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> You consider telling everyone “OK, here are some promises that we’ve designed to maximize how embarrassing it would be for us to break up”, but decide it’s be
by reactspa 5y ago
> You consider telling everyone “OK, here are some promises that we’ve designed to maximize how embarrassing it would be for us to break up”, but decide it’s better not to make that explicit.
I didn't understand this sentence. Anyone care to clarify please? (E.g., what would be an example of a promise that would be embarrassing?)
Thanks.
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- reducesuffering 5y agoIt's talking about wedding vows during a marriage ceremony where the couple says in front of many people about how much they will do for the other person "for better or worse, in sickness and health", "til death do us part." If you divorce, it's embarrassing because you betrayed all those public exclamations.
- reactspa 5y agoBut such vows ("till death do us part", etc.) are commonly said explicitly. The article says: "You consider telling everyone... but decide it’s better not to make that explicit." I'm asking for examples of something people "consider telling everyone" but decide it's "better not to make that explicit."
- reducesuffering 5y agoIt's not explicitly said that the reasons for the public devotional is to dissuade the couple from an embarrassing betrayal of those public vows. To the author, being explicit would mean saying "and we say all this so we'd be more wary of breaking up, given we just told all of you how much we're going to stick by each other."