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Seriously ? All for asking her on a date ? I don't see any harassment or any kind of quid pro quo. Mistakes happen all the time.

pm90 12y ago
Its not a mistake, he admits in the email that what he's doing is not OK.
- beenpoor 12y ago
  @pavel_lishin - You bring an important point and after thinking about it, I agree with you. For company's sake, HR should be involved to caution him.
pavel_lishin 12y ago
He wasted the time of a potential employee, and made her feel very uncomfortable with unprofessional behavior. Plus, he admitted that what he was doing was wrong - presumably against company policy, as well as in general being a shitty thing to do. From a pure "what's good for the company" consideration alone, at the very least someone from HR needs to have another talk to him about what's acceptable or not - he could be driving away other potential employees, and setting the company up for lawsuits.
mikeash 12y ago
What's wrong with what he suggested? The only active measure he proposed is telling the guy's bosses. Surely that's appropriate for a mistake. The rest is just stuff to keep in mind in the event that it turns out not to be a mistake.
jarin 12y ago
I'll take the risk of being buried along with beenpoor, but I should point out that asking someone out once is not harassment. Harassment is asking them out repeatedly after being turned down (i.e. it is known to be unwelcome). Not making any excuses for what interviewer guy did at all, that was still pretty slimy.
- pyrocat 12y ago
  So making sexual advances in a professional setting is A-OK, as long as you only do it once per person?
  - jarin 12y ago
    Of course not. If the way you ask people out on dates involves overt sexual advances, that's definitely not an appropriate way to do it in the workplace.
  - ddoolin 12y ago
    Sexual advances? Did we all miss something?
  - zak_mc_kracken 12y ago
    It's not sexual advances. It's not in a professional setting. Not saying that what he did is OK (it's not) but let's keep our facts straight.
    - pyrocat 12y ago
      It's making an advance for the eventual goal of sex. How is that not a sexual advance? How is an email chain between interviewee and interviewer, discussing your interview results, not a professional setting?
      - ddoolin 12y ago
        People go to GREAT lengths for the "eventual goal of sex" all the time without it being labeled a sexual advance, including striking up what may seem like friendly conversation even though you may never have the slightest idea that their end game was actually to screw you (among many other things). Arguably the majority of anything that people do is for the eventual goal of sex. The e-mail "later that evening" was not discussing the interview results. It was a later email, presumably on his own.
        12y ago

pm90 12y ago

Its not a mistake, he admits in the email that what he's doing is not OK.

beenpoor 12y ago
@pavel_lishin - You bring an important point and after thinking about it, I agree with you. For company's sake, HR should be involved to caution him.

pavel_lishin 12y ago

He wasted the time of a potential employee, and made her feel very uncomfortable with unprofessional behavior. Plus, he admitted that what he was doing was wrong - presumably against company policy, as well as in general being a shitty thing to do. From a pure "what's good for the company" consideration alone, at the very least someone from HR needs to have another talk to him about what's acceptable or not - he could be driving away other potential employees, and setting the company up for lawsuits.

mikeash 12y ago

What's wrong with what he suggested? The only active measure he proposed is telling the guy's bosses. Surely that's appropriate for a mistake. The rest is just stuff to keep in mind in the event that it turns out not to be a mistake.

jarin 12y ago

I'll take the risk of being buried along with beenpoor, but I should point out that asking someone out once is not harassment. Harassment is asking them out repeatedly after being turned down (i.e. it is known to be unwelcome). Not making any excuses for what interviewer guy did at all, that was still pretty slimy.

pyrocat 12y ago
So making sexual advances in a professional setting is A-OK, as long as you only do it once per person?
- jarin 12y ago
  Of course not. If the way you ask people out on dates involves overt sexual advances, that's definitely not an appropriate way to do it in the workplace.
- ddoolin 12y ago
  Sexual advances? Did we all miss something?
- zak_mc_kracken 12y ago
  It's not sexual advances. It's not in a professional setting. Not saying that what he did is OK (it's not) but let's keep our facts straight.
  - pyrocat 12y ago
    It's making an advance for the eventual goal of sex. How is that not a sexual advance? How is an email chain between interviewee and interviewer, discussing your interview results, not a professional setting?
    - ddoolin 12y ago
      People go to GREAT lengths for the "eventual goal of sex" all the time without it being labeled a sexual advance, including striking up what may seem like friendly conversation even though you may never have the slightest idea that their end game was actually to screw you (among many other things). Arguably the majority of anything that people do is for the eventual goal of sex. The e-mail "later that evening" was not discussing the interview results. It was a later email, presumably on his own.
      - 12y ago