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This makes a lot of sense, thank you for that insight. The news I received was about a business associate who is screwing me over. I knew (and I know) that ther
by newwebsite 5y ago
This makes a lot of sense, thank you for that insight. The news I received was about a business associate who is screwing me over. I knew (and I know) that there is very little I could do to stop him. And I could not accept it. The injustice of what he is trying to do kept me awake.
My wife suggested I find peace by thinking that by blindly trusting someone, I hadn't done everything I could to protect my interests. According to her, accepting that I could have done better will make it easier to accept the injustice. I'm trying, but it's hard to accept being cheated by someone you trusted.
- lazide 5y agoThere are techniques to help process what is happening in situations like this - CBT and/or mindfulness have both helped me in the past. It is necessary to take risks to succeed - including trusting sometimes unknown parties. It is necessary to not trust more than you can afford to lose. It is also necessary to put trust and faith only in those that have earned it. It’s a complex set of sometimes contradictory requirements. It is impossible to always have it perfectly under control. Sometimes that means learning painful lessons, sometimes that means getting into a fight to protect yourself as best as possible, sometimes it means writing it off - as the flip side of the good bets that pay off. To know what is appropriate for you will require integrating the experiences and information you have, and calming evaluating for yourself your own values and your own plan, and what you want to do. Easier said than done. I wish you luck!