antonfire

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by antonfire 1y ago
> Therapy isn't supposed to scale. As I see it "therapy" is already a catch-all terms for many very different things. In my experience, sometimes "it's the relationship that heals", other times it's som
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by antonfire 1y ago
As a fun aside on language, I prefer "they", explicitly, e.g. I pick "they" in pronoun dropdowns, I often wear a "they" pronoun pin, and so on. But insofar as people think in terms of these different versions o
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by antonfire 1y ago
You said "this makes sense", but the rest of your comment is essentially still in disagreement. > A subtler approach that started with "why shouldn't boys wear pink?" and progressed from there would have already
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by antonfire 1y ago
> We could make a lot of progress in trans acceptance very quickly by just reframing the whole thing in these terms. [...] But arguing that males shouldn't need to live up to an artificial and incredibly outdated standard of masculi
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by antonfire 1y ago
Kind of a tangent, but I think the cultural/social side is bigger and messier than your questions suggest, and I think boiling this down to "biological vs cultural" misses that. > If gender is a social construct, is identi
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by antonfire 1y ago
> Some women are tetrachromats with an extra colour sense, while men are more likely to have red/green colour blindness. If I'm not mistaken, red/green color blindness is more common in men because it's caused my a mu
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by antonfire 1y ago
> Perhaps this is an insensitive question/comment, but do trans women feel like they have the wrong body or the wrong wholesale gender? It varies. > In my experience with trans women I know, they still seem to relate primarily to
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by antonfire 3y ago
> But if, instead of extending it, you try to contract it, then without crossing into metaphysics, you'll stop at the brain. Dunno about the other poster, but I can promise you I will not. I think it's kind of a pointless exerc
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by antonfire 3y ago
> But the fact remains that a hand or a heart or a lung can be removed or replaced without loss of self. A brain can't. Here's a related observation that tipped me a bit away from thinking about my body as the meatsack carrying
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by antonfire 3y ago
Throwing blame on "the prevalence of psychotherapy" into this conversation, writing it all off to "pseudo-science" and emphasizing "lifestyle" (as in "if you exercised more you'd be better off",
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by antonfire 4y ago
> It appears this world has become manically trigger-happy to label something as -ist or -istic Also to label something as maniacal, perhaps.
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by antonfire 4y ago
"Women divorce men more often than the other way around; this seems to bear out that men are more dissatisfied in marriage" seems like a stretch to me. At any rate, it reminds me of the classic physics joke: > An experimental p
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by antonfire 4y ago
Leaning into society's stereotypes is one way to bend to people's implicit demands to change your writing (and quite possibly thinking). But sure, if the metric you're optimizing is raw views and smiles and laughs, then proba
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by antonfire 4y ago
> It's a trope to say that our "best minds are working on ads". "The last generation was better because they read _books_ and had _discipline_ and didn't waste their time on frivolous garbage" is also a trop
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by antonfire 5y ago
> This study found that the "marshmallow test"—as a single measure—is no more or less predictive than a basket of other measures of self-control the study tested, or any of those other measures of self-control taken alone. Are
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by antonfire 5y ago
> Buyers clicking on the ad, rather than just stashing the product name, and later buying it offline, or through another channel. I'm not talking about measuring clicks on the ad. I'm talking about either surveying people or ab
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by antonfire 5y ago
A-B testing will tell you whether internet advertising works. Pick an ad. Assign users at random into groups A and B. Show users in group A the ad. Don't show users in group B the ad. Watch and see at what rate users in group A and in
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by antonfire 5y ago
> Naturally, they don't explain all the ways they didn't solve the problem when they finally do solve a problem. I do think something related to this is less obvious than you're suggesting. A proof generally presents a tra
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by antonfire 5y ago
> Advertisers will produce statistics to prove that their kind of marketing "works". But how could one prove such a thing? It would involve peering into people's minds. Or, say, running an A-B test and measuring whether pe
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by antonfire 5y ago
I think a bit of disillusionment with mathematics is healthy, but it's misguided to call this kind of thing "a fundamental flaw in mathematics". For one thing, in my experience, working on real life problems involves a whole
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by antonfire 6y ago
Alright, I'm pretty burned out on this conversation so this is gonna be my last post. It's been distracting me and I want my real life back. I'll just try to wrap up the bits I find interesting. > But if you mean, would I
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by antonfire 6y ago
> Contrapoints is a homophobic monster who supports shaming people with "genital preferences" Jesus, what was the phrase you used? "Straight to ideological slander"? > I'm super behind being sensitive, but if
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by antonfire 6y ago
What set of rules are you actually picturing that you think echelon has that they're not applying to themselves? As far as I can tell, the rules they're suggesting for singular "they" is that "they/them" c
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by antonfire 6y ago
FWIW, I agree with you that "it seems like you dislike trans folk" isn't a good place to go, for a number of reasons. For one, it's a tactical mistake to pull out that kind of accusation if you want someone to listen to
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by antonfire 6y ago
> or a desire to dictate that others have to use certain language. As far as I can tell, the content of your first comment in this thread was > The site is the work of a guy, "him", and "his" work. We don't ha
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by antonfire 6y ago
Oh, also, regarding > What people who harp on pronouns miss is that pronouns are not used to refer to someone's gender but their sex. I can see your sexual characteristics from across the room, and referring to them is a good way to
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by antonfire 6y ago
> What people who harp on pronouns... Mental breakdowns over pronouns... pronoun police To my eyes, in this thread, the person who is harping on pronouns the most, seems to be closest to having a mental breakdown over them, who can most
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by antonfire 6y ago
The grammar of a language isn't about what "makes sense". A particular usage making sense or being reasonable isn't the same thing as that usage being part of a language. If non-homophobic circles of Russian-speakers act
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by antonfire 6y ago
You're literally complaining about having more dropdown menus in your life like it's a big deal. Not a good place to "you're out of touch with the needs of the world" from. While it's true that pronoun usage in
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by antonfire 6y ago
That's for the second person pronoun, which are all gender neutral in Russian, whether they are singular or plural. (Like English.) We're talking here about third person pronouns, and the "the plural is the polite version and

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