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Sounds like a result of increasingly drab and formalised work environments.
by jamesb93 7y ago
Sounds like a result of increasingly drab and formalised work environments.
- GhettoMaestro 7y agoAlso hypergamy.
- cameronbrown 7y agoI fail to see how that's relevant to making friends.
- xenihn 7y agoI've made a few friends through OLD and hookups. It's simply not an option for most men.
- cameronbrown 7y agoOkay, fair points. I can imagine it's a tough situation to be in.
- viburnum 7y agoThere’s a pecking order for men. Nobody likes the guy at the bottom of the hierarchy.
- orange-juice 7y agoI was bullied in college so I'm going to downvote you because you made me feel sad.
- whatshisface 7y agoWork friends aren't real friends because what happens if you get fired?
- Angostura 7y agoIn my ... case carry on being friends? Assuming you socialised outside of work.
- pbhjpbhj 7y agoI spent 6 years in a job, lunched with the same few colleagues most days, thought they were good friends, knew their partners, met up out of work, that kind of thing. Left to start own business ... None of them offered any support, nor visited, nor anything. Completely floored me, I thought I had good friends at work. One colleague, a very loose acquaintance, visited a couple of times, asked after us; I need to find that person and thank them ... [people I knew through a club, who happened to work in the same place continued to be friends however.] Anyway, I'm now working with some of those people again, and talking with them it feels like they're friends... but in retrospect I think for them I was just like background noise to their jobs? So, at least for me "carry on being friends" was the expectation but I was miles off.
- repiret 7y agoSometimes work friends become real friends.
- Frost1x 7y agoThe term "friend" is pretty worthless anymore, atleast compared to the definition I adhere to. What most people call "friends" I'd call aquantiences but I prefer fewer high quality relationships than a large quantity of casual passings. I don't and never have valued such casual fleeting relationships of any kind outside those in the workplace (those are necessary to function in a modern workplace). I'd hardly call those folks friends: most are merely professional aquanteinces or colleagues, nothing more. Good friends are and have always been difficult to come by. Many prefer loneliness with casual meaningless relationships than the work it takes to foster strong friendships. I'll never understand it but I was taught the value of meaningful human relationships exceed most other frivolities we often occupy ourselves with and it's been one of the most important aspects I followed through life as far as happiness is concerned.