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It’s not bad faith, I honestly have not found a set of physical and technical controls that work for kids that are addicted to short form video content. Have y
by ipython 2y ago
It’s not bad faith, I honestly have not found a set of physical and technical controls that work for kids that are addicted to short form video content.
Have you tried to restrict devices against a determined child? Especially one that has to use a device to complete school homework? Because you make it sound easy. I can assure you, it is not. Just because a device is allowed at a time of day doesn’t mean he’s using it for the stated purpose. I sit with him as much as possible while he’s doing homework, but I may have to step away to cook dinner, wash dishes, drive a kid somewhere, help one of my other kids - and guess what, I come back and it’s more YouTube. So how does “time of day” restrictions help?
I may come off snide and annoyed, and truly this topic does make me annoyed as there is no simple solution. Yet people who are not in this position are so quick to point out how simple it is - yet never can back up their claims with actual facts.
Edit- before I’m accused of being too lenient, I have a fairly strict screens policy for my kids, and I still struggle. When I go out, it’s insane how many parents just let their kids sit and watch videos while the parents talk. The kids will have iPads basically chained to them while in line, at the table, in the car, it’s absolutely sick. Hell, I have my own problems with screen addiction.
Here’s some mitigations and how they’ve failed:
There are no devices allowed in bedrooms. Work is to be done in common rooms, but unlike when we were kids, there is no desktop. Only laptops. So they’re easily portable. I have had a recently wiped iPhone swiped from my office because it was unlocked - it took me a few days to realize that, and by then he had watched 22 hours of YouTube. Internet is locked out on their devices but turning it on and off is a bit of a pain so sometimes I’ll forget. Even with no internet, he will pull out the laptop while in the car driving home from school and play a cached web game. They tricked my wife into thinking the rear screen in the car was unlocked, so she toggles it- not realizing that actually unlocked the screen. Their Nintendo switches have ok parental controls once I realized you can actually set it to zero time if you do it on a day-by-day basis (otherwise the minimum is 5 minutes). I have a house wide pihole, but once he gets a cellphone that will be trivial to bypass unless I go through the effort of forcing an always on vpn. One time my wife shared the password to her laptop with my daughter (who is responsible) but my son was within earshot, so he was able to unlock it while we weren’t looking. Shall I go on?
I believe I’m doing the best I can yet I am fighting upstream the entire way.
- ziddoap 2y agoIt's obviously not as simple as any of us write out on in a few dozen words online. I have sympathy for you. But I disagree that age verification laws are needed. I think they'll do significantly more harm than good, and they don't even begin to address YouTube addictions. >Yet people who are not in this position are so quick to point out how simple it is - yet never can back up their claims with actual facts. I don't know what actual facts you want from me. I don't have a study published in Nature or whatever that I can cite. I just have my experiences with my three kids (ages ranging from young to almost moving out) and the experiences of my friends, family, and colleagues that have kids. I'd be happy to share my experiences, and what worked with my kids (and what didn't), but it's hard to believe someone wants a genuine conversation when they hit you with a "If your kid is taught to be responsible why would you need them?" off the top. (Or equate age verification laws to seat belt laws, like the other commenter).
- ipython 2y agoIt’s a legitimate question. I shared my struggles in the edit. I would be happy to adopt something that could work.