jm__87

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by jm__87 1y ago
Maybe it's just me but this seems pretty normal? I don't see myself as having social anxiety, but I am probably more reserved than what you described.
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by jm__87 1y ago
Personally, I find how I spend my time outside of work has a big impact on how motivated and productive I am at work, regardless of how meaningful my work tasks are. Obviously basic things like sleep, diet, exercise are important, but I hav
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by jm__87 1y ago
Another thing I think about a lot is that our own brains and sensory organs change (degrade) over time, so my own subjective experience is probably different in some important ways than it was like 20 years ago. My memory likely isn't
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by jm__87 1y ago
None of us have even experienced the full range of what humans can experience, so even we don't fully know what it is like to be any given person, we only know what it is like to be ourselves. It is kind of amazing when you think about
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by jm__87 1y ago
Yea, I get what you're saying. It is unhelpful when people act as if cutting enough calories and/or increasing exercise enough won't lead to weight loss, because obviously it will. Insufficient motivation is definitely a prob
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by jm__87 1y ago
Genetics obviously doesn't break the laws of physics. You cannot get fat without calories in exceeding calories out. With that said, if dieting means you are ravenously hungry all the time, leaves you feeling overwhelmed with stress or
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by jm__87 2y ago
They still need to send their orders to an exchange, which is often done with FIX protocol over TCP (some exchanges have binary protocols which are faster than FIX, but the ones I'm aware of still use TCP)
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by jm__87 3y ago
Weird to be wondering if men are to blame here when women are typically the ones who have the final say as to when and with whom they decide to settle down and have kids with. Personally I think it is a combination of couples not wanting to
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by jm__87 3y ago
> There is a complete lack of empathy toward those affected by the consequences of hoarding (family etc) > The hoarders I've met tend to be very intelligent and manipulative (and verbally abusive) if they suspect someone is going
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by jm__87 4y ago
> There is a belief that if they are just persistent enough, their target will see their attempts as affection and fall head over heals for them. Depends on the kind of stalker. I think you get these delusional obsessive people, but you
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by jm__87 4y ago
CBT-I worked for me. The key for this to work (as with all CBT) is to actually do the exercises given and not just read it/try to do it in your head. Good luck.
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by jm__87 4y ago
I mean, if you're focused on reading all the terrible things going on in the world all the time, you aren't actually living in reality. You're living in a reality created by journalists whose job is to get you to click on the
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by jm__87 4y ago
Or just continue raising interest rates. At least where I live, the majority of the excess demand during the pandemic came from investors. It was easy to leverage up and buy more houses using home equity loans while interest rates were low
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by jm__87 4y ago
I agree with your last point on growing wealth inequality and lack of upward mobility, but I would say the global financial crisis and pandemic are notable because of the severity and consequences of each event. I don't blame gen Z and
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by jm__87 5y ago
Definitely not the same. I feel when you dream you feel some time has passed. I've lost consciousness a number of times for different reasons and the common feeling is it doesn't feel like any time has passed. One moment I was awa
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by jm__87 5y ago
I am not an expert in philosophy by any stretch so feel free to poke holes in what I'm about to say, but I somewhat agree with the author's points here, assuming we take nihilism to mean "to both believe and feel nothing has
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by jm__87 5y ago
Maybe you are particularly persuasive, but the guys I have known who harassed women would not take anyone seriously if they were told they are being inappropriate. They may stop in that moment but will go right back to it the next day. Base
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by jm__87 5y ago
This isn't really a fair comparison. If someone is doing something blatantly and obviously illegal, then that is different. If I saw a male coworker punch a female coworker in the face, then obviously I am going to do something. I&#x27
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by jm__87 5y ago
Do you believe you have power to change how other women behave towards men? Because I as a guy, have little to no power to change what other guys believe about women or how their beliefs affect their behavior towards women.
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by jm__87 5y ago
I find articles like this annoying but this woman doesn't speak for all women in tech. Presumably some women can relate to her experiences, others can't. Some women will agree with her proposed solutions, others won't. Assumi
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by jm__87 5y ago
Probably a combination of those things + for many, poor lifestyle choices will be an issue
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by jm__87 5y ago
I have a job where I get to do a lot of the requirements in addition to the development and trust me, it is just more work and I am more burnt out for it.
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by jm__87 5y ago
Ha I just added an edit to my comment on that book specifically. It is definitely an interesting book and would agree that the author put forth a lot of evidence for everything he stated. I haven't tried EMDR personally but it is compe
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by jm__87 5y ago
I have read about half the books in the list and this is the only one I have read from that list that didn't really feel like pop science. This is an amazing book and is the only one I am familiar with from that list that I would actua
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by jm__87 5y ago
I think it depends on how you define what an introvert is. By your definition, it is someone who lacks confidence and social skills. I see a lot of people use the word introvert to mean "prefers spending time alone to socializing"
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by jm__87 5y ago
I don't even have a family but I'm currently considering switching to a job that is easier. My current job is interesting and pays well, but is very demanding and stressful. To meet the demands of my job and not burn out requires
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by jm__87 5y ago
Humans are still doing some pretty awful things to each other, I'm not sure our treatment of animals is really near the top of the list. We can obviously do much better with regard to our treatment of animals, but the same can be said
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by jm__87 5y ago
I'm not sure I agree. Any valuation for an asset is going to be expressed in terms of other assets. If lowering interest rates to near zero causes a dramatic rise in prices for a number of assets like we have seen in the past year, thi
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by jm__87 5y ago
I am someone who had suffered with insomnia for decades and mostly resolved it in the past few years. I'm not sure why you think eating in the morning is necessary for getting a good sleep - I rarely eat breakfast and usually sleep gre
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by jm__87 5y ago
Just curious, who or what is encouraging this constant churn of socialization that you are experiencing? I am not aware of this phenomenon

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