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This doesn't work. I have tried it. She (my GF) just argues with me about any purchase I try to make that is around the ballpark of what she is expecting me to

by ftrflyr 10y ago

This doesn't work. I have tried it. She (my GF) just argues with me about any purchase I try to make that is around the ballpark of what she is expecting me to pay for a ring. e.g. Her: So you want a new MacBook Pro, but you can't afford a $3000 engagement ring? Me: No, I need a MacBook Pro for work. This has been going on for quite some time now.

user5994461 10y ago
Sounds like a bad relationship to be in :(
baq 10y ago
tell her you'd rather set the $3k on fire - as in, real fire, with smoke and all - while she watches than buy a diamond ring. be prepared to follow through. oh also don't listen to advice on the internet.
- joncrocks 10y ago
  The trick here is to use good-quailty counterfeits, and then afterwards ask her if she feels the same way about the ring. If so, buy it. If not, spend the money on something else. Also, don't do this.
digitaltrees 10y ago
I don't agree with people that say just because she wants the diamond ring, it means the relationship is a bad relationship. It's not irrational to feel social pressure, and feel real pain by not conforming to social norms. At the end of the day if she is happier, that is where she drives economic utility. Just keep at the dialogue, and try to communicate how spending money on something you consider to be unnecessary and imprudent actually harms you emotionally. Hopefully, you will be able to have a nice dialogue and compromise so that you both feel respect from the other person.
bluedevil2k 10y ago
If you can afford a $3k MBP, you can afford a diamond ring. And her diamond ring will be worn forever, your shiny new laptop will be on Craigslist in 5 years.
- thecatspaw 10y ago
  a 3k MBP provides a lot more value than a 3k diamond ring if used correctly, a 3k MBP is a netgain
  - bluedevil2k 10y ago
    And a wife is a net loss monetarily. I guess you shouldn't get married then
    - thecatspaw 10y ago
      you can get married without a diamond ring or a expensive marriage. its only a netloss if you make it one
      - bluedevil2k 10y ago
        Ok, fine then...a kid is a net loss, a particularly large one at that. Should you not have kids then?
        chr1 10y ago
        Kid is a pretty solid long time investment(¹), which makes wife a cofounder. Good cofounder won't ask to burn some money to celebrate foundation of the company:). (¹) of course some children are still a net loss, but other investments fail too so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
    - NumberCruncher 10y ago
      You seem to get emotional. Because a guy on the internet does not want to by her GF a diamond ring? Why do you care at all?
NumberCruncher 10y ago
In a situation like this it is quite impossible to give a good advice. I would recommend you to read the book How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World. Not because of your question regarding the diamond ring but generally.

by ftrflyr 10y ago

user5994461 10y ago

Sounds like a bad relationship to be in :(

baq 10y ago

tell her you'd rather set the $3k on fire - as in, real fire, with smoke and all - while she watches than buy a diamond ring. be prepared to follow through. oh also don't listen to advice on the internet.

joncrocks 10y ago
The trick here is to use good-quailty counterfeits, and then afterwards ask her if she feels the same way about the ring. If so, buy it. If not, spend the money on something else. Also, don't do this.

digitaltrees 10y ago

I don't agree with people that say just because she wants the diamond ring, it means the relationship is a bad relationship. It's not irrational to feel social pressure, and feel real pain by not conforming to social norms. At the end of the day if she is happier, that is where she drives economic utility. Just keep at the dialogue, and try to communicate how spending money on something you consider to be unnecessary and imprudent actually harms you emotionally. Hopefully, you will be able to have a nice dialogue and compromise so that you both feel respect from the other person.

bluedevil2k 10y ago

If you can afford a $3k MBP, you can afford a diamond ring. And her diamond ring will be worn forever, your shiny new laptop will be on Craigslist in 5 years.

thecatspaw 10y ago
a 3k MBP provides a lot more value than a 3k diamond ring if used correctly, a 3k MBP is a netgain
- bluedevil2k 10y ago
  And a wife is a net loss monetarily. I guess you shouldn't get married then
  - thecatspaw 10y ago
    you can get married without a diamond ring or a expensive marriage. its only a netloss if you make it one
    - bluedevil2k 10y ago
      Ok, fine then...a kid is a net loss, a particularly large one at that. Should you not have kids then?
      - chr1 10y ago
        Kid is a pretty solid long time investment(¹), which makes wife a cofounder. Good cofounder won't ask to burn some money to celebrate foundation of the company:). (¹) of course some children are still a net loss, but other investments fail too so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
  - NumberCruncher 10y ago
    You seem to get emotional. Because a guy on the internet does not want to by her GF a diamond ring? Why do you care at all?

NumberCruncher 10y ago

In a situation like this it is quite impossible to give a good advice. I would recommend you to read the book How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World. Not because of your question regarding the diamond ring but generally.