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The Bay Area is hands down the worst place I have ever lived for dating.

by menloparkbum 17y ago

jimboyoungblood 17y ago
That's why it's a great place to work on startups. Fewer distractions.
- rw 17y ago
  Only if you want to ignore important aspects of your life.
  - staunch 17y ago
    Which is probably ideal if you're going to focus all your energy on doing one thing really well.
    - rw 17y ago
      What do you need to perform at your absolute best? I need to know that the rest of my life is taken care of. Relationships included.
      - staunch 17y ago
        You never know that, especially with relationships.
        rw 17y ago
        It's pretty clear that better is better than worse.
msluyter 17y ago
Interesting. Why is that? My naive assumption would have been that SF in particular would be good for straight males.
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  - ComputerGuru 17y ago
    I second the midwest vote. Viva Chicago! :)
  - calambrac 17y ago
    Are you sure you're going to the right bars? I'd recommend against the ones in the Castro if you're looking to meet women :)
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strlen 17y ago
It's not nearly as bad if you're willing to be open and try non-conventional ways of meeting people, e.g. online. Sites like OKCupid have many women who are either intellectually inclined themselves (i.e. "nerdy") or are looking to meet a guy who is; this way, you are much more likely to find someone who appreciates and likes you for who are you than at a sports bar or a night club (whether in Bay Area, or elsewhere).
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  - rend 17y ago
    It's hard to meet women when they don't exist. Um, girls in SF say the same thing about a lack of guys.
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      - psyklic 17y ago
        Realistically, if you live in a large city, you really have nothing to complain about. Farmers, people in rural areas actually do have a case to make in this respect. From my experience, guys who can't meet girls (or the opposite) still complain no matter what city they're in, no matter how stacked the odds are for them. I think that straight guys should consider themselves lucky -- imagine if you were gay and could only date 4% of the population. Not only that, but gay guys can't even tell who else they could potentially date and who would be offended by them asking!
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        kscaldef 17y ago
        > Not only that, but gay guys can't even tell who else they could potentially date and who would be offended by them asking! Uh... the same is true for straight guys (and for women). The odds might be better, but not every woman wants to date a man, and not every woman (regardless of orientation) is open to being hit on at a particular moment.

The Bay Area is hands down the worst place I have ever lived for dating.

jimboyoungblood 17y ago

That's why it's a great place to work on startups. Fewer distractions.

rw 17y ago
Only if you want to ignore important aspects of your life.
- staunch 17y ago
  Which is probably ideal if you're going to focus all your energy on doing one thing really well.
  - rw 17y ago
    What do you need to perform at your absolute best? I need to know that the rest of my life is taken care of. Relationships included.
    - staunch 17y ago
      You never know that, especially with relationships.
      - rw 17y ago
        It's pretty clear that better is better than worse.

msluyter 17y ago

Interesting. Why is that? My naive assumption would have been that SF in particular would be good for straight males.

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- ComputerGuru 17y ago
  I second the midwest vote. Viva Chicago! :)
- calambrac 17y ago
  Are you sure you're going to the right bars? I'd recommend against the ones in the Castro if you're looking to meet women :)
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strlen 17y ago

It's not nearly as bad if you're willing to be open and try non-conventional ways of meeting people, e.g. online. Sites like OKCupid have many women who are either intellectually inclined themselves (i.e. "nerdy") or are looking to meet a guy who is; this way, you are much more likely to find someone who appreciates and likes you for who are you than at a sports bar or a night club (whether in Bay Area, or elsewhere).

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- rend 17y ago
  It's hard to meet women when they don't exist. Um, girls in SF say the same thing about a lack of guys.
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    - psyklic 17y ago
      Realistically, if you live in a large city, you really have nothing to complain about. Farmers, people in rural areas actually do have a case to make in this respect. From my experience, guys who can't meet girls (or the opposite) still complain no matter what city they're in, no matter how stacked the odds are for them. I think that straight guys should consider themselves lucky -- imagine if you were gay and could only date 4% of the population. Not only that, but gay guys can't even tell who else they could potentially date and who would be offended by them asking!
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      - kscaldef 17y ago
        > Not only that, but gay guys can't even tell who else they could potentially date and who would be offended by them asking! Uh... the same is true for straight guys (and for women). The odds might be better, but not every woman wants to date a man, and not every woman (regardless of orientation) is open to being hit on at a particular moment.