I understand where you're coming from. It's hard to have friends with opinions that you think are wrong. One of the reasons that I'm taking the time to provide

I understand where you're coming from. It's hard to have friends with opinions that you think are wrong. One of the reasons that I'm taking the time to provide a counterview is because if the feedback is primarily negative people often feel ashamed of their attributes. I'm vegetarian and I receive primarily negative feedback for it. Same with being a geek, and a programmer. Due to how this affected with me when I was younger I tend to think that negative feedback for attributes without a clear negative should be kept to a minimum.