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Having been where you've been, may I suggest that the dealbreaker is that you're treating dating like a World of Warcraft inventory checklist? I wish someone ha
by aegiso 13y ago
Having been where you've been, may I suggest that the dealbreaker is that you're treating dating like a World of Warcraft inventory checklist? I wish someone had told me that when I was saying the same things.
- gargarplex 13y agoOkay, so I definitely treat dating like a WoW inventory checklist... (not sure what the next step is)
- tunesmith 13y agoThere's no secret to it. You just have to doggedly keep at it.
- riffraff 13y agoFWIW, I do think there are similarities between dating and RPGs that I wish I had understood before * you can improve your character: confidence is important, if you feel ugly sometimes you can do stuff about it (i.e. go to gym). Ditto if you are a boring talker, or if you are a poor listener. * grind. If you are, like I was, a guy that has a couple hours on a weekend to meet a new possible date it's hard to find the "right" one. Try to increase the chances (go out more, frequent new places) and do try more.
- gargarplex 13y agoThis is fair enough and true. Back when I was in my early twenties and late teens I used to grind all the time (going out to bars and talking to women). And although I experienced more than my fair share of rejection/disinterest, I achieved plenty of success and abundance. These days I am just lazily sending out messages on OKCupid. And when I do go out to bars, I almost never approach. So the "grind" reminder is totally fair.