annie_muss

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by annie_muss 28d ago
The thought of having kids brings up really complex feelings for me. I feel like the biological clock is ticking louder and louder and yet I barely have a career to speak of. I live with the constant burden of ADHD and have always struggle
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by annie_muss 1y ago
Not great. I've been trying to get into a real "career" track software job for the best part of a decade. I study, work on side projects, got to events regularly. And now the job market is even worse. I'm starting to fee
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by annie_muss 1y ago
There's a lot of advice here about using technical means to block youtube. If that works for you and solves your problem then fantastic. I am genuinely happy for you. However, I suspect it won't. It never worked for me. Firstly, a
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by annie_muss 1y ago
This article really makes sense. I think back on my past and all the evil actions I have taken have all been fed by very low self-worth and insecurity. When you think of yourself as below everyone else, trying to bring them down to your lev
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by annie_muss 1y ago
I have spoken to a few therapists. I usually felt pretty good after speaking to them, maybe for a week or so but slip back into my old habits. Unfortunately, where I live therapy is not covered by health insurance so it's hard to affo
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by annie_muss 1y ago
I think this is a helpful reframing, and I have spent time in my life trying to eliminate any possible issues: Improving nutrition, exercise, socialization etc. But my ability stay focused and work on tasks seems essentially random.
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by annie_muss 1y ago
I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago as an adult. I take medication for it and try my best to apply strategies but it is hard going. I wrote down some simple todos at 9am this morning but it's the end of the day now and I've
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by annie_muss 1y ago
The problem is I know that I am completely addicted, but I cannot stop. I feel like I'm the alcoholic drinking a bottle of vodka a day. I have tried to give up many times but I just can't crack it. Every time I have a good day the
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by annie_muss 1y ago
My worry about any new system, todolist, app etc is that when the initial busy of energy wears off I'll be back to square one. The novelty and energy that I have at the start is impossible to maintain, but I need novelty to engage with
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by annie_muss 1y ago
When I see stories like this I always wonder "How did you get and keep jobs at meta and Pinterest if you have a procrastination problem?" I procrastinated so badly I could never apply for jobs. And the jobs I did get I lost quickl
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by annie_muss 1y ago
Perhaps it's not a success story, but I have a definite improvement story. I find accepting and making peace with my problems (paradoxically) helps improve the problem. I am going through a particularly low dip right now. I haven'
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by annie_muss 1y ago
It's a constant battle and there are no silver bullets. Here are a few things that have helped me: * Eat, sleep and exercise. Have you ever snapped at someone you love because you were really really tired? You have less ability to co
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by annie_muss 1y ago
I don't want an ADHD todo list app. I want something that to help manage my emotions while completing tasks. For me there are three major emotions that get in the way of task completion: excitement, boredom and anxiety. Excitement is u
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by annie_muss 2y ago
I took a properly administered IQ test as part of my ADHD diagnosis. It was eye opening. All through the test I felt like I was crushing it. Spacial reasoning, pattern recognition, memory tasks. When the results came back I got 135 on spa
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Ask HN: How to stop taking on too many projects getting burned out?
9 points by annie_muss 2y ago|23 comments
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by annie_muss 2y ago
I have tried many times to start a blog. I usually manage to eek out one or two articles before getting utterly stuck. I have lots of things I want to write about but I feel completely anxious about putting my ideas out there, even got rela
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by annie_muss 2y ago
Before I was diagnosed my average time keeping a job was something like 6 months. I would get a job, feel elated and enthusiastic about the work. After a few months I would start to struggle, feel too anxious to ask for help, spiral into
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by annie_muss 2y ago
If you have poor impulse control then you are more likely to be involved in crime as well as having intense, chaotic personal relationships. Both are correlated with homicide.
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by annie_muss 2y ago
I was diagnosed in my thirties. I knew something was wrong much earlier but I never had any idea it was ADHD, let alone a diagnosis. Above all: treat him as an individual. There are a lot of stereotypes about ADHD that don’t really match h
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by annie_muss 2y ago
How did you go about finding an ADHD coach?
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by annie_muss 2y ago
To add to this: ask people around you what they think you are good at. Often you will find they mention things you never even thought about. You don't think about it because they are so easy for you that you can't even imagine s
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by annie_muss 2y ago
I'm a similar age. I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. Things got a lot better after my diagnosis. Firstly, work with your health care providers. ADHD medication works well, even though it doesn't really feel like it work
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by annie_muss 2y ago
Emotional control really is the *the* skill. When I was diagnosed with ADHD I learned that emotional disregulation was a part of it. I had spent years trying to work out why everyone was so especially unkind to me. I thought maybe I was au
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Ask HN: Should I disclose my disability when applying for jobs?
23 points by annie_muss 2y ago|12 comments
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by annie_muss 2y ago
Would you say the same thing to someone with schizophrenia to stop hearing voices? Or someone who was suicidal who took drugs for depression? Where do you draw the line? Like it or not, to survive in the modern world you have to be able to
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by annie_muss 2y ago
I was in a similar situation. Couldn't keep a consistent job, couldn't keep a long term relationship. Jumped from one thing to another again and again. Struggled with poor emotional regulation (but hid it very well). I was diagnos
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by annie_muss 2y ago
First of all: It gets better. I have to say that because when you are having career trouble made worse by ADHD it seems like nothing will ever work. It can be a dark and lonely place. Now, onto the advice. When looking for a job, focus on t
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by annie_muss 2y ago
The restrictions on ADHD medicine where I live are incredible. I have to have a special registration card, separate from any other medical insurance or ID. When I get fill the prescription I must present photo ID, can only get a very limit
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by annie_muss 2y ago
I have a huge toolbox of techniques I use to keep on top of my productivity. I think I am an averagely productive person, which is a huge achievement for me as I struggle with ADHD. Having systems for things helps immensely. Use a calendar,
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by annie_muss 3y ago
Lots of good advice in this thread. Get checked out medically. Sleep apnea, ADHD, other things could be causing this. If not, stop looking at productivity blogs and videos! It's simple when you step back and think about it: You had a

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