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I genuinely have no idea what to chose in the gender-screen (since neither option applies) and can't just say "You don't get to know that". Why is this needed?

I genuinely have no idea what to chose in the gender-screen (since neither option applies) and can't just say "You don't get to know that". Why is this needed? Edit: clarification

kennysoona 2y ago
You could just use what's on your license or ID. The site seems to be a kind of dating/singles chat, if that's the case having genders/sexes makes some sense, although indeed it could be better.
- latexr 2y ago
  > You could just use what's on your license or ID. Not only could that not match your real gender, there are places where IDs allow for more than those two options. https://www.bustle.com/p/12-states-with-a-third-gender-option-on-ids-pave-the-way-for-non-binary-recognition-17988940 https://www.bustle.com/p/12-states-with-a-third-gender-optio...
  - asdf6969 2y ago
    What’s a “real gender”?
  - wordofx 2y ago
    [flagged]
  - kennysoona 2y ago
    > Not only could that not match your real gender, If it doesn't, choose the other or closest option. It's unlikely there isn't one. > there are places where IDs allow for more than those two options. Sure, like here in NYC. That's really more of a personality thing IMO, which gets conflated with sex. Wherever necessary, things still reduce down to a binary choice, with the rest being details.
    - shakna 2y ago
      ... And if you're intersex, what then?
      - kennysoona 2y ago
        Intersex people still generally fall on one side of the binary in how they identify and/or present, so they can choose the closest option.
        shakna 2y ago
        "Generally", means there are exceptions to the rule. If the ancient Greeks could handle more than two, can't we, today?
        kennysoona 2y ago
        I'll retract that 'generally' then, and substitute it with 'always', since that's a mathematical certainty. There won't be any humans that are perfectly balanced with a completely equal distribution of all traits that we assign to one of the binary choices. Barring that, someone will always fall on one side. Sure, though, we have the tech and ability to handle more than two, but until we get to the point where that's the norm not every situation where we don't isn't one where the sky falling.
- AnyTimeTraveler 2y ago
  My ID says D for "diverse". Equivalent to X in the US. What now?
  - aydyn 2y ago
    maybe be real?
  - asdf6969 2y ago
    Choose the one that would get assigned to you socially. The gender filter is about what other people want to talk to, not what you consider yourself
  - kennysoona 2y ago
    You likely still identify as masc or femme in some sense, so chose the closest option. My point is simply that there is likely a 'closest option'. Obviously people don't have to use any service they feel doesn't cater to them, but when a service doesn't always offer more than the binary it doesn't have to always be a "woe is me, how could I ever proceed" scenario.
abdibrokhim 2y ago
will update ))

I genuinely have no idea what to chose in the gender-screen (since neither option applies) and can't just say "You don't get to know that". Why is this needed? Edit: clarification

kennysoona 2y ago

You could just use what's on your license or ID. The site seems to be a kind of dating/singles chat, if that's the case having genders/sexes makes some sense, although indeed it could be better.

latexr 2y ago
> You could just use what's on your license or ID. Not only could that not match your real gender, there are places where IDs allow for more than those two options. https://www.bustle.com/p/12-states-with-a-third-gender-option-on-ids-pave-the-way-for-non-binary-recognition-17988940 https://www.bustle.com/p/12-states-with-a-third-gender-optio...
- asdf6969 2y ago
  What’s a “real gender”?
- wordofx 2y ago
  [flagged]
- kennysoona 2y ago
  > Not only could that not match your real gender, If it doesn't, choose the other or closest option. It's unlikely there isn't one. > there are places where IDs allow for more than those two options. Sure, like here in NYC. That's really more of a personality thing IMO, which gets conflated with sex. Wherever necessary, things still reduce down to a binary choice, with the rest being details.
  - shakna 2y ago
    ... And if you're intersex, what then?
    - kennysoona 2y ago
      Intersex people still generally fall on one side of the binary in how they identify and/or present, so they can choose the closest option.
      - shakna 2y ago
        "Generally", means there are exceptions to the rule. If the ancient Greeks could handle more than two, can't we, today?
        kennysoona 2y ago
        I'll retract that 'generally' then, and substitute it with 'always', since that's a mathematical certainty. There won't be any humans that are perfectly balanced with a completely equal distribution of all traits that we assign to one of the binary choices. Barring that, someone will always fall on one side. Sure, though, we have the tech and ability to handle more than two, but until we get to the point where that's the norm not every situation where we don't isn't one where the sky falling.
AnyTimeTraveler 2y ago
My ID says D for "diverse". Equivalent to X in the US. What now?
- aydyn 2y ago
  maybe be real?
- asdf6969 2y ago
  Choose the one that would get assigned to you socially. The gender filter is about what other people want to talk to, not what you consider yourself
- kennysoona 2y ago
  You likely still identify as masc or femme in some sense, so chose the closest option. My point is simply that there is likely a 'closest option'. Obviously people don't have to use any service they feel doesn't cater to them, but when a service doesn't always offer more than the binary it doesn't have to always be a "woe is me, how could I ever proceed" scenario.

abdibrokhim 2y ago

will update ))