ac2022

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by ac2022 4y ago
Originally from Pakistan, grew up in Middle East. Of course, my parents wanted me to be a doctor. As a software engineer, I have disappointed them for a life. It doesn’t bother me anymore, they are from different generation where security e
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by ac2022 4y ago
Try Toptal. I applied there for practice and as a backup. It seems they have plenty of projects. Also SaaS like Deel make it easy for employers to hire anyone around the world. The problem is educating the employers. I would perhaps add a b
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by ac2022 4y ago
Yes, it is amazing. They say Heart Rate Variability is pretty good indicator of stress. My HRV graph for last 6 months clearly shows when I made decision to change job and when I gave 2 weeks notice.
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by ac2022 4y ago
Yeah, with recent economic developments, I am a little worried but stock of my previous company is also down. I am hearing rumors of layoffs there. So I could still be laid off even if I had stayed with the big company. A new goal for mysel
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by ac2022 4y ago
I agree in principle but where I worked a lot of it was just for show. We had a lot of security people who only knew how to generate pdfs. They were very hard to work with. Or some day, they will decide that one part of our service should m
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by ac2022 4y ago
True, I have taken break from LeetCode but not for too long. I will probably restart it in couple of weeks. Going forward, I always want to be interview ready.
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by ac2022 4y ago
Sort of, yes. We have signed the contract and should be closing in the fall :) The house is a bit more expensive than I would like but we can afford it. And we could have afford it before too, but I probably subconsciously thought that I do
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by ac2022 4y ago
Thank you and yes we are working on it. BTW I thought about divorce but never said that word to my wife. Those thoughts luckily were very brief.
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by ac2022 4y ago
Thanks, we are. But I highly doubt there are many people who can prevent their internal mental state from affecting their relationships. I was not able to see her point of view when I felt like a loser. Once I decided that I will get a new
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Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite
564 points by ac2022 4y ago|213 comments
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by ac2022 4y ago
> When you yell at your significant other after the work day is done. This is really important. We were fighting over nothing. Switching jobs is cheaper than couples counseling or divorce.
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by ac2022 4y ago
For me it was lack of control that was causing burn out. Exercise definitely improved my mood but it was only for couple of hours. Once I decided that I will switch job, I was 1000x better although I was working longer and harder.
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by ac2022 4y ago
Pretty funny, I was going to order a balance board that I had been eyeing for a bit. Went to Amazon but it was not loading the page correctly, so I went to company's website to look up specs and found out they had 10% off coupon &
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by ac2022 4y ago
5 months ago, I was depressed about my work and feeling like a failure. Both in career and life. I thought I was going through midlife crisis. And my inability to make FAANG money was the cause of my problems. I posted about it here [1]. My
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by ac2022 4y ago
I agree especially with kids. I got kids, I close shop at 4pm. I get kids, go to park, pool, etc. Bring sandwiches or pick up junk food. One kid is baby, so usually drop him at home with mom. Sadly most parents especially dads work late. So
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by ac2022 4y ago
Actually, in certain situations, yes. My running shorts have pockets that barely fit iPhone mini. Yes, I know there are other accessories that I can buy to fit giant phones in but I rather not.
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by ac2022 4y ago
I think this depends on persons internal happiness. Happy people feel happier and sad people get sadder. This is based on my own experiences. In my 20s, I was as happy as one can be. I posted a lot on social media and enjoyed posts of my fr
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by ac2022 4y ago
Sadly, there not many options if you want comfortable life and do good at the same time. My fiends and I really wanted to do good when starting our careers and looked at many non-profits, all of them pay sub-market rates. And then we learne
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by ac2022 5y ago
It is also because devops is shoved down devs throats while claiming that it is easier and better. So now many of developers don’t want to spend time rewriting their code for something that is supposed to reduce their workload not increase
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by ac2022 5y ago
While I am not as successful but I live comfortable life and I feel same way as you. A few weeks ago, I was feeling really low and asked for similar advice. It really helped writing down my thoughts and reading various comments. Since then
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by ac2022 5y ago
GP seems to exhibit lack of social and cultural awareness. Not all but many people on spectrum also lack social and cultural awareness. They have more in common with autistic people than they would like to.
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by ac2022 5y ago
Same here, I personally can move anywhere in the world. But restriction come from wife.
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by ac2022 5y ago
Yeah I am Texas. Before 2021, one could buy a beautiful home with a pool in a top rated school districts for $450K easily. Now same homes are going for $650K+. I personally am not in rush to buy new home but it just made me feel like I didn
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by ac2022 5y ago
Thank you, this is what I decided to pursue. It makes a lot of sense.
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by ac2022 5y ago
Yeah I am exactly at $150K.
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by ac2022 5y ago
First, I want to say thank you to everyone who responded. I really liked what jameshush said about writing down my top values. After some thought, I think my top values are: 1. Kids - I will not do any job or business that will negatively i
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by ac2022 5y ago
This is an excellent choice, my current job is already remote. We are stuck in our current general area due to school for 2 years or so. After 2 years, we can move to country if things don't change.
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by ac2022 5y ago
Oh yes, we are working hard to optimize current space. But I think the real issue is 12 months ago we could have bought any home in any of nice middle class neighborhoods. Now homes are so expensive for us. This made me start comparing my c
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by ac2022 5y ago
I love this. I agree that owning a business that doesn't require too much of your time is better than a business like consulting. This might be something I would do on the side. One of my old manager owned several rental properties, it
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by ac2022 5y ago
Thank you for honest and brutal feedback. > First off, you think you're having a mental health crisis so you're going to HN for advice? I have seen a lot of these posts on HN and gained a lot of value from other people's e

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