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Thank you. I have been drinking more lately. I guess I should stop. I find it hard to enjoy anything. I was thinking about why is that. I found I don’t like mys

Thank you. I have been drinking more lately. I guess I should stop. I find it hard to enjoy anything. I was thinking about why is that. I found I don’t like myself at all and I guess deep inside I think I don’t deserve to feel joy. My therapist says I’m emotionally immature. She’s probably right.

robsinatra 7y ago
You must stop drinking alcohol. It is a depressant. You are literally making yourself feel worse. No amounts consumed in moderation are helpful. Stop, cold turkey. Don't wait to make this change, either, and try not to replace it with an alternative. If you absolutely must find a replacement, try vaping high-CBD hemp flower. I don't know what your country's legal status is for this, though, and that may not be possible. It can be mail ordered from the U.S. (see Tweedle Farms or Fields of Hemp).
- ianai 7y ago
  Actually, kava kava is the best I’ve found outside of benzodiazepines.
  - op00to 7y ago
    Benzos don’t work at all for me. I have an Ativan script and it’s useless. Should I be asking for something else?
    - ianai 7y ago
      Dunno, but kava is over the counter in many places.
- cbd-weed 7y ago
  CBD weed works really well for me, its helped me stop drinking and stop smoking the THC strains that were really damaging my life. It can be mail-ordered from the United kingdom (see BUDCBD or search cbd buds uk ).
dominotw 7y ago
> My therapist says I’m emotionally immature. find a different therapist :)
WalterSear 7y ago
She has absolutely no business saying that: she's currently part of your problem. Get rid of her and find someone who is emotionally mature enough to help others.
trcollinson 7y ago
As others have said, find another therapist. We don't have a lot of context to go on here but my therapist who helped me so much never put me down. He often told me important truths but in a way that I could digest and would help me to find successful mechanisms to help outside of the therapist office. If you're not finding that, get another therapist.
icris 7y ago
i am no specialist but the way the ego works maybe you are making a very high idealized version of you that when compared with the real persona you find a big hiatus between what you perceive you are and the one you want to become. maybe you should relax a little such high standards for a more down-to-earth person, frequently people less exigent are just happiest. i call this the john wayne syndrome because we are trying to be the hero of our own life whereas we are just regular folks. also seek if there are repressed feelings you avoid that are inducing self-abusive behavior
- disturbed 7y ago
  Thank you for your comment. That is absolutely true. I have excuses for everyone except for myself. Intellectually, I realize that, but it’s difficult to fight it. My therapist is trying to help with this. We’ll see how it goes.

robsinatra 7y ago

You must stop drinking alcohol. It is a depressant. You are literally making yourself feel worse. No amounts consumed in moderation are helpful. Stop, cold turkey. Don't wait to make this change, either, and try not to replace it with an alternative. If you absolutely must find a replacement, try vaping high-CBD hemp flower. I don't know what your country's legal status is for this, though, and that may not be possible. It can be mail ordered from the U.S. (see Tweedle Farms or Fields of Hemp).

ianai 7y ago
Actually, kava kava is the best I’ve found outside of benzodiazepines.
- op00to 7y ago
  Benzos don’t work at all for me. I have an Ativan script and it’s useless. Should I be asking for something else?
  - ianai 7y ago
    Dunno, but kava is over the counter in many places.
cbd-weed 7y ago
CBD weed works really well for me, its helped me stop drinking and stop smoking the THC strains that were really damaging my life. It can be mail-ordered from the United kingdom (see BUDCBD or search cbd buds uk ).

dominotw 7y ago

> My therapist says I’m emotionally immature. find a different therapist :)

WalterSear 7y ago

She has absolutely no business saying that: she's currently part of your problem. Get rid of her and find someone who is emotionally mature enough to help others.

trcollinson 7y ago

As others have said, find another therapist. We don't have a lot of context to go on here but my therapist who helped me so much never put me down. He often told me important truths but in a way that I could digest and would help me to find successful mechanisms to help outside of the therapist office. If you're not finding that, get another therapist.

icris 7y ago

i am no specialist but the way the ego works maybe you are making a very high idealized version of you that when compared with the real persona you find a big hiatus between what you perceive you are and the one you want to become. maybe you should relax a little such high standards for a more down-to-earth person, frequently people less exigent are just happiest. i call this the john wayne syndrome because we are trying to be the hero of our own life whereas we are just regular folks. also seek if there are repressed feelings you avoid that are inducing self-abusive behavior

disturbed 7y ago
Thank you for your comment. That is absolutely true. I have excuses for everyone except for myself. Intellectually, I realize that, but it’s difficult to fight it. My therapist is trying to help with this. We’ll see how it goes.