throwawayIn2019

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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Perhaps. A very poor childhood. A product of foster care. I paid my way through school by working 3 almost full-time jobs at the same time plus school. This made me just keep going every day regardless. But working so much gave me no time t
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Thank you for commenting. I'm pretty attached to the kids, I think. They tend to flock to me. The oldest (still under 18 months) will only let me put her to bed. But interestingly enough will only let my wife feed her. Thank you for th
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Thanks. We are talking about this.
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Thank you for sharing. I do imagine that no matter how OK my wife is, her family will be blowing up my phone for sure. Also, I think my mom will have something to say about it. My dad will offer to take me to a strip club. You can't pi
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Yeah, I get why there is a shade of one-siding. What I am considering doing is worth fighting for. This means something different to each person.
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   I think about this too. Is this a temporary feeling? My wife read your comment and said "I don't know if your dedication would fade." She remembers when we were first together and I was selling my software off to a company. I
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Thank you. Ordered. Next day.
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   I don't view it as selfish. Maybe I need to think that way for a change. I view it as growth. Ensuring if I need to find a job I can. Putting out the next game that keeps food on the table (so to speak, we aren't in any danger of
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   by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

   Maybe we can put an addition on our house to make it a work space or move the kids to the addition and use their bedroom as my work space. It has an insanely large window and overlooks the lake.
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I didn't think about this. Thank you for mentioning it.
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I see where you are coming from with the snarky reply. That helped a bit actually because the other projects I have released have paid for our life together. I managed to do these a few years ago while she was traveling for work and I was c
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    It's always baffled my why a "romantic" life needs to be so hard for both parties to agree how it should work. You just do it. You make it a priority. Yet "romantic" life is a huge issue for so many married couples.
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I totally see your point. Technically if you asked enough car dealerships the same question you will get a mixture of right and wrong. If you ask just one you get just one answer, is it right or wrong? I think your main point of seeing one
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    A marriage counselor is just one person. The peanut gallery is more people giving advice from different perspectives.
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    How did you and your SO start talks about getting divorced?
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I've thought about if I am being selfish. I'm always doing house work, running errands, running out to pick up dry cleaning, etc. I also make all the meals and general cleaning it up afterwards. So perhaps I'm being selfish e
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    Thank you for taking the time to write this. The thing is she is ok with a divorce too. She has things she wants too. It would be uncontested and I think we just need to file in court. No need for attorneys. Snoring: We have tried everythin
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I honestly think she just doesn't know how. I don't think she is trying to be dis-respectful. She just needs that close personal contact and interaction through out much of each day. Our goals in life are very different. The way w
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    In our state we must live apart for 1 year before being able to get a divorce. Living apart means though that we still need to sell the house, divide possessions, etc.
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I have thought about both of these. It's weird, before my wife, I was very happy just living in a small place, just me, doing my work. We really do have a lot of fun. We tried a middle ground to where we each have dedicated time each d
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    by throwawayIn2019 8y ago

    I love her. I promised "till death do us part" and I feel bad that after all this time I want to do my own thing. I know she will move back home and I may never see her again. She doesn't like to live alone.
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    Ask HN: I think I want a divorce

    18 points by throwawayIn2019 8y ago|61 comments