there are problems associated with alcohol, and people who try to convince alcohol is good for you are generally lying to themselves.
- tejohnso 5mo agoWe pay extra tax on alcohol. It doesn't matter. People pay it and consume. Same with gasoline. Doesn't seem to matter how expensive it gets. Rate of complaining goes up, but road trips continue. Alcohol is especially harmful for some people, but for others it almost always leads to a more enjoyable experience. I don't think those people would try to say it's good for them but they will say they like it, it's important to their social life, and it's no worse than junk food.
- jeremyjh 5mo agoA lot of states do tax alcohol. Alcohol is dropping in popularity, but I think that is mostly due to legalized Marijuana and THC. Actually, there are more DUI for THC now than Alcohol. People have been drinking for thousands of years, and all that time there have been people who think its a bad idea. For me personally I can't drink successfully, so I quit entirely about 17 years ago. The only thing I really miss is the occasional drink with co-workers, especially at long dinners. A long dinner at a restaurant - sober - with co-workers who are all drinking is a special kind of hell.
- adgjlsfhk1 5mo agonote that many (most?) THC DUIs have very little evidence. thc stays in your system for at least a month, so it's very hard to tell how many of these are actual DUIs vs cops deciding to pull over a (usually black) person and make up some signs to justify an arrest+drug test
- budududuroiu 5mo agoI didn't drink for 8 months in 2025, then I went to friends' weddings in Eastern Europe where it's expected to drink. After about 2 months of binging, I'm back on the no-drinking train. I think what made it stick for me this time is cycling. If I want to be up and hit the road, even one drink the night before will totally derail that, so the calculation completely shifted. Drinking is really fun, being up to no good until 7am on a bender is really fun, but I much prefer my early mornings with a coffee and cycling nowadays.
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- charles_f 5mo agoThis is inspiring, you might have convinced me to do the same, if only for the sleep part. One thing that I'd miss is the taste though, I don't drink soda or sugary drinks, and I can't think of a replacement for the taste of good wine, beer or spirits. (there's good dealcoolized beers nowadays but it feels like cheating). Not that I guess one absolutely needs it, but is still part of the culinary experience. It's probably because I never looked though, is there anything non alcoholic that "grown ups" drink?
- californical 5mo agoCoffee and tea! Chamomile is nice in the evening, always makes me feel cozy
- aardvarkdriver 5mo agoSecond coffee and tea. I'm nearing a year and have enjoyed tasting and learning about origins and processing methods of tea in a similar way one might for do craft beer. Just as fulfilling with less downside. Also, I wouldn't consider NA beer cheating! For me, the ritual of social drinking was just as important as the taste. Drinking good NA beers with friends is a 95% solution.
- Chilko 5mo agoYou could try fermented drinks like Kefir or Kombucha? Otherwise I quite enjoy sparkling water with some enhancements like lime, or cucumber mint flavour drops
- iuffxguy 5mo agoIt is very common for people who quit drinking to then develop sugar addictions.
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- dhruvkar 5mo agoFor 12 years, I did one year ON, one year OFF (2012 - 2024). On my ON years, I felt compelled to drink, every night I had at least a beer, if for no reason other than, I wanted to make the "most of it". On my OFF years, I didn't feel the need to drink, and generally slept better, lost weight and was more focused. Stopped drinking completely after that.
- senkora 5mo agoI applaud your commitment to statistical rigor. On a related note, “sequential analysis” is the keyword in stats for experimental designs that allow for stopping the experiment early in the face of clear results: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sequential_analysis# https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sequential_analysis#
- dhruvkar 5mo agohaha... I'm slow..needed the dozen years of data.
- chrysoprace 5mo agoI've found that nowadays I largely like it for the taste (which often surprises non-beer drinkers) and so I'm quite pleased that non-alcoholic options are becoming more widespread. My main wish is for non-alcoholic craft beer to become much more widespread and cheaper. In Australia alcohol is taxed at a ludicrous rate, but non-alcoholic drinks are not, however they often attract the same price - which is disappointing.
- esafak 5mo agoOne thing that annoys me is that non-alcoholic beer is subject to age checks in the US. I assume it's because the programmers didn't create a separate group for them, so they ring up with the rest of the liquor, triggering a check? Maybe there's a good reason ('coz that's not one).
- mk89 5mo agoMost likely because even non-alcoholic beer still contains like 0.5% of alcohol. Unless it's a "0.0%" alcohol-free beer, and even then it might still contain a bit...
- zdragnar 5mo agoI bought hops-flavored sparkling water from a grocery store's beer cooler on a lark and, despite my attempt to explain the logic to the poor cashier, we both bent to the whims of the computer system and scanned my ID to complete the purchase. There are other drinks that have trace amounts of alcohol, such as kombucha which is regulated to stay under the 0.5% threshold. Fruit juices will also likely contain upwards of the same amount, depending on how much they're processed.
