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Your friend clearly has her priorities straight. One would think that if someone really had a good reason to not be found online, the first thing they'd do woul

by Padding 12y ago

Your friend clearly has her priorities straight. One would think that if someone really had a good reason to not be found online, the first thing they'd do would be to not be in FB rather than use some fake name. Then again, maybe things aren't quite as dramatic as incinuated :>

gadders 12y ago
Perhaps they don't want to let some arsehole stop them from keeping in touch with their friends?
- Padding 12y ago
  True, but then again this is a moot point, since the person in question seems to struggle with distinguishing friends from arseholes, right?
  - EliRivers 12y ago
    Wrong. She's clearly identified him as an arsehole. You can tell because she's reports interactions with him and tries to hide from him.
mattmanser 12y ago
Blaming the victim, how progressive.
- Padding 12y ago
  This is a clear issue of having your cake and eating it too. Being a victim is irrelevant and shouldn't be a reason not to call them out on their stupidity.
  - DanBC 12y ago
    What's stupid about wanting to use a mainstream website to keep in touch with friends while also being able to avoid the attentions of someone who is abusive?
    - Padding 12y ago
      (1) That it's a website specifically engineered around bringing you into the attention of anyone you've ever known (2) That there are other ways of staying in touch with friends (3) That given the situation, if everything is in fact true, it seems the wrong compromise has been made. Maintaining the safety of your family should trump being able to always have someone/something to chit chat with.
Squarel 12y ago
So clearly one should cut oneself off from social interaction because of an individual? I do not use my "real name" on Facebook, or elsewhere online apart from in a professional capacity, and this is precisely the way I want it. If you know only my real name, not the one I have been using for the last 10 years, then you are not someone I want to be in contact with.

by Padding 12y ago

gadders 12y ago

Perhaps they don't want to let some arsehole stop them from keeping in touch with their friends?

Padding 12y ago
True, but then again this is a moot point, since the person in question seems to struggle with distinguishing friends from arseholes, right?
- EliRivers 12y ago
  Wrong. She's clearly identified him as an arsehole. You can tell because she's reports interactions with him and tries to hide from him.

mattmanser 12y ago

Blaming the victim, how progressive.

Padding 12y ago
This is a clear issue of having your cake and eating it too. Being a victim is irrelevant and shouldn't be a reason not to call them out on their stupidity.
- DanBC 12y ago
  What's stupid about wanting to use a mainstream website to keep in touch with friends while also being able to avoid the attentions of someone who is abusive?
  - Padding 12y ago
    (1) That it's a website specifically engineered around bringing you into the attention of anyone you've ever known (2) That there are other ways of staying in touch with friends (3) That given the situation, if everything is in fact true, it seems the wrong compromise has been made. Maintaining the safety of your family should trump being able to always have someone/something to chit chat with.

Squarel 12y ago

So clearly one should cut oneself off from social interaction because of an individual? I do not use my "real name" on Facebook, or elsewhere online apart from in a professional capacity, and this is precisely the way I want it. If you know only my real name, not the one I have been using for the last 10 years, then you are not someone I want to be in contact with.