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Show HN: Sexycrets 2.00
- JamesCasanova 13y agoAny ideas, constructive criticism and comments are more than welcome. I created this thinking that a good way to improve your sex life is to know what your partners would actually like and so I gave them a place where to write it and vote it. Hope you like it! I want to improve it now
- rrbrambley 13y agoIt's an interesting concept, though I don't know if I understand how this will help people improve their sex life. It's just about sharing secrets anonymously, right?
- laumars 13y agoI can't see it improving anyone's sex life. Even with 24/7 moderation to weed out the joke/troll posts (which I can envisage a site like this being a real honey-pot for), everyone's tastes and desires are different. So the best way to improve your sex life will still be the old fashioned methods; to read their body signals (it shouldn't take a genius to tell if you're turning on your partner) and even just to talk to them (assuming you're in a relationship). Best of luck to the OP though.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoSee you are totally right what you say it is about communicating (listening, understanding and talking). Unfortunately this does not come so natural to everyone and talking with sexologist they tell me that the (lack of) good communication is what brings their patients to see them. Sexycrets wanted to give some better tool to improve this communication.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoWell, at first one of my ideas was to allow users to vote the tips they liked most and having them matched with other users (of the sex they were interested into) interested in doing the same things. Also for already established sex relationships I thought this could have been a tool where both can select what they like and we show them just what they both like. In this way we take away the negative embarrassment of getting your ideas refused. What about it?
- mynameisme 13y agoI think you will have a very hard time getting people to use this by making them sign up. You should use a captcha instead. I also don't think most people would find unsolicited, anonymous sex tips that useful, but Cosmo sells, so there could be an audience. edit: Or is it supposed to more like a post secret type thing?
- JamesCasanova 13y agoActually I was hoping to create something more interactive, like two people who have sex (or want to) in the real life and are too shy to share their fantasies. So with this you could vote them and, apart from getting new ideas, you would be notified just of the tips your partner DOES like and he/she of the ones you DO like.
- mynameisme 13y agohttp://mojoupgrade.com/ http://mojoupgrade.com/ does what you describe. They don't allow users to enter their own, but they have a pretty comprehensive list.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoI did not know this service, great you told me
- rosser 13y agoA "PostSecret type thing" would make having a signup even less appropriate...
- JamesCasanova 13y agoThe sign up is for letting you vote, make sure users vote a tip just one time. Also when you login you can see all the tips in one page and divided in categories, create your profile and (in the next versions) get in touch with people with your same desires.
- jared314 13y agoHot or Not for written sex tips? It looks like this would survive based on the number of people interacting with it, and hiding your content behind a signup form might limit that. Hot or Not added a matchmaking service, which might work in your case better than advertising alone. The additional service is where you would want them to sign up. (Freemium) Forcing the reader to rank them, before seeing the next one, makes me wonder if people would just vote something random instead of actual feedback, like hot or not, which makes the numbers irrelevant. They might be better expressed as just a general percentage sexy ranking.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoGood point. When I implemented the votes I was thinking to use them on a single tip in this way you have your own list of tips you DO like, you DO NOT like and you MIGHT try. So the ranking is not between a tip and the other but an quality indicator of if you like that particular tip or not. Does it make sense?
- jared314 13y agoThe per-tip voting makes sense. The three options for voting is also sensible and would be necessary for doing user matching or comparison, I just think the numbers would be better expressed, on the page, as a single average per tip. And, a spam flag for each tip would be good.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoThank you, I put a note to add the spam flag.
- Gravityloss 13y agoYou have a typo on the front page: "form your head"
- JamesCasanova 13y agoshame on me, thank you much!
- kaoD 13y ago> Please login to get free full access to the whole list. Naaaaah... not that interested, especially since I just saw two crappy "secrets" (the guy wants to be blown every morning!? I wouldn't have guessed.) Maybe a few more secrets would've enticed me to join, but this is too little as an incentive and looks kind of staged/spammy. Hiding your content behind a signup form won't make me sign. You might want to leave the form for later (perhaps additional content?) Also, when I pasted that, I got an ugly - See more at: http://www.sexycrets.com/users/sign_in#sthash.UfpvAPnI.dpuf Those things just make users angry.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoDamn, that is the ShareThis plugin. Thanks for notifying it
- kaoD 13y agoGlad to hear it wasn't intentional. Also: I edited the parent comment while you replied (yes, I know, it's a very bad habit of mine).
- JamesCasanova 13y agoIf you click the "No, thanks" link under the subscription button you will get access to the tips. The difference when you subscribe is you can vote them, search them by tags, and see them all in one infinite scrolling page.
- kaoD 13y agoThat one was hard to notice! I just clicked "See all" in her desires[1] and got the signup form. Clicking anywhere in the top bar takes me to the form too, so I got stuck there and left. [1] That might've irritated me, since I clicked "See all" and not "Sign up", I expected the former!
- JamesCasanova 13y agoGot it. Thanks
- normloman 13y agoThis is almost as bad as cosmo. When it comes to sex between you and your partner, somebody else's desires or secret tricks don't matter. Wanna know what your partner likes? Ask them.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoYou are totally right saying "ask them". Unfortunately not all people find easy to share their sex fantasies openly, nor they like to be judged when they do, also they might just look for new ideas. The use of Sexycrets should be to take away the aspect of communication that might make feel people uncomfortable selecting just the desires both of the partners like and sharing just those with them two.
- normloman 13y agoThat makes more sense. I had no idea you were supposed to sign up with a partner and sexycrets would share the results. I'd make that more obvious on the front page. Good luck.
- hnriot 13y agononsense, sexuality has it's outliers, but in the vast majority of the cases it's pretty simple stuff. We just like to all think that we're different.
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- greenyoda 13y agoIf you visit the site with JavaScript disabled (e.g., using the NoScript add-on), you can immediately see a couple of "secrets", before certifying that you're over 18.
- JamesCasanova 13y agoThank you for notifying!