- reverius42 5mo agoI think orange juice can be up to 0.5% alcohol, and they don't check ID for that.
- intrasight 5mo agoWeird since kombucha has 0.5% and they don't age check that.
- browningstreet 5mo agoI remember a bar acquaintance who stopped drinking for a year. I saw him when that year was up and I asked him how it went. “I didn’t notice any changes, so I’m quitting for another year.”
- ffsm8 5mo agoTbf, if you're not drinking much (eg only once per week or month) a moderate amount - so not enough to get drunk... Then your body is able to handle that. Statistically you're still more likely to get cancer etc, but that's still a pretty low likelihood, hence... Complete abstinence may be healthiest, but is also unnecessary.
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- browningstreet 5mo agoHe wasn't someone who was "not drinking much".
- steve1977 5mo agoThat's kind of what I did. I initially stopped for a month for some health reasons. That became another month. And another one. And now it's a bit more than 4 years. The interesting thing is, when I quit smoking (almost 20 years ago), I knew I must never touch a cigarette again. I think with alcohol, I could have some wine or beer occassionaly, I just don't feel the need for it anymore.
- FeloniousHam 5mo agoTotally agree. I was non-professional smoker for a long time, and quit many, many times. Even after years, I'll get this "you know what'd great?" tap on the shoulder. One cigarette is not a slippery slope, it's a vertical cliff drop. I love booze in all its forms, but it doesn't have the same pull.
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- littlexsparkee 5mo agoI love lagers too much to give up beer but I only have 1-2 at a time, quite rarely - but doing without spirits, wine, etc is no problem. The latter I forget exist unless someone else offers me something. With n/a beer, you're not going to find less common types like helles, marzen, kellerbier so it's not a true replacement for aficionados imo.
- aussieguy1234 5mo agoI don't drink regularly at all, never have. This means that at most, I tend to consume no more than 1-2 drinks per year, usually if I'm curious about how a particular beverage tastes and there's no alternative drinks available to have with my meal.
- not_a_bot_4sho 5mo agoDon't drink. Or if you must, drink less. Who am I to tell you what to do? No one important. But I did recently discover I have colon cancer, perhaps related to my great fondness for beer. And now I'm awkwardly figuring out my final exit strategy. 0/5 stars not recommended. Oh, and schedule that colonoscopy you've been putting off. Better to catch it early when more treatment options are on the table.
- HerbManic 5mo agoI will second the early testing, it caught my mothers cancer in the early stages. That was 10 years ago and she is going strong in her mid 70's. As for the final exit strategy, do what works for you and don't worry about others thinking you are being "selfish". You are the final arbiter. Be well.
- not_a_bot_4sho 5mo agoAppreciate it!
- irishcoffee 5mo agoIn my mid 30s (I'm older now) I got breast cancer I drank so much, which was after I got pancreatitis because I'm too fucking stupid to learn my lesson. I am a biological male now one nipple shy of a set. Oh and a DUI. Sleeping in a running car. I’m a jackass and an idiot. I'm done drinking. Ideally my feet will be less numb and painful, my shoulder might stop hurting, the outer two fingers on my left hand might become un-numb, might even gain some weight. My family is a bunch of alcoholics, "functional" if you believe in that sort of thing. I realized if nothing else, I need to break that cycle for my kids. I'm so sorry to hear about your cancer diagnosis. I was (and am) terrified that I took ~20 years off my life up to this point, and it could be over any year now. Alcoholism is no joke. I just wrote up a 17k letter to myself (with my spouse as the audience, not sure I'll ever show her, she hates me right now) about how I got to where I am. Reading it back and editing it has had me bawling for hours. I can't believe this thread popped up.
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- HerbManic 5mo agoMaybe it is just me but I had never had any major issues in regulating consumption of stuff like this? Alcohol is all well a good but it never became a habit or diet if you will. Even when I found out I had a dairy allergy, dropping all milks/cheese and whatnot was just a case of remembering to do it, no lasting desire for it. But Caffeine... oh man that is a tough one.
- Ronsenshi 5mo agoThis comments section is bizarre in general. Very few comments from people who don't seem to have an issue with control over their alcohol consumption where they can enjoy a glass without it becoming a problem. Naturally it's good that people who do have a problem can recognize it and stop it from affecting their life, but I feel like there has to be more people who are perfectly OK with irregular consumption of light amounts of alcohol as part of a social activity.
- kyleee 5mo agoYou really find it bizarre that people who have trouble with moderation are active participants in a discussion about alcohol?
- Ronsenshi 5mo agoThe ratio is certainly surprising to me. I thought there would be some people chipping in who don't have issues with occasional alcohol consumption that doesn't affect their life in a negative way.
