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Women are paying a high price in the online dating world. It’s preying on their weakness the same way porn does for men. Most women don’t want to sleep around

Women are paying a high price in the online dating world. It’s preying on their weakness the same way porn does for men. Most women don’t want to sleep around and have a large number of partners. But tinder leads them to believe that they can find an unrealistic partner. And they get hurt by the small percentage of men that play the online dating game well. Women need a lot more data and time to evaluate a potential partner before initiating contact.

guskel 5y ago
I think a solution would be to limit the number of matches one could have at a time. This forces the user to sacrifice something (the opportunity cost of matching with someone else) to remain in contact with their match.
watwut 5y ago
Maybe women are paying the price, bit it is men on HN who complain and bitch constantly. Most women are not on tinder anyway.
- symlinkk 5y ago
  That’s incorrect, online dating is the number one way couples meet
  - watwut 5y ago
    Which is not the same as "most women are on tinder".
    - symlinkk 5y ago
      Most women who are looking to date are on Tinder. No, your grandma isn’t on there. I’m not sure what point you’re trying to make.
      - nashalo_nighly 5y ago
        I have to comment that I think women who want to date go to tinder as a very last resort and don’t expect a long term relationship there. For serious relationships we tend to go to okcupid and bumble as they are wayyy less creepy apps. At least where I live tinder is known as the one night stand app.
      - watwut 5y ago
        Date as in quick one night stand and even then claim is pushing it. It is not the first choice place of meeting guys, especially if you look for something more long term. Anyway, the disbalance between amount of men and women there is quite large.
nradov 5y ago
Real humans don't make relationship decisions based on data analysis.
- tacocataco 5y ago
  Age, income, height, weight, number of kids, attractiveness scale (1-10).
dorkwood 5y ago
My experience with Tinder was that all the women I met turned out to be more interested in hooking up than anything else. Is there an app for people who don't even really want to sleep with each other, but would prefer to just hang out and talk? I want to use that one.
- tacocataco 5y ago
  Try going to meetups, that way you know everyone there has something in common to talk about to break the ice.

guskel 5y ago

I think a solution would be to limit the number of matches one could have at a time. This forces the user to sacrifice something (the opportunity cost of matching with someone else) to remain in contact with their match.

watwut 5y ago

Maybe women are paying the price, bit it is men on HN who complain and bitch constantly. Most women are not on tinder anyway.

symlinkk 5y ago
That’s incorrect, online dating is the number one way couples meet
- watwut 5y ago
  Which is not the same as "most women are on tinder".
  - symlinkk 5y ago
    Most women who are looking to date are on Tinder. No, your grandma isn’t on there. I’m not sure what point you’re trying to make.
    - nashalo_nighly 5y ago
      I have to comment that I think women who want to date go to tinder as a very last resort and don’t expect a long term relationship there. For serious relationships we tend to go to okcupid and bumble as they are wayyy less creepy apps. At least where I live tinder is known as the one night stand app.
    - watwut 5y ago
      Date as in quick one night stand and even then claim is pushing it. It is not the first choice place of meeting guys, especially if you look for something more long term. Anyway, the disbalance between amount of men and women there is quite large.

nradov 5y ago

Real humans don't make relationship decisions based on data analysis.

tacocataco 5y ago
Age, income, height, weight, number of kids, attractiveness scale (1-10).

dorkwood 5y ago

My experience with Tinder was that all the women I met turned out to be more interested in hooking up than anything else. Is there an app for people who don't even really want to sleep with each other, but would prefer to just hang out and talk? I want to use that one.

tacocataco 5y ago
Try going to meetups, that way you know everyone there has something in common to talk about to break the ice.