theturtlemoves

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by theturtlemoves 16d ago
Blue Yes I think much of the usefulness of syntax highlighting is a matter of having gotten used to a specific editor. Long time Visual Studio user, I tried VSCode and Jetbrains but for C# I switched back to good old VS. I know the pattern,
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
You could be on to something. I mean, how many people might normally rarely get the question "How are you doing?"
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
> Grades are often adjusted on a bell curve and honest students are disadvantaged when others cheat. It depends per country. Here we use a grading system that isn't relative to how other students perform. You basically get a percent
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
Neither of us knows. That's the difficult bit in topics like these. None of us is psychic and can tell what'll happen next. Will he be happy and healthy? Or will he have anger issues, meltdowns or exhibit destructive behavior to h
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
I wish you strength in dealing with your situation. Neurological problems are really hard to deal with, especially when you come to realize it really is what it is and have to let go of futile hope.
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
Please don't put words in my mouth
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
> Treatment progresses it never stops or moves backwards. Unless the episode gets buried at the bottom of the medical file. Unless treatment is "completed" because no more progress can made. Unless insurance doesn't cover
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
Oh yes, I'm in agreement with you there
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
I'd be curious to read about 1, 2, 5, 10, 20 year follow-up. Party pooper warning. I'm afraid I don't have rose tinted glasses, due to personal experience with a family member with TBI (accident at age 16, 3 weeks in a coma).
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
Vot a nice... castle ...
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
And then? Either we think linearly: Crash into the rocks, game over. Or circular: difficult times ahead, we'll get through them again
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by theturtlemoves 3mo ago
You know, many eastern countries apparently intuitively think in cycles. The west tends to think linearly: "We're trending upwards, argh argh overpopulation, famine, death. We're trending downwards, argh argh population colla
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by theturtlemoves 4mo ago
Maybe unrelated but this memory pops up: I once worked with a mechanical engineer who could not visualize anything in his mind and had quite some trouble with word finding and explaining his ideas. He just couldn't say what needed to b
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by theturtlemoves 4mo ago
> The stories the kids always loved most were the Grimms, the violent ones. I think they allowed them to process and in some weird way make sense of what was happening in the real world around them, if such a thing is possible in that en
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by theturtlemoves 4mo ago
Thank you for pointing that out. Fair point. Sorry for spoiling the atmosphere.
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by theturtlemoves 4mo ago
Depends on what you mean by right. Oftentimes it's rephrased as "The other guy's obligation".
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by theturtlemoves 4mo ago
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
> If you're in a toxic environment, this is what it's like. I think you nailed it. People's behaviors are always adaptive to their environment.
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
"Cultural conservatives might try to explain the Tragic Twenties by citing the rise of secular individualism among American liberals and pointing to the fact that religion seems to be a tonic for unhappiness. But the rise of religious
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
There are tribes where the mom cares for the sons until they're eight and then the boys are raised by the men from there on. Joining in the tasks the men do daily. That said, a lot of people don't bond for the sake of bonding, but
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
Reality is the final judge. If you get the seamless integration to work well and it's what you want, go for it. If it doesn't, revert to the default setting. Vanilla grows on you, it really does
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
If you've never bought into it, that the other sex is to blame, then I'm sure you teamed up quite smoothly. But I've seen numerous examples, and in my own marriage we also had to figure this stuff out because as kids we had b
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
Where did I say anything about a cultural fad? Where did I mention "dangers of downstream effects"? Where did I claim that I think "we prefer strangers raise our kids"? You're pulling your reply straight from the of
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
If I may attempt to clarify my stance. Stereotypically, on average, interpolate for your marriage and all that, if a man does a task/role, he has the ball. He doesn't share the ball. Doing X is my job? Aight, my job. No touchy. Mi
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
Four things are needed. Stereotypically they're divided Dad: Protect and provide Mom: Nurture and nourish You could do it differently, but that only works if you swap one, not share half half. Both have been eroded. Kids are raised by
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
If you're not paying for the product, you are the product
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
Exactly. There has to be a payoff. When that's sheer enjoyment, that's fine. But that could flip and then payment, exchange of honest value, is a good model between people to do things and get mutual value exchange
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
"Why can't we just demand to spend someone else's money on this because they ought to agree that this is important. Meanwhile, I myself can't be arsed to spend a dime on it, but yeah still important..." No. If you t
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
Fair point, hadn't looked at it that way. (Edit: Word of warning though, my father was a bricklayer and he also screamed at his kids whenever he came home overworked. I'm not saying I know the answer here but every job has its &qu
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by theturtlemoves 5mo ago
Really? Time to move to the USA I guess. Here in Europe it seems to me there's a big gap between minimum wage and high paying jobs. Not much in between (Afterthought: Don't forget the time and cost of retraining. I don't doub

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