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Well, it's hard to break bread with someone who you fundamentally disagree about things like humans rights issues with. Family or not. You don't just skip over

Well, it's hard to break bread with someone who you fundamentally disagree about things like humans rights issues with. Family or not. You don't just skip over that, and in fact why should you? Having blood relations means you have to sit and eat with someone who thinks you or people you know shouldn't exist or shouldn't be allowed to have the same rights as other people? I'm very glad that we've normalized not glossing over this kind of stuff anymore, because of "family". "our hacker-minded spaces" Spaces full of people. "once clean, apolitical world-of-mind" This only ever existed for select few people.

bigstrat2003 8mo ago
> Well, it's hard to break bread with someone who you fundamentally disagree about things like humans rights issues with. It's actually not. It's very easy to get along with people, even those from whom we have vastly differing moral axioms, if we only try. Sadly these days many people are disinterested in trying, believing (wrongly) that they will make the world a better place if they sow more division.
- direwolf20 8mo ago
  Why try to get along with someone you have vastly different moral axioms to?
  - teekert 8mo ago
    It used to work quite well. Perhaps together you can think of a cause to the rift, and try to actively fight it instead of each other. Start with commonalities, not differences. I think it’s important to, at the very least, never stop trying.
    - direwolf20 8mo ago
      How extreme of moral axiom differences should we tolerate?
      - imtringued 8mo ago
        I don't know if you notice what you're doing, but you're turning a low stakes / no confrontation situation into a high stakes / confrontational situation for no discernible benefit. This type of self destructive behavior may seem worthwhile in the moment, but in the long run it doesn't bring any benefits, because you have to fight the people you're declaring war against and if the list of enemies is long enough, you're almost certainly guaranteed to lose against one of them.
      - teekert 8mo ago
        Let me answer you with 2 other questions: Is this line of thinking going to make things better for future generations or is it not? How important is it to work on defining this boundary, compared to working towards a less polarized society?
        direwolf20 8mo ago
        How can society become less polarised if we normalise an extremely wide spectrum of different moral axioms? To reduce polarisation, people with extremist moral axioms must stop having them, which can't happen if extremist moral axioms are accepted.
        teekert 8mo ago
        For one, I think that the people you have put the "extreme" label on, are not as extreme as you think they are, and indeed could be quite agreeable when you'd seek them out and sit down with them over tea and try to communicate with them with more nuance than a 160 char message can deliver. Yes, you will be able to find examples that confirm your statement, but they are an exceedingly small minority, probably despised (almost) as much by their "own group" (as far as people actually feel part of a group) as they are by you. I believe it is the (incentives of) the (social)media and the bots that have made you believe otherwise, over time and in small steps.
        direwolf20 8mo ago
  - baud147258 8mo ago
    Because they may be your neighbors, your colleagues? Because they're going to the same third place as you, whatever that might be?
modo_mario 8mo ago
I don't show it but honestly I also find it hard not to attribute the negative consequences (partially in Brussels funnily enough) of your preferred policies to people like you. Sometimes it gets hard to hide that.

bigstrat2003 8mo ago

> Well, it's hard to break bread with someone who you fundamentally disagree about things like humans rights issues with. It's actually not. It's very easy to get along with people, even those from whom we have vastly differing moral axioms, if we only try. Sadly these days many people are disinterested in trying, believing (wrongly) that they will make the world a better place if they sow more division.

direwolf20 8mo ago
Why try to get along with someone you have vastly different moral axioms to?
- teekert 8mo ago
  It used to work quite well. Perhaps together you can think of a cause to the rift, and try to actively fight it instead of each other. Start with commonalities, not differences. I think it’s important to, at the very least, never stop trying.
  - direwolf20 8mo ago
    How extreme of moral axiom differences should we tolerate?
    - imtringued 8mo ago
      I don't know if you notice what you're doing, but you're turning a low stakes / no confrontation situation into a high stakes / confrontational situation for no discernible benefit. This type of self destructive behavior may seem worthwhile in the moment, but in the long run it doesn't bring any benefits, because you have to fight the people you're declaring war against and if the list of enemies is long enough, you're almost certainly guaranteed to lose against one of them.
    - teekert 8mo ago
      Let me answer you with 2 other questions: Is this line of thinking going to make things better for future generations or is it not? How important is it to work on defining this boundary, compared to working towards a less polarized society?
      - direwolf20 8mo ago
        How can society become less polarised if we normalise an extremely wide spectrum of different moral axioms? To reduce polarisation, people with extremist moral axioms must stop having them, which can't happen if extremist moral axioms are accepted.
        teekert 8mo ago
        For one, I think that the people you have put the "extreme" label on, are not as extreme as you think they are, and indeed could be quite agreeable when you'd seek them out and sit down with them over tea and try to communicate with them with more nuance than a 160 char message can deliver. Yes, you will be able to find examples that confirm your statement, but they are an exceedingly small minority, probably despised (almost) as much by their "own group" (as far as people actually feel part of a group) as they are by you. I believe it is the (incentives of) the (social)media and the bots that have made you believe otherwise, over time and in small steps.
        direwolf20 8mo ago
- baud147258 8mo ago
  Because they may be your neighbors, your colleagues? Because they're going to the same third place as you, whatever that might be?

modo_mario 8mo ago

I don't show it but honestly I also find it hard not to attribute the negative consequences (partially in Brussels funnily enough) of your preferred policies to people like you. Sometimes it gets hard to hide that.