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Social customs surrounding sex inside marriage, or even sex inside a relationship have changed over time. Successful men have sexual access to more than one wom

Social customs surrounding sex inside marriage, or even sex inside a relationship have changed over time. Successful men have sexual access to more than one woman (If that's what they want). Sure, eventually people settle down and pair off, but before that happens the market is completely different.

stavros 3y ago
I really doubt that a small group of men now hoards 70% of the women.
- livinginfear 3y ago
  No one hoards women. If the top 10% of men had sexual access to more than one woman at a time, without committing to any of them in a monogamous relationship, that alone would be enough to change the dating landscape significantly. Assuming that the women involved weren't in a different relationship at the time.
  - stavros 3y ago
    Exactly, you're assuming that the man "had sexual access to more than one woman at a time", whereas the women were exclusive to that man. That's basically the definition of hoarding.
    - earlone 3y ago
      what makes you think that "women were exclusive to that man" ?
      - stavros 3y ago
        Because if they aren't, we're back to one woman per man...
        earlone 3y ago
        No, look China for example. Many single men, because women know what they want.
        stavros 3y ago
        Is "what they want" the one-child policy?
        earlone 3y ago
        Not really
- earlone 3y ago
  The 3rd graph of the article talks by itself...
  - stavros 3y ago
    People not going on dates?
    - earlone 3y ago
      Yes, plus the 5% getting 10+ dates per year
      - stavros 3y ago
        That graph doesn't say first dates. It's just people dating the same person a lot. Even if it was first dates, that doesn't mean much. I'd advise you to think about what these things mean, rather than draw wrong conclusions from propaganda.
        earlone 3y ago
        I'd prefer that you keep your advices for yourself. It seems the american "date" has a different cultural meaning than in other parts of the world where it doesn't exist as such. If you go to Europe and say you "date" 10+ times the same person in a year, you'd be considered as someone desperate. Dating in Europe just refers to the first encounter.
        watwut 3y ago
        > If you go to Europe and say you "date" 10+ times the same person in a year, you'd be considered as someone desperate. Dating in Europe just refers to the first encounter. That is not true. In various European languages, the local equivalent of the word date includes settled couples going out together. If you go on date 10 times with the same person, you are considered to be in the beginning stage of the relationship. 10 dates with the same person with frequency of 3 dates a week is three weeks of knowing each other. That is not deep into the relationship yet anyway, it is beginning stage of a romance. Assuming you are looking for a stable relationship rather then hook up.

stavros 3y ago

I really doubt that a small group of men now hoards 70% of the women.

livinginfear 3y ago
No one hoards women. If the top 10% of men had sexual access to more than one woman at a time, without committing to any of them in a monogamous relationship, that alone would be enough to change the dating landscape significantly. Assuming that the women involved weren't in a different relationship at the time.
- stavros 3y ago
  Exactly, you're assuming that the man "had sexual access to more than one woman at a time", whereas the women were exclusive to that man. That's basically the definition of hoarding.
  - earlone 3y ago
    what makes you think that "women were exclusive to that man" ?
    - stavros 3y ago
      Because if they aren't, we're back to one woman per man...
      - earlone 3y ago
        No, look China for example. Many single men, because women know what they want.
        stavros 3y ago
        Is "what they want" the one-child policy?
        earlone 3y ago
        Not really
earlone 3y ago
The 3rd graph of the article talks by itself...
- stavros 3y ago
  People not going on dates?
  - earlone 3y ago
    Yes, plus the 5% getting 10+ dates per year
    - stavros 3y ago
      That graph doesn't say first dates. It's just people dating the same person a lot. Even if it was first dates, that doesn't mean much. I'd advise you to think about what these things mean, rather than draw wrong conclusions from propaganda.
      - earlone 3y ago
        I'd prefer that you keep your advices for yourself. It seems the american "date" has a different cultural meaning than in other parts of the world where it doesn't exist as such. If you go to Europe and say you "date" 10+ times the same person in a year, you'd be considered as someone desperate. Dating in Europe just refers to the first encounter.
        watwut 3y ago
        > If you go to Europe and say you "date" 10+ times the same person in a year, you'd be considered as someone desperate. Dating in Europe just refers to the first encounter. That is not true. In various European languages, the local equivalent of the word date includes settled couples going out together. If you go on date 10 times with the same person, you are considered to be in the beginning stage of the relationship. 10 dates with the same person with frequency of 3 dates a week is three weeks of knowing each other. That is not deep into the relationship yet anyway, it is beginning stage of a romance. Assuming you are looking for a stable relationship rather then hook up.