7 ms·

I didn't imply that you were being insincere... re: the greeting, I think introverts around the world do not necessarily appreciate being randomly greeted by s

by jaen 1mo ago

I didn't imply that you were being insincere... re: the greeting, I think introverts around the world do not necessarily appreciate being randomly greeted by strangers, they just get used to it if the culture is like that. From that perspective, I don't think just a random greeting from a stranger always makes people feel more warm and the days more bearable either. It's more of a correlation rather than causation. People have different personalities and different associations.

someoneeestis 1mo ago
Totally agree with you, introverts everywhere will frown upon that. But there's a inherent difference between the "general" aspects of the culture and friendliness of every country. I was just highlighting a general aspect of Estonian culture. I've also had amazing and unforgettable memories in Estonia with people who I never saw again in my life. It's just harder in here. As for correlation, a single stranger certainly not. But I have lost count of how many Estonians visited UK/Ireland/Spain and came back telling me they were so happy about being an "amigo" or at having incredible customer service that didn't make them feel unwelcome like a chore. It does matter.
notahacker 1mo ago
> re: the greeting, I think introverts around the world do not necessarily appreciate being randomly greeted by strangers, they just get used to it if the culture is like that the flip side is that extroverts around the world don't necessarily like everyone giving the impression that their existence is an inconvenience, they just get used to it if the culture implies that seeking interaction with people they don't have a close interaction with is rude or suspicious behaviour... (as for Estonia it may have assimilated Russian smile-aversion as well as being nearly as culturally introverted as Finland)
- someoneeestis 1mo ago
  > re: the flip side is that extroverts around the world don't necessarily like everyone giving the impression that their existence is an inconvenience. I couldn't have said it better and I'm stealing this from ya. Beautifully said.
java-man 1mo ago
how can you tell a Finnish extrovert? he looks at YOUR boots! as an introvert, I like this discussion.
- Saline9515 1mo ago
  Finnish people are actually quite warm and welcoming. I know that they like to say that they are introverts, but each time I spend time there I find it very easy to engage, and always have people talking to me (even if it is to warn me of something that I did wrong!).

by jaen 1mo ago

someoneeestis 1mo ago

Totally agree with you, introverts everywhere will frown upon that. But there's a inherent difference between the "general" aspects of the culture and friendliness of every country. I was just highlighting a general aspect of Estonian culture. I've also had amazing and unforgettable memories in Estonia with people who I never saw again in my life. It's just harder in here. As for correlation, a single stranger certainly not. But I have lost count of how many Estonians visited UK/Ireland/Spain and came back telling me they were so happy about being an "amigo" or at having incredible customer service that didn't make them feel unwelcome like a chore. It does matter.

notahacker 1mo ago

> re: the greeting, I think introverts around the world do not necessarily appreciate being randomly greeted by strangers, they just get used to it if the culture is like that the flip side is that extroverts around the world don't necessarily like everyone giving the impression that their existence is an inconvenience, they just get used to it if the culture implies that seeking interaction with people they don't have a close interaction with is rude or suspicious behaviour... (as for Estonia it may have assimilated Russian smile-aversion as well as being nearly as culturally introverted as Finland)

someoneeestis 1mo ago
> re: the flip side is that extroverts around the world don't necessarily like everyone giving the impression that their existence is an inconvenience. I couldn't have said it better and I'm stealing this from ya. Beautifully said.

java-man 1mo ago

how can you tell a Finnish extrovert? he looks at YOUR boots! as an introvert, I like this discussion.

Saline9515 1mo ago
Finnish people are actually quite warm and welcoming. I know that they like to say that they are introverts, but each time I spend time there I find it very easy to engage, and always have people talking to me (even if it is to warn me of something that I did wrong!).