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because news articles and media are putting out this narrative that the site was a "safety tool" that was critical in allowing women to "protect themselves", in

because news articles and media are putting out this narrative that the site was a "safety tool" that was critical in allowing women to "protect themselves", instead of what it actually was: a gossip and hate-spewing site with zero oversight/recourse for anyone who is being slandered. The app stores haven't pulled it because they are waiting for this to flow out of the news cycle and reduce the impact of this subset of our culture freaking out at them.

frollogaston 1y ago
Say I were single and ended up being slandered on that site, what would happen? Sounds like the users on there are not the kind I'd want near me anyway.
- _--__--__ 1y ago
  There is no safe amount of attention from people who spend their time sharing 'drama' online. The most extreme example is the kiwifarms lolcow stuff, but even very normal and boring internet 'microcelebs' learn the hard way that some insane person somewhere will decide they don't like you and go out of their way to interfere with your life and relationships.
- monkeywork 1y ago
  That's the equiv of saying I don't need privacy because I have nothing to hide. Just because you don't want anything to do with the type of people who would post pictures of you and slander / shit talk you doesn't mean that you should want that being out there to begin with - it's not like that sort of thing hasn't ever been weaponized against someone before. The worst part is with this app there is a high chance you'd never find out that anything was ever said about you until the snowball is so big that it'll crush any attempt to slow it down.
  - frollogaston 1y ago
    Guess this is too theoretical for me to worry. This app was up for years, I was wondering if they ever coordinated an attack on someone other than just avoiding him. And yeah, I am trusting certain companies like Apple with some of my data to some extent.
- booleandilemma 1y ago
  Imagine being shadow banned from dating.
  - frollogaston 1y ago
    That's only if the normal women are on that website. Which could happen, but sounds like it was a weird place.
- npteljes 1y ago
  The outcome is very hard to determine, because we don't know your goals and circumstances. Focusing on the downsides, 1. Wrt/ dating, the obvious downside is that your potential partner is dissuaded from dating you because of what is said on the platform. 2. I can also see vigilante justice; an extremist reaction to what is said on the platform. Actual violence, or just harassment, online or real life. 3. Or, I can see corporations using these databases on the down low to filter potential employees, similar to how they screen online presence as well. Of course, all of these are just potential risks, not things that actually happen(ed yet).
tough 1y ago
if the US govt had told the company to get their shit together or close up after the first leak, the second one wouldn't have happened
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cwmoore 1y ago
You are now permanently banned from /r/TwoXChromosomes

frollogaston 1y ago

Say I were single and ended up being slandered on that site, what would happen? Sounds like the users on there are not the kind I'd want near me anyway.

_--__--__ 1y ago
There is no safe amount of attention from people who spend their time sharing 'drama' online. The most extreme example is the kiwifarms lolcow stuff, but even very normal and boring internet 'microcelebs' learn the hard way that some insane person somewhere will decide they don't like you and go out of their way to interfere with your life and relationships.
monkeywork 1y ago
That's the equiv of saying I don't need privacy because I have nothing to hide. Just because you don't want anything to do with the type of people who would post pictures of you and slander / shit talk you doesn't mean that you should want that being out there to begin with - it's not like that sort of thing hasn't ever been weaponized against someone before. The worst part is with this app there is a high chance you'd never find out that anything was ever said about you until the snowball is so big that it'll crush any attempt to slow it down.
- frollogaston 1y ago
  Guess this is too theoretical for me to worry. This app was up for years, I was wondering if they ever coordinated an attack on someone other than just avoiding him. And yeah, I am trusting certain companies like Apple with some of my data to some extent.
booleandilemma 1y ago
Imagine being shadow banned from dating.
- frollogaston 1y ago
  That's only if the normal women are on that website. Which could happen, but sounds like it was a weird place.
npteljes 1y ago
The outcome is very hard to determine, because we don't know your goals and circumstances. Focusing on the downsides, 1. Wrt/ dating, the obvious downside is that your potential partner is dissuaded from dating you because of what is said on the platform. 2. I can also see vigilante justice; an extremist reaction to what is said on the platform. Actual violence, or just harassment, online or real life. 3. Or, I can see corporations using these databases on the down low to filter potential employees, similar to how they screen online presence as well. Of course, all of these are just potential risks, not things that actually happen(ed yet).

tough 1y ago

if the US govt had told the company to get their shit together or close up after the first leak, the second one wouldn't have happened

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cwmoore 1y ago

You are now permanently banned from /r/TwoXChromosomes