I have two kids. They are very very different in their needs, sleep patterns, self security, and have been since their first days. Parenting is mostly hard for

I have two kids. They are very very different in their needs, sleep patterns, self security, and have been since their first days. Parenting is mostly hard for anyone getting serious about it, but i can vary tremendously from you kid personnality, the support system you have, etc... I suspect some parents (usually fathers) don't know it because they do not put in the works (and then give some advices on boundaries). Still, some have "easy" kids in the sense that they are not demanding a lot from the parent, and that can be fine or the sign of a troubled personnality. I completely understand the author here, as this has been also my experience - parenting is unbeleivably hard but _also_ beautiful and _also_ an experience that should change you to the core and make you grow. To me, however hard it can be, it beats the alternative. But I could unserstand that only once I've been through abandonning my former self govern by individualist values and goals to become a new person taking care of someone else, however hard and painful it might have been.