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Study finds you enjoy doing things you like. If there's something you particularly like, you seem to enjoy it even more. If you are missing on some form of ple

Study finds you enjoy doing things you like. If there's something you particularly like, you seem to enjoy it even more. If you are missing on some form of pleasure in your life, substituting it for another pleasure can help alleviate the pain. Woah.

wobfan 1y ago
The study also explains that one feels less lonely when listening to their favourite music, which is kinda new to me. I mean, feeling better makes sense and is quite obvious, as you sarcastically say, but I wouldn't think that listening to music makes one feel less alone.
- jack_pp 1y ago
  Depends, if you listen to Emo/sad/heartbreak songs you will probably feel much more lonely.
  - odyssey7 1y ago
    The cause or the effect? I would actually guess no for the effect, since music preferences are associated with community membership.
  - clcaev 1y ago
    I wouldn't assume that sad songs make you more lonely. For someone dealing with grief, it may act as drug-free therapy. Perhaps deepened sorrow at first, but when one deals with grief, mental state and behavior can improve.
    - zdragnar 1y ago
      Unstructured therapy is exactly as effective as it sounds. You're just as likely to process the emotion as you are to enable and reinforce it. Taken too far, wallowing in the pain becomes a perverse pleasure in itself, a bit like cutting or other self harm.
  - basisword 1y ago
    I think it's the opposite. Those songs are good because you find someone can relate to you and therefore you would feel less lonely. Maybe not less sad, but more connected.
  - InsideOutSanta 1y ago
    When I work from home, I usually listen to Sade, Brandy, Monica, Faith Evans, and similar music. Although the music is often about heartbreak, it doesn't make me sad. I find it calming.
  - jjulius 1y ago
    I listen to sad songs with great regularity and jam the hell out to the sheer musicianship within, actually.
metalman 1y ago
:) pleasure is the gateway experience into enjoying yourself
neuroticnews25 1y ago
I wonder if it may be beneficial even if you're not naturally willing to do it, similar to how introverts feel better after acting extroverted [0] [1] [0] https://archive.is/Ipdxc https://archive.is/Ipdxc [1] https://online.ucpress.edu/collabra/article/7/1/29931/119109/Enacted-Extraversion-as-a-Well-Being-Enhancing https://online.ucpress.edu/collabra/article/7/1/29931/119109...
RajT88 1y ago
I used to live near a nice downtown with a riverwalk. I liked to take my guitar and go play under the bridge at night. The bridge was concrete and the reverb was crazy good. (Does that make me a troll? A troll posting on the internet??) I found it terribly soothing. Sometimes I'd bring a friend with and we'd play together.
- bluGill 1y ago
  I assume you listened for kids walking over the bridge and then jumped up "Who is trip tropping over my bridge". One of my favorite actives, and done right the kids laugh (don't get too close or do anything else that would make the kids scared!)
  - RajT88 1y ago
    This was Naperville, IL. So that kind of behavior is very risky. You could get sued for 10 million dollars. Or these days, deported to Aurora.
- seplox 1y ago
  You just reminded me of one of my favorite Tony Joe White songs, so thanks! Tony Joe White - Even Trolls Love Rock and Roll https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fJMNJTEhuw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fJMNJTEhuw

wobfan 1y ago

The study also explains that one feels less lonely when listening to their favourite music, which is kinda new to me. I mean, feeling better makes sense and is quite obvious, as you sarcastically say, but I wouldn't think that listening to music makes one feel less alone.

jack_pp 1y ago
Depends, if you listen to Emo/sad/heartbreak songs you will probably feel much more lonely.
- odyssey7 1y ago
  The cause or the effect? I would actually guess no for the effect, since music preferences are associated with community membership.
- clcaev 1y ago
  I wouldn't assume that sad songs make you more lonely. For someone dealing with grief, it may act as drug-free therapy. Perhaps deepened sorrow at first, but when one deals with grief, mental state and behavior can improve.
  - zdragnar 1y ago
    Unstructured therapy is exactly as effective as it sounds. You're just as likely to process the emotion as you are to enable and reinforce it. Taken too far, wallowing in the pain becomes a perverse pleasure in itself, a bit like cutting or other self harm.
- basisword 1y ago
  I think it's the opposite. Those songs are good because you find someone can relate to you and therefore you would feel less lonely. Maybe not less sad, but more connected.
- InsideOutSanta 1y ago
  When I work from home, I usually listen to Sade, Brandy, Monica, Faith Evans, and similar music. Although the music is often about heartbreak, it doesn't make me sad. I find it calming.
- jjulius 1y ago
  I listen to sad songs with great regularity and jam the hell out to the sheer musicianship within, actually.

metalman 1y ago

:) pleasure is the gateway experience into enjoying yourself

neuroticnews25 1y ago

I wonder if it may be beneficial even if you're not naturally willing to do it, similar to how introverts feel better after acting extroverted [0] [1] [0] https://archive.is/Ipdxc https://archive.is/Ipdxc [1] https://online.ucpress.edu/collabra/article/7/1/29931/119109/Enacted-Extraversion-as-a-Well-Being-Enhancing https://online.ucpress.edu/collabra/article/7/1/29931/119109...

RajT88 1y ago

I used to live near a nice downtown with a riverwalk. I liked to take my guitar and go play under the bridge at night. The bridge was concrete and the reverb was crazy good. (Does that make me a troll? A troll posting on the internet??) I found it terribly soothing. Sometimes I'd bring a friend with and we'd play together.

bluGill 1y ago
I assume you listened for kids walking over the bridge and then jumped up "Who is trip tropping over my bridge". One of my favorite actives, and done right the kids laugh (don't get too close or do anything else that would make the kids scared!)
- RajT88 1y ago
  This was Naperville, IL. So that kind of behavior is very risky. You could get sued for 10 million dollars. Or these days, deported to Aurora.
seplox 1y ago
You just reminded me of one of my favorite Tony Joe White songs, so thanks! Tony Joe White - Even Trolls Love Rock and Roll https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fJMNJTEhuw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fJMNJTEhuw