oleander73

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by oleander73 1y ago
I was quite ready to die (after stage 4 dx), but I thought "What the heck, let's give it a go. I've always been curious what it is like." It turned out to be much less horrible than I expected and nearly five years later
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by oleander73 1y ago
I thought the same, until I got cancer (stage 4 even, so the chemo wasn't curative). I don't know if I was lucky or it was the type of chemo, but it wasn't nearly as bad as I expected. It's been nearly five years since d
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by oleander73 4y ago
My "secrets" are motivation and time. I was very motivated to change my diet and changed my life to make sure I had the time (and energy) to cook a real meal every day. I also treated it (almost obsessively) as a quest to improve
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by oleander73 4y ago
I'm not considered terminally ill yet by most "official" definitions (you have to have months to live). I'm lucky to have a cancer that so far response to treatment to slow it down substantially. This is relevant to the
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by oleander73 4y ago
It is horrible if people are forced into MAID because of monetary issues, but that should obviously be addressed by improving their financial support, not by taking away the option of MAID.
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by oleander73 4y ago
I have incurable cancer and I'd really like to die on my own terms. Why should that be hard? Today it is still way too hard in most of the world (including in countries that have MAID). Also, it's not just about it being "har
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by oleander73 4y ago
A contradictio in terminis.
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by oleander73 4y ago
I'm retired. I live in a country where healthcare costs aren't an issue and have enough savings to live on for my projected lifespan.
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by oleander73 4y ago
I think partially out of habit and every now and then there's something really interesting that reinforces the habit :-)
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by oleander73 4y ago
(Not trying to score sympathy points) I got diagnosed with metastatic cancer (incurable). Five weeks later (while getting chemo) I quit my job. I was a workaholic software developer. I haven't programmed since. Best decision I ever mad
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by oleander73 5y ago
In my (unpopular) opinion trials for people with incurable cancer are quite predatory. You are supposed to participate to help science, not yourself. But in reality many people desperately cling to anything that gives them hope.
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by oleander73 5y ago
Agreed (except the part about the patient paying for clinical trials). After I got diagnosed with metastatic prostate cancer last year I was asked to participate in a immunotherapy trial. I declined as a wasn't about to spend the next
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by oleander73 5y ago
I have incurable cancer and let me tell you, talking about curing death is laughably absurd at this point. We don't even have good pain killers.
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by oleander73 5y ago
I have incurable cancer and I wish I had the option of going to the vet to "move to a farm upstate."
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by oleander73 5y ago
Thank you for your kind reply. I'm actually doing pretty good. I'm not currently in pain and plan to die before I am. I figured out a good way to end my life myself should my euthanasia request be denied. I've always been a p
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by oleander73 5y ago
Agreed. Although I do believe you have a moral obligation to attempt to make the people who care about you understand your thought process and ideally agree with your decision.
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by oleander73 5y ago
The psyche test would be great. That way anyone who wants to die only has to take the test.
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by oleander73 5y ago
One of the rules is that two independent doctors need to be sure that you want to be euthanized, so this is already covered and has nothing to do with the ridiculous judgment of whether I am suffering enough.
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by oleander73 5y ago
It's definitely complicated, but in two countries the courts have already ruled that the ban on assistance violates the European Convention on Human Rights.
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by oleander73 5y ago
If the people that remain behind are at peace with the decision it doesn't really matter 'what might have been'. Also, taking away the 'easy' option means that a large number of people will do it in a way that is mo
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by oleander73 5y ago
I don't know if you're being serious or not, but this is actually a profound point that a lot of people don't seem to grasp (maybe because they don't really believe in death being final). If you take this point seriously
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by oleander73 5y ago
There are actually a number of countries (and US states) that now have euthanasia laws. We got there first, but that also means we didn't get to learn from anyone. There are certainly problems with the Dutch laws, but there is no polit
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by oleander73 5y ago
It is, but there are complications. My parents are still alive and I'd like them to be present (and they'd like to be present), but when you are present at a suicide you automatically become suspected of 'assisting' and
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by oleander73 5y ago
As someone for whom this is a real life practical issue, not some idle philosophizing, even asking the question is repugnant to me. I have incurable cancer and at some point I will decide "enough is enough" and I'd like to be
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by oleander73 5y ago
The "things not to say" list is pretty good, but I strongly disagree with the "things to say" list. I appreciate it when people say "let me know if I can help", but offering specific help or even worse "he
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by oleander73 5y ago
Same. I really enjoying sleeping (i.e. being unconscious) and being dead would be the same.
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by oleander73 5y ago
Agreed. I have incurable cancer and I very much plan to die pleasantly. The cost of that is that I will probably die much sooner than necessary, but I can live with that.
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by oleander73 5y ago
You should at the very least investigate the effectiveness and risks of resuscitation. I only got a DNR after being diagnosed with incurable cancer, but had I known the (in)effectiveness and risks of resuscitation I would have done it much
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by oleander73 5y ago
The sad truth is that we don't have any good painkillers. Current painkillers are either weak or have strong side effects. Source: I have incurable cancer (not yet in any pain) and did a lot of research on every aspect of it (including
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by oleander73 5y ago
Prostate cancer. No, I have limited faith in medical science and none whatsoever in alternatives. Like I said, I'm quite happy and don't cling to life. I'll enjoy whatever time I have left to the max, but there's no need

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