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The damage is already done for most people who already use it. Whenever I go to a restaurant and see friends, families, and couples together, I feel sad that in
by Vishal_Max 9d ago
The damage is already done for most people who already use it. Whenever I go to a restaurant and see friends, families, and couples together, I feel sad that instead of talking to each other, they’re all watching TikToks or reels. On a bus or train, barely one or two people are actually doing something other than watching something online.
At least, hopefully, this rule helps future generations. People’s brains are so addicted that they can’t even focus for 10 minutes straight. On top of that, I see moms giving their toddlers mobile phones while they eat or whenever they need to get something done. People should really start considering how social media affects us in the long term.
- f6v 9d ago> On a bus or train, barely one or two people are actually doing something other than watching something online. I mean, what else should I be doing? Self-analyzing and staring in the window?
- cryptoz 9d agoI treasure my memories of being on subways and busses and getting lost in thought while staring out the windows, yeah. I mean, people have done this for basically all of human history (okay walking or something, not on a train, but, yeah). It's not a bad thing to have some time with just your senses existing in the world.
- greggsy 9d agoLet people enjoy things.
- amunozo 9d agoDo you really enjoy doom scrolling? Because I don't, it is just addictive and makes me feel tired and sad most of the times, with infrequent sparks of joy.
- edu 9d agoThe problem with being always online is not “not-enjoying” but stopping to think. People are getting used to be feed what they need to think constantly (from politics to product reviews) and then their critical thinking skills atrophy. Moreover, I’m not sure if being on social media is something “enjoyable” anymore, and it’s more like smoking tobacco where it becomes necessary but is not enjoyed.
- marcelo-earth 9d agoI mean, you're right. When I travel, I rarely use my phone or listen to music because everything is about discovering new things, and I love it But when I'm home, on my way from home to the gym, I take the same route every day, and it can get boring sometimes I'm also terrible at keeping my phone charged, so sometimes I end up alone with my thoughts anyway
- yoz-y 9d agoReading and conversing with a stranger? Maybe not every time but at least once in a while?
- pasc1878 9d agoI read but on my phone or ebook reader and have done so for nearly 20 years. Especially since mass market paperbacks were replaced by larger ones that do not fit in my pocket or bookshelves. I am in England – It is considered very odd to talk to strangers on a train or bus
- irjoe 8d agoI would say it's pretty common to talk to strangers on the train in England. I could just be the "Northerner terrifying Londoners by saying Hello" though. I do know not to start a conversation with a stranger on the tube.
- BoxOfRain 8d agoI think it depends on the train journey personally. I'd never dream of striking up a conversation on the Tube or a busy commuter line; personally I'm the definition of 'not a morning person' so I've no social battery to spare in those circumstances. On the other hand I quite like a chat when I'm not in a hurry or it's not the morning, makes the time go faster. Mind you most of the talk seems to be along the lines of 'GWR couldn't organise a piss-up in a brewery' these days.
- dotcoma 9d agoThinking. Taking notes, ideally on a piece of paper. Relaxing. Talking to strangers. And yes, self-analysing. Staring in the window, maybe not so much.
- deathlock 9d agoRead, knitting/crochet, sleep, listen to music, play games (eg. emulator + pokemon games), study, read a newspaper, do crosswords, play chess online, watch a movie, listen to a podcast, learn a language, talk to other non-scrolling people, and yes, you can also stare outside, daydream or self-analyze, or even do nothing. Just a few decades ago we had a lot of dead times, it's not that crazy to pass an hour without having anything to do.
- account42 9d agoA lot of those suggestions mean staring at a phone or smilar device and a bystander like ggp might not be able to tell them apart from looking at social media.
- f6v 8d agoIf only there was a device I could use to play games and listen to music at the same time.
- unrented7977 8d agoComments like this always ignore the fact that in the olden days before phones, a majority of people read newspapers or books and busybody news columnists bemoaned how everyone was lost in their media instead of socializing. Literally nothing has changed in the past century other than the variety of idle tasks one can keep in their pocket. People chose to not engage then exactly the same as they do now.
- itake 9d agoits ok to just be bored. that was life in the 90s for me
- jareklupinski 8d ago> Self-analyzing and staring in the window you say this like it's a negative thing :( have you tried it?
- f6v 8d agoIt just gets me how some people are telling me what to do in my free time in such a condescending way.
- RankingMember 8d agoSocial media companies are also telling you what to do in your free time- they're just doing it in a much more subtle, pernicious way that goes straight to our dopamine pathways.
- greggsy 9d agoBelieve it or not many people actually read news and books on their phones. I think there a lot of survivorship bias in this observation, where the thing you’re most likely to see people watching is the thing that’s most flashy.
- account42 9d agoYes and public transport isn't exactly a great environment for interacting with your friends - either its already loud or you're going to annoy other passengers.
- MarceliusK 8d agoA phone is a pretty bad proxy for what someone is actually doing with their attention
- wand3r 8d agoI kind of agree, but I will push back just to work through my conflicted feelings. In America 50% of people basically can't read. I think the official stat is 48% read at or BELOW a 6th grade level. The average American reads 0 books a year, shamefully myself included. Especially post covid, there is a serious degradation in social skills and using a phone instantly makes people more comfortable and less likely to socialize. The mobile gaming industry is 148B this year. All that is to say, I don't think this forum is indicative of wider behavior AND smart people definitely inflate the value of "work" and "productivity" they do on their phone. We will never know unless we get Apple data, but I suspect a phone might be like 90% entertainment and 5% communication for most people. Maybe 5% is semi-productive work email, reading an article, etc. I guess I am not sure if it matters where their attention goes. Although, it might be a bit of selective memory in how social people were before phones.
- LoganDark 9d agoDo people really ignore family and do completely separate things on their devices right next to each other?? Usually when I'm next to someone, I'm using my device to look up things related to the conversation, just like how I'd use a search engine during an internet discussion. I can't imagine just sitting around watching shorts right next to someone during a family gathering.
- xnorswap 9d agoThere isn't any need to "look things up related to the conversation", and if that is seen as acceptable then that itself is a sign of how things have changed, and how addicted we all are to information.
- LoganDark 9d agoI dunno, to me it feels kind of like pulling a book off the shelf to double-check something from there. It's just, you know, digital instead. It's definitely something that's been acceptable to some kinds of people even before devices, but of course it's not for everybody. Some people prefer to say "I'm not sure", leave the conversation, and then come back later (or not) after they've studied up. Some people prefer not to have their conversational partners dwelling on details by digging into books during conversation. I personally like to get to the bottom of details on the spot, but that's probably my ADHD. (potentially also other things too)
- martin- 8d agoInstead of spending 45 minuter discussing back and forth whether Tim Burton is still alive, we can take five seconds to look it up, and then move on to more interesting topics.
- vlod 8d agoDiscussing back and forth whether Tim Burton is still alive is a rabbit hole worth exploring. Not sure what would be more interesting than that.
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- HNIsAds 8d agoPeople assume I’m on TikTok but I’m working. Dozens of client updates per day plus back and forth
- stronglikedan 8d ago> instead of talking to each other, they’re all watching TikToks or reels. There's only so much to talk about, and if they're doing that, they've probably already said all there is to say. I'm glad we have something to do now besides make awkward trivial banter or sit in awkward silence.