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I'm introverted and I enjoy networking and group activities and also meeting and chatting with strangers. I just can't do it all day every day, I need breaks.
by _benton 1y ago
I'm introverted and I enjoy networking and group activities and also meeting and chatting with strangers. I just can't do it all day every day, I need breaks.
Having social anxiety is different from not knowing how to talk to people and make friends. Bill Russel would get so worked up before games he would throw up. But he could also perform.
I think it depends on what you're anxious about. Being scared that people will dislike you is different from being scared of embarrassment and it's different from being scared you don't know what to do in the moment.
Of course all of those can be helped by simply exposing yourself to the situation over and over again. You learn that if you do embarrass yourself or if people dislike you, the world doesn't turn to ash.
- brandall10 1y agoI probably should draw the distinction between enjoying and looking forward to them - I never look forward to them (unless there's several friends there or it's for a fun activity), but yes, if you give it some effort, they can be enjoyable.
- _benton 1y agoI find it really fulfilling to meet strangers but I need to be in the right headspace and it needs to be the right atmosphere. "Every person you look at, you can see the universe in their eyes -- if you're really looking." -- George Carlin
- remyp 1y agoI’m not afraid of the world turning to ash. My rational brain isn’t afraid; it knows people didn’t care and have already forgotten. I’m afraid of the much louder part of my brain that’s going to spend every quiet moment over the next 3 days replaying and re-living the embarrassing encounter.
- _benton 1y agoYeah fair enough :)