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So what's a good solution to shortening the time it takes to meet one's fiancée?

by breakupapp 13y ago

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Mz 13y ago
Possibly not clubbing to begin with. That does not usually lead to marriage.
saraid216 13y ago
Do things. Do things that bring you into contact with other people: namely, working with colleagues, rather than customers. (So a soup kitchen counts, but being a solo consultant doesn't.) When they invite you out for doing stuff, join in. You can back out the second time if you don't enjoy it. Get to know as many of them as you can. Share your interests; listen to theirs. You'll run into someone interested in you soon enough.
- breakupapp 13y ago
  thanks!
- simonh 13y ago
  +1 Take a community college course in something that you enjoy like history or calligraphy, if it's good enough for Steve Jobs it's good enough for you. Join a local theatre company, even if it's just painting scenery and doing scene changes. Take a fitness course at a local gym. Learn Tai Chi. If you're in the US go backpacking round Mayan ruins in Mexico. If you're into a hobby already, become active in it. If you play roleplaying games, volunteer to help run a convention. At least you'll have something to talk to people about.
greenlander 13y ago
99% of mainstream dating advice is hogwash. Learn the truth about women. Start reading: http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ http://heartiste.wordpress.com/ http://heartiste.wordpress.com/ The best dating advice is concentrated on men who are players or aspire to be. But the skills to seduce a fling and a future wife are very similar. If you want to catch a great woman, you must have the skills to catch any woman.
- Mz 13y ago
  That second site looks like manipulative bullshit to me.
  - rikthevik 13y ago
    That's because it _is_ manipulative bullshit! Heartiste is famous for spouting misogynistic garbage. Pretty terrible stuff.
- taurath 13y ago
  The above advice is probably really good if you think of women as objects.
  - sigkill 13y ago
    If you can have a Class of Human, I don't see the problem having women AND men as objects.
    - Joeri 13y ago
      The problem is that it doesn't have a point to it. If you don't treat people like people, instead of puppets, there's very little point to interacting with them. Even if you could "catch any woman", what would you do with her when the superficial fun wears off?
      - sigkill 13y ago
        Obviously I wholeheartedly agree with you. I was just trying to make a relevant joke. On a more serious note, people who treat others (be it men or women) as objects/puppets are themselves devoid of any deeper intelligence. I will go so far to generalize and say that they are pretty shallow morally, and a lot of times, intellectually (not quite, but I don't know a better word).
- andyking 13y ago
  To "catch" a woman? Stick to fishing... it's not 1973 anymore!
kayoone 13y ago
Dont try too hard.
jjuliano 13y ago
I guess to be sincere, be kind, be supportive and always be prepared to listen, treat love given to you as rare, so don't spoil and throw it away. Be there for her. That's just my solution though I haven't met mine.
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bliker 13y ago
I am pretty sure this http://www.artofmanliness.com/ http://www.artofmanliness.com/ helped me a lot. Not thought dating advice but by helping me to become a better man. I know it sound cheezy, but really you don't really want to trick anyone into marriage.

So what's a good solution to shortening the time it takes to meet one's fiancée?

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Mz 13y ago

Possibly not clubbing to begin with. That does not usually lead to marriage.

saraid216 13y ago

Do things. Do things that bring you into contact with other people: namely, working with colleagues, rather than customers. (So a soup kitchen counts, but being a solo consultant doesn't.) When they invite you out for doing stuff, join in. You can back out the second time if you don't enjoy it. Get to know as many of them as you can. Share your interests; listen to theirs. You'll run into someone interested in you soon enough.

breakupapp 13y ago
thanks!
simonh 13y ago
+1 Take a community college course in something that you enjoy like history or calligraphy, if it's good enough for Steve Jobs it's good enough for you. Join a local theatre company, even if it's just painting scenery and doing scene changes. Take a fitness course at a local gym. Learn Tai Chi. If you're in the US go backpacking round Mayan ruins in Mexico. If you're into a hobby already, become active in it. If you play roleplaying games, volunteer to help run a convention. At least you'll have something to talk to people about.

greenlander 13y ago

99% of mainstream dating advice is hogwash. Learn the truth about women. Start reading: http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ http://heartiste.wordpress.com/ http://heartiste.wordpress.com/ The best dating advice is concentrated on men who are players or aspire to be. But the skills to seduce a fling and a future wife are very similar. If you want to catch a great woman, you must have the skills to catch any woman.

Mz 13y ago
That second site looks like manipulative bullshit to me.
- rikthevik 13y ago
  That's because it _is_ manipulative bullshit! Heartiste is famous for spouting misogynistic garbage. Pretty terrible stuff.
taurath 13y ago
The above advice is probably really good if you think of women as objects.
- sigkill 13y ago
  If you can have a Class of Human, I don't see the problem having women AND men as objects.
  - Joeri 13y ago
    The problem is that it doesn't have a point to it. If you don't treat people like people, instead of puppets, there's very little point to interacting with them. Even if you could "catch any woman", what would you do with her when the superficial fun wears off?
    - sigkill 13y ago
      Obviously I wholeheartedly agree with you. I was just trying to make a relevant joke. On a more serious note, people who treat others (be it men or women) as objects/puppets are themselves devoid of any deeper intelligence. I will go so far to generalize and say that they are pretty shallow morally, and a lot of times, intellectually (not quite, but I don't know a better word).
andyking 13y ago
To "catch" a woman? Stick to fishing... it's not 1973 anymore!

kayoone 13y ago

Dont try too hard.

jjuliano 13y ago

I guess to be sincere, be kind, be supportive and always be prepared to listen, treat love given to you as rare, so don't spoil and throw it away. Be there for her. That's just my solution though I haven't met mine.

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bliker 13y ago

I am pretty sure this http://www.artofmanliness.com/ http://www.artofmanliness.com/ helped me a lot. Not thought dating advice but by helping me to become a better man. I know it sound cheezy, but really you don't really want to trick anyone into marriage.