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I find it quite disturbing that this is seen as such a terrible situation. You do know that there are several porn sites dedicated to ruining the lives of ex-gi

I find it quite disturbing that this is seen as such a terrible situation. You do know that there are several porn sites dedicated to ruining the lives of ex-girlfriends? When the victim is male, suddenly this justifies news articles and a heated discussion. I feel terrible for the guy, but this is gender-biased hypocrisy. The comments on the article considering "if it was the other way around he'd be in jail" are so out of touch with reality that it hurts my brain.

aaron695 13y ago
When I first saw this on Reddit I though a similar thing. It (unsurprisingly) was getting a disproportionate amount of coverage compared to similar things the other way round. Reddit is quite dark when you read between the lines on many of the things and issues they take up.
- betterunix 13y ago
  Disproportionate? Just the other day, the New York Times linked to this: http://betabeat.com/2013/05/revenge-porn-holli-thometz-criminal-case/ http://betabeat.com/2013/05/revenge-porn-holli-thometz-crimi...
redthrowaway 13y ago
How you can possibly view this as "gender-biased hypocrisy" astounds me. There's a person being stalked, slandered, and having their career ruined by a vindictive and determined person of questionable mental and emotional stability. It would be the exact same story if the victim was female. >You do know that there are several porn sites dedicated to ruining the lives of ex-girlfriends? Like what, gfrevenge? There's a massive difference in scale and severity between posting nude photos and videos of an ex online without their permission, and accusing them of child molestation and attempting to ensure they can never find work in their field again. It's the difference between throwing a rock through someone's window, or doing the same with a molotov cocktail.
- Skoofoo 13y ago
  I agreed with your first paragraph, but the second one surprised me. Your comparison does not apply to everyone. Many people would much prefer to be hit with baseless accusations and rumors rather than have footage of their most intimate moments be immortalized for public access.
  - wwwwwwwwwwww 13y ago
    agreed. men get carried away with our bullshit and forget that images are attached to people. women dont forget that and its much shittier for them. as a man i know we suck.
    - illuminate 13y ago
      Broad based claims really help nobody, man or woman.
mistercow 13y ago
>You do know that there are several porn sites dedicated to ruining the lives of ex-girlfriends? When the victim is male, suddenly this justifies news articles and a heated discussion. How can you possibly have missed all of the news articles and heated discussion about revenge porn sites? Both situations deserve attention.

aaron695 13y ago

When I first saw this on Reddit I though a similar thing. It (unsurprisingly) was getting a disproportionate amount of coverage compared to similar things the other way round. Reddit is quite dark when you read between the lines on many of the things and issues they take up.

betterunix 13y ago
Disproportionate? Just the other day, the New York Times linked to this: http://betabeat.com/2013/05/revenge-porn-holli-thometz-criminal-case/ http://betabeat.com/2013/05/revenge-porn-holli-thometz-crimi...

redthrowaway 13y ago

How you can possibly view this as "gender-biased hypocrisy" astounds me. There's a person being stalked, slandered, and having their career ruined by a vindictive and determined person of questionable mental and emotional stability. It would be the exact same story if the victim was female. >You do know that there are several porn sites dedicated to ruining the lives of ex-girlfriends? Like what, gfrevenge? There's a massive difference in scale and severity between posting nude photos and videos of an ex online without their permission, and accusing them of child molestation and attempting to ensure they can never find work in their field again. It's the difference between throwing a rock through someone's window, or doing the same with a molotov cocktail.

Skoofoo 13y ago
I agreed with your first paragraph, but the second one surprised me. Your comparison does not apply to everyone. Many people would much prefer to be hit with baseless accusations and rumors rather than have footage of their most intimate moments be immortalized for public access.
- wwwwwwwwwwww 13y ago
  agreed. men get carried away with our bullshit and forget that images are attached to people. women dont forget that and its much shittier for them. as a man i know we suck.
  - illuminate 13y ago
    Broad based claims really help nobody, man or woman.

mistercow 13y ago

>You do know that there are several porn sites dedicated to ruining the lives of ex-girlfriends? When the victim is male, suddenly this justifies news articles and a heated discussion. How can you possibly have missed all of the news articles and heated discussion about revenge porn sites? Both situations deserve attention.