dkiok21k

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by dkiok21k 3y ago
As a male who was wrongfully accused of sexual assault by a covert narcissist, and basically expelled from communities I've been part of for all my life, I find it hard to see this as merely a "culture war". I used to instant
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
I did not say or imply anything in that direction.
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
"it means someone who wants to be able to clearly communicate loses their ability to do so" is a result of "watering down important terms". Where is the inconsistency?
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
I never said otherwise. I said a forum full of hatespeech/nazis is not _automatically_ a "toxic" place. It may be "violent", or "dangerous", and other things. If you can outright see what they are up to, a
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
That's not what I said, at all.
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
Don't you see how it is important to differentiate between these two things? Do you have a suggestion on how to make it clear what you mean if you mix two very different meanings into one? I did not say it can only be used for personal
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
""I spoke to everyone and they all think I am wrong" is a different statement than "I spoke to everyone and they all think you are wrong". Continously being told to "be wrong" can instill such doubts,
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
I need to attract you, continuously, and then, in the same fashion, _hurt you_. Both elements need to be present for something to be toxic. If someone is "just" attracted, that's simply recruitment, and not toxic in itself.
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
No. A single statement can never be gaslighting. Gaslighting is a process. Being told to be wrong (even if you may be correct) is not gaslighting either. The important element is to plant doubts about your _perception_.
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
Please... "Gaslighting" is an important term for someone messing with your perception, so you begin to fundamentally doubt your own feelings and experiences. It only works in contexts where there is an important relationship, e.g.
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
After studying this topic intensely for my own sake, I'd say it is more common than you thought because childhood trauma is more common than you think. It can even be minor, little things that can cause memory splits in children for su
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
"The child survives the Trauma of Identity by giving up on his healthy identity, his autonomy, in order to have some connection with his mother, without whom he cannot survive. He is forced to identify with his mother's wants and
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
I recommend to try the free workshops by https://www.identitydevelopmentinstitute.com/ - please report back!
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
I've had HPPD symptoms for many years after my first trip, and all of them are beginning to disappear now that I finally properly continued trauma therapies (with no substances involved). I'm just making this up, and have zero stu
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
Even "worse", unresolved trauma affects people around you negatively, whereas it is typical that you have a blind spot for how exactly until you face it. I really strongly urge everyone to work on unresolved trauma, and not keep i
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by dkiok21k 4y ago
I have been and I am still dealing with intrusive thoughts for the past year. I am still unable to talk about most of them or recall them voluntarily - only the rough circumstances, but not the actual situation(s). For the first months af