throwaway9934

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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   We don't have one. I need to either find a way to fix it or quit. I've taken a lot of the advice on here and I'm actually feeling hopeful for the first time in a long while.
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   Neither one of us can be fired unfortunately. I would have done that already had it been an option.
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   Thanks that hadn't occurred to me. I've found myself bewildered by some of his statements and actions, maybe that will help me understand whats going on inside a bit better.
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   Hey thanks for responding. I'm sorry to hear you are in a similar situation. Okay so yes we can agree on what we're trying to as a company and we can write it down. We even have a performance metric. So that's a good start bu
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   thank you
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   Not Michael :)
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   This is really clear advice and thinking; thank you. We had a positive interaction today, first in a long time. I took a lot of the advice on this board and the result was good. Hopefully we can make it continue at least in the short term.
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   We're self-funded so there is no higher power to call upon. It's a cooperate or die situation, and yes we need a miracle. I've taken advice today based on what I've read here and I somehow managed to speak frankly but wi
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   by throwaway9934 8y ago

   We're both technical and we've both made similar financial contributions and sacrifices. One thing that has become painfully clear for both of us is that we need professional sales and marketing help from someone who knows our dom
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    It's strange, yesterday I would have said it is beyond repair. Today, after taking some advice here I see a sliver of hope that it might be salvageable. I've managed to make myself replaceable at least in tangible ways so I hope t
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    I've not thought of that, but it's something I'd be willing to try. Our contract does not define how things will be resolved in a conflict. Basically we end up deadlocked and nothing happens until one capitulates. This has re
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    Thanks for the response and for the book tip. I will read it. You are right that it was a big mistake to not get involved in what the other was doing. In retrospect I think our egos prevented us from allowing "interference" in wha
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    Thanks for responding and please accept my apologies in the delay in my response. I had a long overdue positive interaction today. I think we've both realized that if we don't work together on this we're finished. So that&#x2
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    I realize now that at some point in the last few years I totally lost any sense of empathy for my co-founder. As I write this I realized that today was the first time I've shown him any real sense of empathy in a really long time. Coin
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    You are right, it's really hard to get to a consensus if one person feels attacked. It's really hard to describe some of the major problems without coming across as blaming though since we've more or less followed a path that
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    As dysfunctional as it is, I don't think either one of us would get lawyers involved. I think maybe I've managed to take the first step towards some kind of reconciliation between us. I think that perhaps the desperation of the si
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    You make good points but as you say that ship is sailed. I instigated a good long talk today based on the advice here and it was remarkably positive. We decided to focus only on finding a way to make the company survive, and if we manage th
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    We got the first sale before we incorporated. 50/50 happened because neither would accept less than 50.
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    Neither one of us would have started or continued if it meant ceding control to the other. It is literally 50/50. I don't think I'll ever be doing that again.
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    I have tried numerous times in the past. However because things were "going well" he had no reason to listen and we kept marching towards disaster. Oddly enough, based on a rare positive conversation we managed today, it seem like
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    There is indeed a lot of good advice here and I'm touched that people have gone out of their way to give it. I couldn't respond right away since the post didn't get any responses for the first hour and I had already turned in
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    I do concede there is a passive aggressive element to my post, caused by a lot of internal resentment and frustration. But no one will recognize our business or who we are. But I can't really go into detail on that topic without actual
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    I chose my words carefully to make sure this remains totally anonymous. I was not trying to frame public opinion, just genuinely feeling low and desperate.
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    I'm sure I'm part of the problem. I can't say that I've been some kind of angel. I have reacted quite badly and at times immaturely. I did not however intend to portray myself as a victim. It's a situation of my own
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    In a dark moment in the past it had occurred to me to try and sell my shares to a company in our industry that would like to see us gone. I don't think I could do that though.
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    We don't have a board. We raised money by taking deposits over a year before delivery. It's just between us to figure it out. I've followed a lot of the advice I've received here and so far it seems to have worked. First
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    If I had to make a guess he cares about what the business can do for his own status; in terms of recognition and validation more than money. Sometimes that's aligned with the interests of the business and sometimes not.
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    You are absolutely right about the anxiety and panic taking control. Writing my original post yesterday seems to have fulfilled the function of writing the unsent letter. Seeing all of these responses today has totally changed my outlook. I
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    Thanks for taking the time to respond first of all. The post hadn't picked up yet by the time I shut down for the night so I didn't see these responses until this morning. I think writing my original post and reading the responses
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    by throwaway9934 8y ago

    Thank you everyone for taking the time to read and respond. I'm honestly touched. I thought my post died in new. I am at the office now so cannot engage with all of the responses for a few more hours.