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>When you use this manipulation to get your way to your kids, the kid watches you, and you find yourself the lab rat of a psychological manipulator far more cap
by pretoriusB 14y ago
>When you use this manipulation to get your way to your kids, the kid watches you, and you find yourself the lab rat of a psychological manipulator far more capable then yourself. And the kid uses tricks you never heard of to shape your behaviour. Which causes a feedback loop of who can trick the other into doing what they want better.
It's not a manipulation or a trick.
It's a "reward system". You get X only if you do Y. Period.
It has worked wonders for ages. Still does in most parts of the world. The US has a messed up system that ends with annoying, over-self-indulged, entitled children and adults.
- Cushman 14y ago> The US has a messed up system that ends with annoying, over-self-indulged, entitled children and adults. [citation needed]
- pretoriusB 14y agoCitation is needed in novel and unexpected statements and conclusions. ("Extraordinary claims", etc). Well known facts should need no citation upon an audience of educated adults. Still, here's a secondary corroboration for you: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970204740904577196931457473816.html http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405297020474090457719...
- Cushman 14y agoThat you think that unsourced opinion piece constitutes "secondary corroboration" indicates that perhaps you do not, in fact, understand when citation is needed.
- pretoriusB 14y agoEver tried looking around you? Do you need a citation that air is important for breathing?
- Cushman 14y agoFunnily enough, I can't see air, and if you could not provide any other evidence for its existence I would be extremely skeptical.
- nmcfarl 14y agoWalk outside. My god, yesterday some guy didn't like me walking in the crosswalk, when he wanted to make a right turn so he swerved into the oncoming traffic lane to make his right (and cut me off). This versus wait 5 seconds. Annoying, over-self-indulged and entitled. Also damn dangerous.
- Cushman 14y agoWhere I live in America, pedestrians seem highly obedient of walk signals and drivers seem highly observant of crosswalks. You got me as far as "confirmation bias". Still looking up that citation?
- nmcfarl 14y agoWhere I live in America, Seattle, has a amazing reputation for pedestrians being highly obedient of walk signals and drivers being highly observant of crosswalks (and generally polite). But in fact everyone I know who commutes on foot has been hit by a car in the last 5 years. No one’s been hurt badly, thankfully. (I don’t think anyones even gone to the hospital in that time period - unlike the bicycle commuters I know.) I know that's small sample size - and poorly chosen - still it suggests bad things.
- Cushman 14y ago> still it suggests bad things Well, yeah. Human beings are not equipped to operate motor vehicles safely, and there is a mountain of evidence to support that fact. It doesn't have anything to do with parenting, though.
- pretoriusB 14y agoRoad rage? People going on rampage with guns and killing tens of innocents? Fatso kids screaming in restaurants and behaving badly in public? The most BS self-entitled complaints in restaurant/hotel/etc reviews always written by Americans? People posting pictures of their cats? Do any of these things ring a bell?