Desafinado

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by Desafinado 28d ago
I take it to mean that non-verbal language like either turning toward or turning away indicates whether the person likes you and wants to be in your presence. If you have a signal that you've built rapport don't screw it up by bre
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by Desafinado 4mo ago
FFS, can we just go back to talking to each other in person and driving our own vehicles? Where'd the 90s go?
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by Desafinado 5mo ago
Honest question, does most of Meta's creepiness trickle down directly from Zuckerberg, or is their entire executive also this creepy? Does the executive know better at this point but have toasted the culture and no one can fight agains
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by Desafinado 6mo ago
It's hard to get excited about an organization spending ?? on a pointless mission that's happening because of organizational inertia when kids don't have functional textbooks at school.
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Ask HN: Books on Unit Testing and TDD?
10 points by Desafinado 6mo ago|5 comments
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by Desafinado 7mo ago
Good article. What I've found disappointing as I age is the extent that people I know treat friendship as a zero sum game. I feel like I'm always being looked at in the context of the value I provide, rather than basic camaraderie
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by Desafinado 7mo ago
It goes away over time and with experience. As you become more situated in your current company your confidence will grow and you'll become more productive. 'Are you contributing enough' is a less important question than &#x2
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by Desafinado 7mo ago
They aren't incentivized to become inefficient, but once they grow large enough you get into a situation where everyone is playing a political game to minimize their own risk and effort. And worse, the only people with motivation to fi
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Ask HN: When has someone reached a level of mastery in software?
2 points by Desafinado 8mo ago|1 comments
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
I did the same on my laptop and PC. Unfortunately, my sound system receiver doesn't support Linux but I'll survive. And the speed of my machines more than makes up for it.
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
Deliberately misinforming hundreds of millions of people during the most critical juncture in human history isn't what I'd call disciplined. There are other words for it. But they have made a lot of money, yea.
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
At least they're going to go down on the wrong side of history for the next two millennia. Maybe not worth the extra beach house.
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Mountains of evidence proving causatively social media affects mental health(afterbabel.com)
2 points by Desafinado 8mo ago|1 comments
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
From Jonathan Haidt on social media's impact on mental health: "In the last few years, however, a flood of new research has altered the landscape of the debate, in two ways. First, there is now a lot more work revealing a wide ran
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
I think you're oversimplifying and overgeneralizing. Plenty of people remained lonely back in the day, plenty of people socialize now. It's just that now they have the option to socialize through the internet. Prior to the interne
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
I agree. When I say people lived in close proximity I don't mean 'across the city' or 'the next town over', I mean that traditionally you were actually in the same physical location where socializing required essent
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
There is also the problem of familiarity. It's awkward. Traditionally you'd live around the same people your whole life. Invariably they'd feel like family and it wouldn't feel awkward to get together. But that's no
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
Everyone always gets the causality reversed. Social media didn't cause the epidemic, it filled a niche to help cure the epidemic. People were lonely long before the internet arrived, the internet just made it easier for those lonely pe
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
This is a good way of putting it. And whether someone is happy is indeed personal. For me, company culture has always been a primary concern. Is the company a non-stressful place to work and am I working with grownups. That's a massive
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
I believe most of these people would make the time if they lived close by, but we're all in the season of parenthood where even a little bit of distance makes it hard. And a lot of distance makes it impossible. There's also relati
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
I think this hits the nail on the head and is actually the approach I've taken. Everything is deactivated but I log in from time to time. Maybe it's the best possible approach. There is also the lingering pressure to share but may
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Ask HN: Is there a point to maintaining distant connections on social media?
3 points by Desafinado 8mo ago|6 comments
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
One of the interesting things about how people socialize is that we tend to be less honest with those we're closest to, and more honest with people who have no impact on our bottom line. Counter-intuitively this means we end up hav
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
I converted my Windows PC to Linux Mint and let my kids play GCompris on there, which is an educational, non-addictive game suite. As of now neither of them know that the internet exists, and my wife and I keep them away from screens as muc
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by Desafinado 8mo ago
Having questionable morals seems to help. Ruthlessly pursue profit or promotions and eventually someone, somewhere will sigh and relent. I'm half joking. People with integrity and authenticity are too proud to commit wrongs. People wit
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by Desafinado 9mo ago
I agree that it may not be the main factor but it's definitely a major one. By the numbers wealthy people almost universally own and read more books. For a number of reasons.
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by Desafinado 9mo ago
Yes to all of that. My biggest pet peeve is the Goodreads reading challenge, I cringe at it every year. Imagine that but a 'TV show challenge', it would be absurd. This is the way people think about books. Read what you want, how
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by Desafinado 9mo ago
Not really. You're underestimating how poor many people are. Even transport to a library can be a problem for some. And reading itself is a metabolic activity that takes work. The poor obviously do read, but wealthy people have signifi
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by Desafinado 9mo ago
I did see one a long time ago but there's no way I can find it now. Basically it said that wealthy people read significantly more than poor people. It's not that difficult to understand. For example, my kids go to a low income sch
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by Desafinado 9mo ago
On the money. Recently reading has been branded as a 'pill that's good for you' rather than 'way more interesting than everything on TV' which isn't very encouraging. But let's face it, the reason people a

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