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Fourth option from TFA: > Your “I told you so” only highlights that you need to construct stronger arguments. All of these may be true. They're not necessaril

Fourth option from TFA: > Your “I told you so” only highlights that you need to construct stronger arguments. All of these may be true. They're not necessarily a reason to leave.

Supermancho 6y ago
> Your “I told you so” only highlights that you need to construct stronger arguments. Often you raise an issue, which is ignored or underprioritized. Later, priorities may shift from upper management, to make it an actionable argument. Rarely do you get credit or a career boost (promotion, raise, addtl responsibility, etc) from the alignment of concerns. eg Company wants to cut costs. Using AWS can save 60%. Company doesnt want to use AWS because they compete with Amazon. New president oks AWS to save cost next quarter. I told you so gets you nothing.
fennecfoxen 6y ago
One can often take these to your manager or your team retrospective, and ask questions, turning it around to be forward-looking: "During planning, I expressed my concerns that [bad thing that happen] might happen. Is there something I do to raise this matter more effectively in the future? Do we need to improve communications more generally?"
- jiofih 6y ago
  That is often a futile exercise on team dynamic platitudes. What do you imagine would be a good / actionable answer for that question?
  - twelve40 6y ago
    It's hard to believe, but I've worked with some managers who actually listened, and they (she in my case) would say, let's work together to build a stronger case next time, I'll help you because you have some strong points here that are clearly not being heard because you are new OR need to polish up your argument and I'll help you. The alpha "better luck battling it out next time" attitude of the TFA's author just speaks for his own surroundings, there are places where people really help each other, managers included.
bfuclusion 6y ago
Yes, and no. In the best case you improve your communication skills and become a more valuable employee, in which case you should consider leaving to get more comp. If you don't make improvements, then you're not really able to be effective, and you should consider leaving because there might be a better fit elsewhere.

Fourth option from TFA: > Your “I told you so” only highlights that you need to construct stronger arguments. All of these may be true. They're not necessarily a reason to leave.

Supermancho 6y ago

> Your “I told you so” only highlights that you need to construct stronger arguments. Often you raise an issue, which is ignored or underprioritized. Later, priorities may shift from upper management, to make it an actionable argument. Rarely do you get credit or a career boost (promotion, raise, addtl responsibility, etc) from the alignment of concerns. eg Company wants to cut costs. Using AWS can save 60%. Company doesnt want to use AWS because they compete with Amazon. New president oks AWS to save cost next quarter. I told you so gets you nothing.

fennecfoxen 6y ago

One can often take these to your manager or your team retrospective, and ask questions, turning it around to be forward-looking: "During planning, I expressed my concerns that [bad thing that happen] might happen. Is there something I do to raise this matter more effectively in the future? Do we need to improve communications more generally?"

jiofih 6y ago
That is often a futile exercise on team dynamic platitudes. What do you imagine would be a good / actionable answer for that question?
- twelve40 6y ago
  It's hard to believe, but I've worked with some managers who actually listened, and they (she in my case) would say, let's work together to build a stronger case next time, I'll help you because you have some strong points here that are clearly not being heard because you are new OR need to polish up your argument and I'll help you. The alpha "better luck battling it out next time" attitude of the TFA's author just speaks for his own surroundings, there are places where people really help each other, managers included.

bfuclusion 6y ago

Yes, and no. In the best case you improve your communication skills and become a more valuable employee, in which case you should consider leaving to get more comp. If you don't make improvements, then you're not really able to be effective, and you should consider leaving because there might be a better fit elsewhere.