If you are the one getting a call at 3am when something breaks, your opinion _should_ matter more than someone else's. Also, I find it strange that you put "th

If you are the one getting a call at 3am when something breaks, your opinion _should_ matter more than someone else's. Also, I find it strange that you put "the right technical decision" in quotes here. Are you thinking of specific instances where (perhaps) you didn't understand why someone was being stubborn about a choice, so you didn't value their stubbornness? Maybe their reasoning is sound, but their articulation of the reasoning could have been better. People who insist on 'their way' for no reason are one thing. People who insist on the right way, because they have dealt with a lot of problems in their careers from doing things the wrong way, are another. The first is a detriment, and the second is an asset. You have to be able to tell the difference. But if you're dealing with people who are being difficult for the sake of being difficult, that really does suck.