That sounds like the real problem to me. I know I'll come off as a culturally-insensitive douchebag for saying this, but the fact that somebody isn't used to s

That sounds like the real problem to me. I know I'll come off as a culturally-insensitive douchebag for saying this, but the fact that somebody isn't used to saying "no", or even being able to say "no", doesn't mean that it isn't the best option. That's not to say that it is the best option here (like most, I'm not terribly familiar with the person's particular situation), but I think that "I'm not used to doing X" isn't a great reason to not do X. EDIT: Apparently this person fears for their life if they disobey their family's wishes? That's god-damned barbaric.