Aella

7 ms·

1.
by Aella 3y ago
You can make arguments about base rates here, but if nothing I think this gives decent data for comparative frequency. As in, it seems unlikely that any one particular fetish is overrepresented compared to others.
2.
by Aella 3y ago
I think it's prob slightly biased towards kinky people, but it wasn't primarily shared across fetlife. Most of the responses came from viral videos of people sharing their results on Tiktok.
3.
by Aella 5y ago
Article author here (also I wrote that article a while ago and I don't remember if it's good or not) In the China example, I'd guess there's other factors. Women do tend to compete and men tend to be choosers in some c
4.
by Aella 5y ago
We haven't exactly been monogamous for thousands of years tho
5.
by Aella 5y ago
There's a looot of assumptions here, but for the record I don't think everybody is a frame controller. I've met maybe 5 clear ones, total in my life?
6.
by Aella 5y ago
Author here - you're right, it is very broad. You might wonder why "if it's so broad, why are you trying to write so strongly about an undefined thing?" And my answer is because there is a real thing with real effects ou
7.
by Aella 5y ago
Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but I believe I provided a list of examples similar to the ones you give here near the beginning of the post clearly labeled "this is not frame control"
8.
by Aella 5y ago
I got into sex work because I was homeschooled in a borderline fundamentalist Christian cult my whole life and expected to become a housewife. My parents made too much money for me to qualify for aid for me to go to college, but refused to
9.
by Aella 5y ago
I likely will never be able to advertise escorting as Aella due to legal risks and due to Onlyfans removing anyone who reveals they're an active escort.
10.
by Aella 5y ago
I appreciate the care here! I do think he very clearly should not have assaulted me, and I also think I made a mistake by not screening him. Both are true! I have no sense of guilt or self-blame around this, I mostly have "Oh, I failed
11.
by Aella 5y ago
Actually none of the zero-condom users reported getting a STD. My theory is that zero-condom users tend to be much more exclusive and to have fewer clients, or to do this closer to part-time?
12.
by Aella 5y ago
ty for the reminder I added it in!
13.
by Aella 5y ago
My experience was not that niche and unique; I tried to consistently show data around how prices might impact your experience. The amount you charge is not correlated with the majority of the questions I asked sex workers.
14.
by Aella 5y ago
My impression that sugar babies don't think of it as sex work is based off reading sugar baby forums, but it's possible that there's different subclusters of sugar babies with different attitudes!
15.
by Aella 5y ago
If someone makes 10x your income, then $1200 is more equivalent to $120, to them.
16.
by Aella 5y ago
Keep in mind my rate was 1200, but $100k was the median reported income for all clients who responded to my survey. I suspect the median income for clients who saw me would be much higher!
17.
by Aella 5y ago
It should be decriminalized , not regulated. I would have liked to have been able to go to the police about the client who assaulted me, but unfortunately this didn't cross my mind as an option.
18.
by Aella 5y ago
Out of my 415 clients from the survey, 6 reported being arrested, 7 physically assaulted, 26 got a STI, and 92 were stolen from.
19.
by Aella 5y ago
I personally am very into crypto, but most of my clients were older and less likely to be crypto users!
20.
by Aella 5y ago
Decriminalization, that's mostly what sex workers want. I'm pretty wary of regulation, which often is done in misguided ways by people out of touch with sex workers' actual needs.