- kyleee 5mo agoFair; I don’t think those types of people are nearly as drawn to these types of threads though
- zeroq 5mo agoIt's easy to stop drinking when you do it socially. There are many people who would consciously love to stop drinking but can't find alternative to stop the storm in their heads. This could be caused by many things, from trauma to ADHD. The best quote I heard about addiction is: "I only have control over my first drink". The worst part is that alcohol and drugs have a strong stigma, but for people who are suffering anything that can turn their mind off is viable, gambling, binge watching tv or playing video games. The latter are often overlooked and ignored by relatives.
- SwiftyBug 5mo agoTo me it's the opposite: I can go weeks without drinking. The moment there's a social event, I feel the urge to drink. It's like I can't enjoy it without alcohol. I've been trying to figure out why this happens, but I haven't had the strength to try and not drink in one a social gathering.
- mfru 5mo agoFor me it is social anxiety / being on edge around more than 4-5 people (apply from 1 person upwards if they are strangers) and having sensory overload because it is a bar / pub / whatever. A lifetime of masking leaves its mark on a nervous system, i.e. And alcohol down regulates / takes the edge off You might look into neurodiversity / trauma in your life (if you haven't done so already)
- SwiftyBug 5mo agoWhat do you mean by masking? And can you elaborate on the neurodiversity part? This is the first time I hear about alcohol as something that's reached for specifically by neurodivergent people.
- mfru 5mo agoFor people on the spectrum masking is basically roleplaying a "normal" person, by learning behavior that is associated with not being singled out as a weirdo. This takes a lot of processing power and constant vigilance in order to not drop the mask which is quite exhausting. Here is one study looking at the connection between neurodiversity and substance use: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3965675/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3965675/
- bkjelden 5mo agoInteresting, over the last 18 months or so I've dabbled with both quitting/aggressively cutting back on drinking as well as aggressively cutting back on sweets (some periods where I've been super dedicated and others where I'm not). Counter to OP's experience, I've actually found sweets to be more impactful than alcohol. That is to say eating dessert after dinner will impact my sleep more than a drink or two, and the periods where I lost weight have been more closely correlated with the periods where I was eating very few sweets. Of course with both, the delta between low/moderate consumption and a baseline of zero consumption is low - it's the excessive consumption that causes trouble. Like OP I found the daily ritual to be pretty easy after a couple weeks, but like OP I also missed the social aspect (and this is why I've sort of settled on the opinion that giving up drinking completely is not worth it, at least for me). If I felt like I was experiencing a step function improvement in life quality I'd keep it up... but for me it just hasn't been the silver bullet it's made out to be. I'm not really one to label one food ingredient as the cause of all health problems, but if I had to choose one I would choose refined sugar long before alcohol.
- techcode 5mo agoHow/what are you basing your "sweets/desert impacts my sleep more than a drink or two" on? I was waking up an hour or more before the alarm (so waking up <=6AM with 7AM alarm). And I thought my sleep was good - after all Fitbit sleep score was 80-85. Then after stopping alcohol I started sleeping longer. Specifically waking up later, at least for the first few weeks. Seemingly alcohol was causing earlier waking due to spiking cortisol too early. While waking-up time took a few weeks to recalibrate. Already 2-3 days after stopping alcohol - Fitbit was showing clear improvements in actual sleep quality metrics - HRV was increasing and RHR/BR were decreasing. And now my "bad nights" have Fitbit sleep score of ~85, and it's regularly 90+. Lab results are night and day - e.g. CRP was 20 (>5 signals inflammation), just few weeks after stopping alcohol it was ~10 while I was having cold/fever, and now it's <1. The biggest/hardest problem for me was that after stopping alcohol, my sweets intake increased, especially in the evening. I was doing almost no carbs during the day, and then in the evening ... I guess brain was lacking some easy dopamine that it would previously get from alcohol... I would crave sweets, ice cream ...etc. It took almost 3 months to be able to stick with strict keto diet. I'm finally doing <=20 gram of carbs because from past experience - any higher and I have a hard time limiting carbs to say just 50 (which would still be low carb/keto).
- friggeri 5mo agoI stopped drinking 8 or 9 years ago, and I haven’t missed it. Not that it ever was a problem, I enjoyed a glass of wine or a cocktail every now and then, but I was training for an ultra marathon and figured I’d stay dry while I trained for a couple of months. Had a glass of wine a few days after the race and felt completely hammered, at which point I realized if I wanted to drink again I’d have to “train” my body for it, and thought that was totally backwards. I haven’t found any situation where an alcoholic drink can’t be replaced by a glass of water, an NA beer or a mocktail. I’m also very lucky to be married to a wonderful woman who arrived to more or less the same conclusion and we enjoy being the boring ones who don’t drink (but never get a hangover).
