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The one question I wanted answered, how good is the sex on a mattress this big. Nobody talks of how foam mattresses change the dynamics of sex. Gone is the nic
by aroundtown 5y ago
The one question I wanted answered, how good is the sex on a mattress this big.
Nobody talks of how foam mattresses change the dynamics of sex. Gone is the nice bounce back from the coils. Instead you get the firm motion deadening of the foam. Participants expecting to find that extra spring in their step find they have to provide their own bounce. I hope your muscles are up for it.
I personally don't having sex on a foam mattress. I think those seeking a foam mattress should consider keeping around a spare coiled sex bed. Call it your guest bed if so inclined. It will be there for you, providing that extra spring you may be missing from you foam mattress.
- justinpombrio 5y ago> Nobody talks of how foam mattresses change the dynamics of sex. https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/mattress-sex.html https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/mattress-sex.html
- paulcole 5y agoThe WSJ also covered this in 2012: https://www.wsj.com/articles/BL-HEB-49292 https://www.wsj.com/articles/BL-HEB-49292
- fraa-orolo 5y ago> I personally don't having sex on a foam mattress I'm sorry but you personally don't what on a foam mattress? You left out like the most important word of all of your comment. Don't mind, don't like, don't love, don't prefer? It can be guessed from the context but still.
- mhh__ 5y agoOne of the (many) things that led me to getting a referral about possibly having ADHD was noticing that my hackernews comments are absolutely riddled with missing words, missing sentences etc. On hacker news that isn't so bad, but when writing in a formal context it is pretty annoying looking like a moron for forgetting a preposition or whatever. Recently, I even wrote "buy" instead of "by"! Crazy times
- Gracana 5y agoI call those thinkos. They're weird to notice. Why did my brain do that? Do I do it often? No idea.
- Gatsky 5y agoI also find myself making these homophone errors or complete word omissions. It has only started happening since I turned 30. As you say, I seem to have zero awareness of them as they are occurring. I think it is an advanced state of distraction that causes it, a brain unable to really care about anything until the next dopamine hit.
- sjg007 5y agoDid the ADHD thing pan out? I do this too.
- mhh__ 5y agoApparently I'm going to find out next week. I've been meaning to start a blog (but not started, see the trend?) for a while, so that might be something to record and compare in a year's time.
- BugWatch 5y agoAs a potential ADHD sufferer (hopefully to be diagnosed soon) - if you do, I'd very much be interested in reading about your experience(s).
- jkhdigital 5y agoOnly on HN can I encounter an ADHD subthread in a thread about the sexual merits of mattress materials
- maximus-decimus 5y agoThat would indeed be rather strange in a MatterMost thread at work.
- voltaireodactyl 5y agoFWIW I have found latex beds to be the absolute sweet spot between foam and spring. You don’t sink into latex as deeply as foam, it’s much less pronounced (and much more comfortable, in my experience). The bounce is also not QUITE spring levels but I’d say 85% which I find to be a reasonable compromise.
- sedivy94 5y agoI’m with you on this 100%. Had a latex mattress for four years and loved it. Adopted a barely-used memory foam mattress from a friend when I moved out west and now I’m struggling with thoracic kyphosis and neck pain. I have a large frame and have been bodybuilding for almost a decade, so I really need a mattress that pushes back. Saving up for my next latex mattress but maybe I should build my own?
- voltaireodactyl 5y agoFWIW I went with a pure latex mattress. Nothing super fancy, I think around $700 out the door. I just made sure it was free of specific chemicals that I can’t remember offhand but research said might be important. No need to buy layers and such I say go full latex.
- Jeff_Brown 5y agoHuh. My mattress made me sore until I resumed (after a decade hiatus) lifting weights. I used to use all sorts of weird pillow designs, a special one for my knees, another for my upper arm, etc. Then I just stopped needing that stuff.
- conductr 5y agoI’d agree here. I found the surface rather easier to maneuver around. It’s like it improves agility. Yet it’s soft and doesn’t push back like coils do. Foam I feel I just feel I sink into a divot and have to lift myself out before moving side to side. Which reduces agility. That feeling is compounded with another body. Even when agility isn’t the main goal, it’s like you have to work twice as hard with foam and maybe 80% as hard with latex; as compared to coils. This same sinking/floating type feelings also is the big contributor to why foam is feels so hot to me. It absorbs my heat then engulfs me in it.
- ameminator 5y agoYou know, that was the last thing on my mind when I bought a mattress. It will likely still be the last thing on my mind when I buy the next one
- brailsafe 5y agoI much prefer having quieter mattress and strong muscles. Easy enough to get the best of both.
- EastOfTruth 5y agono need for a mattress.. try this: https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/Sex-Adult-game-Hanging-Door-Swing_1700000515200.html https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/Sex-Adult-game-Hangin...
- jamiek88 5y agoYeah but grandma is reluctant to use that when she stays over. Something about her hip.
- BatFastard 5y agoWaterbeds rule for sex, riding the wave!
- dannykwells 5y agoJust have to say, this comment lead to one of the more unique, yet also on brand, HN threads Ive seen. Bravo.
- MiddleEndian 5y agoThis is certainly not as squishy as most foam mattresses, it's not memory foam, the materials are pretty bouncy. Plus the buckling gel allows you to have good on-the-fly form fitted gripping locations. So to keep this HN appropriate, I'll just say no complaints here!
- 01100011 5y agoI find sex on a foam mattress gives me knee pain. I don't get that with a firmer spring mattress.
- rbobby 5y ago> spare coiled sex bed. Not what I'm used to reading on HN.
