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> the additional toll it will take on the creators in terms of social ostracism, future prospects, future opportunities, and mental health. Is it such a big pr

> the additional toll it will take on the creators in terms of social ostracism, future prospects, future opportunities, and mental health. Is it such a big problem nowadays as it used to be? My impression is that society in general, and younger people in particular, have become more tolerant of such things; at least in Northern Europe.

I-M-S 2y ago
In fact, it might be a great way to filter out narrow minded people / organizations you don't want to deal with anyway
fleischhauf 2y ago
that's the thing, the more people do it the more it gets accepted. the same is happening with drugs for example.
- prmoustache 2y ago
  And the more it is diluted by the sheer number of people involved in it.
- lotsofpulp 2y ago
  All the data I keep seeing suggests drug use (including alcohol) is on the decline. https://nida.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/2023/12/reported-drug-use-among-adolescents-continued-to-hold-below-pre-pandemic-levels-in-2023 https://nida.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/2023/12/repor...
  - standardUser 2y ago
    That's only young people.
- random9749832 2y ago
  It is worse here because it is competitive as well. People get incentivised to do things they normally wouldn't in order to please whatever algorithm is driving the content on the site. A race to the bottom.
brightball 2y ago
I see discussions on Reddit periodically where it makes long term relationships complicated. I’m an old married guy, but I can’t imagine dating and then finding out that the person you were involved with was doing that type of thing. In a friend group I wouldn’t even blink. Based on the conversations I see, this seems to be a common experience.
- Rhapso 2y ago
  Welcome to millennial reality, we don't begrudge anything non-harmful that people had to do to make ends meet. I know too many people with masters degrees and student loans working food service to not think OF is smart if you can find your niche.
  - 1980phipsi 2y ago
    You're speaking for all millennials?
  - acdha 2y ago
    There are plenty of millennials who have conservative views about something, and don’t forget that the damage is done regardless of the motivation. From the perspective of the victim, it doesn’t matter whether the person who just sent their boss the link to their OF is a zealous right-wing Christian or an incel bitter about being turned down. Millennials are more accepting about sexuality on average but a double digit percentage of that large a cohort is millions of people.
    - bluGill 2y ago
      I doubt any boss would open an onlyfans link and if they tried I'd expect the company firewall would block it. I could imangine a boss getting links to those videos on some other site that looks innocent [perhaps at home] but the boss is unlikely to do anything as those are what you do in private. The only exception would be if you work for a church where such is not allowed - and even then if it is a much younger you, you can rebent of your past sins. the above is about work. If you were trying to marry the guy (who presumably isn't your boss as an ethics) it would be different some guys would not accebt that.
standardUser 2y ago
What toll exactly do you expect people to have to pay? I've been naked on the internet for money. That content is still there. It has not impacted me adversely in any way, nor has it had a negative impact on the many women I know who have created adult content. If anything, for me it has been fun and liberating. I think you're just projecting.
- nobody9999 2y ago
  >What toll exactly do you expect people to have to pay? That depends. Ask Erick Adame[0] about the toll being outed took on his life. [0] https://www.advocate.com/media/erick-adame-weatherman-webcam-ny1 https://www.advocate.com/media/erick-adame-weatherman-webcam...
- matrix87 2y ago
  Some jobs have more of those expectations. If you don't have to worry about them that just reflects your own advantageous position
  - standardUser 2y ago
    That seems like a false claim - that "advantageous" jobs are less likely to care. I'd argue people seeking high-visibility, high-prestige jobs are more at risk from backlash about having made porn. But thanks for playing.
    - matrix87 2y ago
      Well there is some wiggle room here, public school teachers have more of these types of expectations than software engineers. It isn't just high-visibility jobs
random9749832 2y ago
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I-M-S 2y ago

In fact, it might be a great way to filter out narrow minded people / organizations you don't want to deal with anyway

fleischhauf 2y ago

that's the thing, the more people do it the more it gets accepted. the same is happening with drugs for example.

prmoustache 2y ago
And the more it is diluted by the sheer number of people involved in it.
lotsofpulp 2y ago
All the data I keep seeing suggests drug use (including alcohol) is on the decline. https://nida.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/2023/12/reported-drug-use-among-adolescents-continued-to-hold-below-pre-pandemic-levels-in-2023 https://nida.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/2023/12/repor...
- standardUser 2y ago
  That's only young people.
random9749832 2y ago
It is worse here because it is competitive as well. People get incentivised to do things they normally wouldn't in order to please whatever algorithm is driving the content on the site. A race to the bottom.

brightball 2y ago

I see discussions on Reddit periodically where it makes long term relationships complicated. I’m an old married guy, but I can’t imagine dating and then finding out that the person you were involved with was doing that type of thing. In a friend group I wouldn’t even blink. Based on the conversations I see, this seems to be a common experience.

Rhapso 2y ago
Welcome to millennial reality, we don't begrudge anything non-harmful that people had to do to make ends meet. I know too many people with masters degrees and student loans working food service to not think OF is smart if you can find your niche.
- 1980phipsi 2y ago
  You're speaking for all millennials?
- acdha 2y ago
  There are plenty of millennials who have conservative views about something, and don’t forget that the damage is done regardless of the motivation. From the perspective of the victim, it doesn’t matter whether the person who just sent their boss the link to their OF is a zealous right-wing Christian or an incel bitter about being turned down. Millennials are more accepting about sexuality on average but a double digit percentage of that large a cohort is millions of people.
  - bluGill 2y ago
    I doubt any boss would open an onlyfans link and if they tried I'd expect the company firewall would block it. I could imangine a boss getting links to those videos on some other site that looks innocent [perhaps at home] but the boss is unlikely to do anything as those are what you do in private. The only exception would be if you work for a church where such is not allowed - and even then if it is a much younger you, you can rebent of your past sins. the above is about work. If you were trying to marry the guy (who presumably isn't your boss as an ethics) it would be different some guys would not accebt that.

standardUser 2y ago

What toll exactly do you expect people to have to pay? I've been naked on the internet for money. That content is still there. It has not impacted me adversely in any way, nor has it had a negative impact on the many women I know who have created adult content. If anything, for me it has been fun and liberating. I think you're just projecting.

nobody9999 2y ago
>What toll exactly do you expect people to have to pay? That depends. Ask Erick Adame[0] about the toll being outed took on his life. [0] https://www.advocate.com/media/erick-adame-weatherman-webcam-ny1 https://www.advocate.com/media/erick-adame-weatherman-webcam...
matrix87 2y ago
Some jobs have more of those expectations. If you don't have to worry about them that just reflects your own advantageous position
- standardUser 2y ago
  That seems like a false claim - that "advantageous" jobs are less likely to care. I'd argue people seeking high-visibility, high-prestige jobs are more at risk from backlash about having made porn. But thanks for playing.
  - matrix87 2y ago
    Well there is some wiggle room here, public school teachers have more of these types of expectations than software engineers. It isn't just high-visibility jobs

random9749832 2y ago

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