- cokerocks 5mo agoWait, people do damp januaries? I have been doing no-soda januaries and septembers for 15 years now, as a way to avoid kidney stones, something my family has a number of cases of. Everyone told this to reacted as if it was a novel concept and thought of doing it for smoking or coffee. I never heard of damp januaries before.
- indrex 5mo agoI stopped mostly after Claude Code. 1. Too many interesting things to do 2. I asked it to rate my diet and maintain a streak - which now I don’t want to lose
- Ronsenshi 5mo agoWhy must every discussion involve AI? This honestly sounds like one of the posts from /r/LinkedInLunatics
- thefz 5mo agoI was waiting for someone to inject GLP discussion into this, but honestly the parent comment is so much more unhinged
- draftsman 5mo agoConversely, I started after Calude Code. 1. The thought of slop everywhere is too much 2. I no longer need to be sober to build software
- OutOfHere 5mo agoJust quit it and stop counting the years. You won't miss it after the first two years of abstinence. I don't miss it. I get joy from music and a bit of outdoor running instead. And avoid alcoholics.
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- silexia 5mo agoI quit drinking three years ago and they have been the best years of my adult life.
- anonymousiam 5mo agoComing from a family of alcoholics (half of my aunts and uncles, my father, and my sister), I have seen the social and physical damage that alcohol does. My father was a role model to me of what not to become. I do drink, but nothing stronger than wine, and not very often. It may have been easy for the author to quit, but it's a different story for the people who are addicted. The ones who are trying to quit are at least aware that they've got a problem. Many never even make it that far.
- pbgcp2026 5mo ago... cheers to that! ;-)
- thefz 5mo ago> If anyone gives me chocolate, I immediately eat all of it and then text the giver, “Thanks for the chocolate, I ate it instead of dinner, it’s all gone, this is what will always happen if you give me chocolate.” Problem is with you and not with alcohol, bud.
- nunez 5mo ago> I did find not drinking to have one clear downside: It’s just not that much fun to hang out with people who are drinking if you are not drinking yours This is the big one. Alcohol is the lubricant that makes many social activities function, for better or worse. I've reduced my alcohol intake to 2 drinks per session with about a drink per hour intake rate (slower as ABV increases). One big plus to doing this is that staying out super late isn't nearly as appealing. Regardless, this article reads like the year I quit drinking caffineated coffee. A roaster here in Houston had an award winning decaf bean that was incredible enough for me to make that decision on the spot. It turns out that they won the WBC on that bean for a reason! It is outstandingly hard to get a good decaf pourover, assuming that the shop even does that. Most times, you're stuck with old espresso or nothing, more often than not. I've introduced it back into my diet but have decaf days throughout the week so that caffeiene continues to "work" when I need it.
- carrychains 5mo agoI recommend therapy in addition to not drinking for anyone who thinks eating a chocolate is drinking.
- anal_reactor 5mo agoLife is short, do drugs. I quit all substances for three months, didn't do jack shit. I'm planning to see a psychiatrist in autumn for my chronic exhaustion and sleep problems, and just in case I get prescribed something that doesn't combine with substances, this summer I'm binging on weed and acid because fuck being sober. > It seems like it should be possible to reproduce this effect without alcohol. It's a skill you have to train. Usually when you have one person in a group who sets the mood, and the rest see that person as a leader, they will follow. Observe how drunk people behave and replicate this whenever you meet your friends. I'm mostly friends with my coworkers so during lunch we talk about fun stuff while two tables over the CEO is giving a lecture about AI.
- paologiacometti 5mo agoHeavy drinker from 20 to 40 now after some dry January years I only drink a beer or a couple of wine glass in the weekends (no exception) my overall energy and sleep increased by an order of magnitude. I will quit as a target next year. After quit smoking one of my best health decision so far
- caspper69 5mo agoI quit for 9 years and went back to drinking. I do it once every few months now, just to have a beer or three with old friends. But I didn't get dragged back in, in fact, it's been 2 months since I drank again. Just had to learn to live my life without it.
- Whinner 5mo agoThe author had 2-3 drinks per week, that really doesn’t sound like “drinking”. Maybe I’m the one who should give it up.
- abought 5mo agoPer your comment about the effect on socialization: hang in there! That space is improving! I've never gone for drinking, and it was deeply ingrained in the social and startup experience when I was younger. This could be a bit alienating at times (it's not fun being the only sober person at a party, and there's just no right way to refuse a kegstand invite from your boss). One of the surprising outcomes of dry january and general aging... in some ways, I'm getting to know my long-time peers for the first time. More mixer events are providing non-alcoholic drinks as a first class item, and when we socialize, instead of pressuring me to do shots, we're sharing all the other stuff I enjoyed doing all along: trading favorite tea blends, day hikes, game nights, etc. I've never met the author, but for anyone else considering this: Welcome, new old friend!