- Auracle 5y agoMy wife and I absolutely call our coil guest bed our sex bed, so he’s right on. No guests have ever slept in it either, so there’s that. It’s more of a sex and snoring bed.
- HorizonXP 5y agoGuests currently sleeping in their hosts’ guest beds are now recoiling in horror!
- AlecSchueler 5y agoIs it really horrific to sleep in a bed where someone had sex?
- _nalply 5y agoPeople are irrationally afraid of being near dried body fluids inside mattresses.
- HorizonXP 5y agoNo not at all it was just an easy joke
- Jeff_Brown 5y agoSeems like a hard question to answer without the kind of survey data that most people do not have.
- twothamendment 5y agoI hope they never sleep in a hotel. Who know what happened there!
- AngryData 5y agoEven outside of that I don't see how people like foam and super soft mattresses. I find them extremely uncomfortable. Even just rolling over takes a significant amount of effort and they always give me horrible back pain which is something I otherwise never have.
- linsomniac 5y agoNot all foam is created equal. If you find it hard to roll over, it's probably (in my experience) some fairly high component of memory foam. Latex, on the other hand, is fairly springy and very similar to the traditional beds I used to have, primarily Posturpedic. There are a lot of foam bed options out there these days, so you have lots of choice. Unfortunately, the composition of them is often not really spoken about, you really have to dig to find them. FYI: A "memory foam" mattress only tends to have a little memory foam in it. Most mattresses tend to be a high density foam base (~5"), a lower density foam on top of that (2-3"), and the memory foam or whatnot on top of that (another 2-4"). The more expensive latex beds IIRC are all or mostly latex, but most of the <$1K mattresses are largely high density foam. ~10 years ago I had a memory foam mattress that was comfortable to sleep in, particularly once it had warmed up for a few hours and was easier to move in. I tend to move a lot when I sleep, rolling over regularly. But for sex it was fairly annoying. I swapped it after a couple years for a new bed, I ended up doing a bunch of research and selected a Leesa, because it seemed to be one of the few that had a latex-like top layer. As I mentioned previously, finding the composition to compare mattresses was fairly hard, the vendors don't really seem to talk about it (circa 7 years ago). On top of that I put a 3" latex topper, because my wife wanted something softer.
- Sylamore 5y agoJust spent 3 nights sleeping on one in a hotel and it confirmed my tester impressions when mattress shopping that it would lead to a bad nights sleep. I'm sure there are maybe some wonderful to sleep on foam mattresses but they all seem spongy and hot to me and those are the last things I want in a mattress.
- Stratoscope 5y ago
- amerine 5y agoI totally agree!!! I really prefer some springs under my partner/me compared to foam. Sex is really different on foam.
- trey-jones 5y agoBefore I ever had sex I used to research all kinds of things that might affect how the sex is, including the mattress. Now, married these last 15 years, I can say with confidence that the mattress is one of the least important factors. We're adaptable to just about any soft and spacious surface.
- desmosxxx 5y agomattress is very important to me. well more so anything but foam, ymmv i guess
- akomtu 5y agoThis is what preparing in advance looks like.
- sigg3 5y agoSex preppers, preparing indefinitely for something that's unlikely to happen;)
- heresie-dabord 5y ago>sex prepper Thank you for coining the term. We could also merge two domains of highly hypothetical expectation and call them Temporarily Embarrassed Copulators.
- seanmcdirmid 5y agoHard beds, like those popular in Asia, definitely do affect matters. But western mattresses are all about the same.
- stickfigure 5y agoA waterbed will disabuse you of this notion. Terrible for sex.
- 1123581321 5y agoI’ve had the opposite experience as I wouldn’t have guessed beforehand how much the right environment would benefit us. Similar quantity of experience. It’s fun to make your home work better for you.
- csomar 5y agoThis is the answer: https://www.lazada.sg/products/modern-chaise-longue-balcony-bedroom-recliner-sofa-living-room-villa-simple-fashion-chaise-bed-lazy-art-sofa-i1961823415.html https://www.lazada.sg/products/modern-chaise-longue-balcony-... They are hard to find, so maybe get one custom made. You'll need a bit of a larger bedroom too. But it's the real deal.
- thebigjewbowski 5y agoNow that you mention it, you’re so right. I did some of my best work in recent memory on a hotel mattress this past weekend. I’ve had a foam mattress for the past 6 years or so and thinking back, it really makes a big difference. Brb, going to look for a box spring and mattress.
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- Aunche 5y agoI don't find this a problem on foam mattress that aren't overly plush. On the other hand, I find that spring mattresses will occasionally have an undesirable wavelength that isn't conducive to sex.
- fancyfish 5y agoI’ve found it depends on the position mainly. The more you thrust vertically (cowgirl, etc), the less satisfying due to less bounce. On the other hand, foam is better for digging in for horizontal thrusting (doggy, missionary). This is why about 65% say foam is worse for sex than springs, while ~35% say it’s the same or even better. That said, I just prefer foam for sleeping. Much more comfortable and I wake up feeling more refreshed with no back pain. We keep a separate guest spring mattress bed for sex (and obviously guests). We bought it a year ago and our sex life has never been better but ymmv!
- aulin 5y ago> foam is better for doggy if we're talking about knees on the mattress, I'd say it's still worse... the more cushioning the more the blood flow is restricted, the faster you'll get weak and shaky knees. Just like a too cushioned bike saddle is bad for you crotch area.
- MiddleEndian 5y agoRemember though my comfort layer is buckling gel so it has less direct contact than regular mattresses!
- voz_ 5y agoIn bed? in 2021? Brother it's time to travel.