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Can you say more about not being allowed on the internet? Why and how you think it affected you? It’s hard for me to fathom someone at age 12 in 2015 with a so

Can you say more about not being allowed on the internet? Why and how you think it affected you? It’s hard for me to fathom someone at age 12 in 2015 with a somewhat cosmopolitan background (playing games, using an RPi), not being allowed on the internet, period.

maroonblazer 4y ago
Not the parent but, as the parent of a 16 year old, I can imagine that some kids at age 12 simply aren't mature enough to be let loose on the internet.
- jollofricepeas 4y ago
  Yes, this is pretty common. For the most part my friends and work pals who are all software engineers or work closely with tech (DBAs, SREs, Sec). Their children aren’t allowed to use the internet unsupervised or in some cases not at all. Pretty much all of us don’t let our kids use social media. For my friends who don’t work in tech, their kids all have social media and use the internet unsupervised.
  - p1esk 4y ago
    Why not?
    - KerrAvon 4y ago
      We know the downsides. https://twitter.com/ppathole/status/1116670170980859905?lang=en https://twitter.com/ppathole/status/1116670170980859905?lang...
    - cannabis_sam 4y ago
      It’s a neurological issue stemming from the protective instinct of parents. Kinda sad actually, when you consider that Aaron Swartz was a member of the RSS working group at 14, after already winning a prize for an online encyclopedia at 12.
      - wincy 4y ago
        I wish my single mom had had the technical savvy to keep me from becoming a porn addict at 12. I had erectile dysfunction when I finally had my first real sexual encounter and it took years to learn how to be with a real woman versus looking at a screen. It also spread into worse more risky behaviors in my adulthood, and I think exacerbated my social shyness and kept me years back in learning how to socialize. I’m definitely severely restricting the internet for my two daughters, out of a sense of realism and not due to some “neurological issue”.
        cannabis_sam 4y ago
        Thank you for proving my point. I also discovered (far more) disturbing porn at 12, but it actually doesn’t preclude you from treating your sexual partners with respect. (And yes, I had several dysfunctional sexual encounters before I actually grew up) Inevitably your daughters will discover the unavoidable loopholes. (Edit: the anger you’re feeling right now is exactly the neurological issue I’m talking about)
    - disambiguation 4y ago
      Why don't we let kids drive cars? Some tools are dangerous if you don't have a certain level of maturity and experience.
    - g42gregory 4y ago
      Internet services are designed to be addictive for kids (and adults). Usually, this addiction is not good for the kids. That’s why my kids are not on the Internet unsupervised.
      - donthellbanme 4y ago
        But what do they do when they are at friends homes, or at school all crowded around a iphone in the bathroom. I don't have kids, but there's a part of me that would want them to see the bowels of the internet, and hopefully Never want to see that crap again. I know there are pictures I wish I never saw. I'm so glad I didn't see the toddler whom was raped by a Russian soldier. Putin arrested that soldier I head. If I had children, I don't think I would let them use the internet either. I wonder if their are any good studies on letting children have free access to restricted. Maybe the study couldn't even be legally carried out?
    - mostertoaster 4y ago
      What is a four letter word that starts with “P”? That’s a big reason I’d guess.
      - bmacho 4y ago
        Tell her don't send pictures, don't give name/address, and don't meet people, and she's safe? (She already should have applied these rules IRL from a much younger age anyway.)
  - jasonfarnon 4y ago
    I think it's a good idea, but I wonder if this would work if you didn't have a circle of like-minded friends for the kid. For most kids nowadays (and adults, increasingly), there wouldn't be much social interaction outside the family if they were prohibited from social media.

maroonblazer 4y ago

Not the parent but, as the parent of a 16 year old, I can imagine that some kids at age 12 simply aren't mature enough to be let loose on the internet.

jollofricepeas 4y ago
Yes, this is pretty common. For the most part my friends and work pals who are all software engineers or work closely with tech (DBAs, SREs, Sec). Their children aren’t allowed to use the internet unsupervised or in some cases not at all. Pretty much all of us don’t let our kids use social media. For my friends who don’t work in tech, their kids all have social media and use the internet unsupervised.
- p1esk 4y ago
  Why not?
  - KerrAvon 4y ago
    We know the downsides. https://twitter.com/ppathole/status/1116670170980859905?lang=en https://twitter.com/ppathole/status/1116670170980859905?lang...
  - cannabis_sam 4y ago
    It’s a neurological issue stemming from the protective instinct of parents. Kinda sad actually, when you consider that Aaron Swartz was a member of the RSS working group at 14, after already winning a prize for an online encyclopedia at 12.
    - wincy 4y ago
      I wish my single mom had had the technical savvy to keep me from becoming a porn addict at 12. I had erectile dysfunction when I finally had my first real sexual encounter and it took years to learn how to be with a real woman versus looking at a screen. It also spread into worse more risky behaviors in my adulthood, and I think exacerbated my social shyness and kept me years back in learning how to socialize. I’m definitely severely restricting the internet for my two daughters, out of a sense of realism and not due to some “neurological issue”.
      - cannabis_sam 4y ago
        Thank you for proving my point. I also discovered (far more) disturbing porn at 12, but it actually doesn’t preclude you from treating your sexual partners with respect. (And yes, I had several dysfunctional sexual encounters before I actually grew up) Inevitably your daughters will discover the unavoidable loopholes. (Edit: the anger you’re feeling right now is exactly the neurological issue I’m talking about)
  - disambiguation 4y ago
    Why don't we let kids drive cars? Some tools are dangerous if you don't have a certain level of maturity and experience.
  - g42gregory 4y ago
    Internet services are designed to be addictive for kids (and adults). Usually, this addiction is not good for the kids. That’s why my kids are not on the Internet unsupervised.
    - donthellbanme 4y ago
      But what do they do when they are at friends homes, or at school all crowded around a iphone in the bathroom. I don't have kids, but there's a part of me that would want them to see the bowels of the internet, and hopefully Never want to see that crap again. I know there are pictures I wish I never saw. I'm so glad I didn't see the toddler whom was raped by a Russian soldier. Putin arrested that soldier I head. If I had children, I don't think I would let them use the internet either. I wonder if their are any good studies on letting children have free access to restricted. Maybe the study couldn't even be legally carried out?
  - mostertoaster 4y ago
    What is a four letter word that starts with “P”? That’s a big reason I’d guess.
    - bmacho 4y ago
      Tell her don't send pictures, don't give name/address, and don't meet people, and she's safe? (She already should have applied these rules IRL from a much younger age anyway.)
- jasonfarnon 4y ago
  I think it's a good idea, but I wonder if this would work if you didn't have a circle of like-minded friends for the kid. For most kids nowadays (and adults, increasingly), there wouldn't be much social interaction outside the family if they were prohibited from social media.