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The source of petty disagreement, in this instance, is that you went to this website, clicked on "about," found an offhand mention of CoCs, which you took out o

The source of petty disagreement, in this instance, is that you went to this website, clicked on "about," found an offhand mention of CoCs, which you took out of context to derail the conversation and start an argument. You complain that the author is injecting their "feelings" into a discussion, but you're clearly going out of your way to inject your anti-CoC politics into a discussion of an operating system. You complain that CoCs are tools to exclude people, meanwhile you are attempting to dissuade people from engaging with this author's work because an offhand remark rubbed you the wrong way. Physician, heal thyself.

fc417fc802 2y ago
That seems a rather unreasonable characterization. While I didn't raise a comment over it (since I felt it likely that it might sour the discussion) I too found myself wondering about the motivations behind that remark when I came across it. As it happens I had the exact same thought that GP had - to wonder if there was an ulterior motive at play. However based on the rest of the content I came to the conclusion that the site didn't seem to be particularly biased. Highly technically opinionated, a bit colorful, but not a malicious hit piece. And for what it's worth I thought the HoA analogy you're responding to here was on point. Those also tend to be incredibly polarizing to a bewildering degree. Apparently a large portion of Americans get remarkably bent out of shape if you try to regulate their behavior, while a different set is similarly incensed by attempts to prevent said regulation.
- butter999 2y ago
  The motivations seem pretty plain. They were anticipating the question, "why did you host this site yourself?" I don't think there's any need to read further into it. You seem to have come to that conclusion yourself. The HOA analogy would be appropriate if HOAs were about conduct among colleagues. It's pretty obvious why you need to set ground rules when you have a huge number of people collaborating - you get incidents of people behaving inappropriately, and if that behavior proliferates, you will create a hostile environment where it's difficult for work to be done. (See this comment https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43147705 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43147705) HOAs are a problem because there is very little shared interest in regulating the size of hedges or the color you may paint your house or whatever. It's a scheme to keep property values elevated. There is no connection between these phenomena. One of them addresses pragmatic and real problems, however flawed the implementation may be. The author is a scheme to manipulate property markets. There is no shared cause between them.
  - fc417fc802 2y ago
    The author's second point (about general hostility) answered the question. The CoC comment above it appears as a non sequitur to me. You misunderstood my conclusion - it was that the remainder of the site passed my "is this a hit piece or is this just a bit spicy" check. > The HOA analogy would be appropriate if HOAs were about conduct among colleagues. There was nothing inappropriate about the analogy. If they both involved colleagues then the analogy would be pointless because they would be the same thing. The entire point of an analogy is the abstract similarities between things that are different. The necessity of CoCs does not follow from the necessity of ground rules. That is a conclusion that you silently slipped in without justification. Social norms have not historically been codified as CoCs. Moreover, I would dispute that codifying social norms is the actual intended purpose of CoCs despite being the stated one. "Very little shared interest" and "scheme to keep property values elevated" appear contradictory to me. Property values are a very strong shared interest for most people. Avoidance of noisy or otherwise disruptive neighbors are another strong shared interest. Folks just don't always agree on all the details. > One of them addresses pragmatic and real problems, however flawed the implementation may be. That would be HoAs, of course, which prevent my neighbor from unilaterally tanking my outrageously expensive (relative to my income) investment. CoCs in contrast are a recent trend and thus obviously unnecessary for productive collaboration.
    - butter999 2y ago
      By "appropriate" I meant "fitting" or "suitable". Just in case you took my meaning as "inappropriate in conversation," I could have been more clear, my mistake. My supposition about the necessity of ground rules is precisely as supported as the alternatives offered in this discussion. Poorly supported by the standards of rigorous debate, I agree, but supported enough for casual discussion. No one has offered any evidence CoCs are caused by busybodies. ("Silently" seems unnecessary, it wasn't silent, I stated it aloud and described why I thought it was so. I can't help but point out again, you go on to dispute it, but not with any evidence. I think that's fine for casual discussion, but it's not meeting the bar you're setting.) "Scheme to elevate property values" is a shared interest if all of the homeowners primarily view their homes as financial instruments. People get bent out of shape with HOAs because they want their home for other things. Some people would rather put up radio towers or paint their house a garish color or park a truck on their lawn than maximize their property value. CoCs are as old as dirt. I signed one every single year in elementary school, decades ago. They've been a norm in workplaces for a long time. They're more recent in open source projects, and they started because of problems projects were having - people being creepy at conferences, people starting drama on mailing lists, etc. What's recent is the politicization of CoCs. If it helps, I would agree that busybodies might abuse both of these mechanisms to impose themselves on their neighbors and colleagues. I disagree that that is the root of why they exist, on the basis that they can be explained by incentives and pragmatic considerations. On an Occam's razor basis, if I don't need to assume busybodies are the motivating force to explain the existence of these things, then I won't, until such a time I receive evidence I can't explain without them. Were we colleagues, and I were involved in drafting a CoC, "I don't want a CoC because I'm worried it will be abused by busybodies" is a concern I'd take seriously.

fc417fc802 2y ago

That seems a rather unreasonable characterization. While I didn't raise a comment over it (since I felt it likely that it might sour the discussion) I too found myself wondering about the motivations behind that remark when I came across it. As it happens I had the exact same thought that GP had - to wonder if there was an ulterior motive at play. However based on the rest of the content I came to the conclusion that the site didn't seem to be particularly biased. Highly technically opinionated, a bit colorful, but not a malicious hit piece. And for what it's worth I thought the HoA analogy you're responding to here was on point. Those also tend to be incredibly polarizing to a bewildering degree. Apparently a large portion of Americans get remarkably bent out of shape if you try to regulate their behavior, while a different set is similarly incensed by attempts to prevent said regulation.

butter999 2y ago
The motivations seem pretty plain. They were anticipating the question, "why did you host this site yourself?" I don't think there's any need to read further into it. You seem to have come to that conclusion yourself. The HOA analogy would be appropriate if HOAs were about conduct among colleagues. It's pretty obvious why you need to set ground rules when you have a huge number of people collaborating - you get incidents of people behaving inappropriately, and if that behavior proliferates, you will create a hostile environment where it's difficult for work to be done. (See this comment https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43147705 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43147705) HOAs are a problem because there is very little shared interest in regulating the size of hedges or the color you may paint your house or whatever. It's a scheme to keep property values elevated. There is no connection between these phenomena. One of them addresses pragmatic and real problems, however flawed the implementation may be. The author is a scheme to manipulate property markets. There is no shared cause between them.
- fc417fc802 2y ago
  The author's second point (about general hostility) answered the question. The CoC comment above it appears as a non sequitur to me. You misunderstood my conclusion - it was that the remainder of the site passed my "is this a hit piece or is this just a bit spicy" check. > The HOA analogy would be appropriate if HOAs were about conduct among colleagues. There was nothing inappropriate about the analogy. If they both involved colleagues then the analogy would be pointless because they would be the same thing. The entire point of an analogy is the abstract similarities between things that are different. The necessity of CoCs does not follow from the necessity of ground rules. That is a conclusion that you silently slipped in without justification. Social norms have not historically been codified as CoCs. Moreover, I would dispute that codifying social norms is the actual intended purpose of CoCs despite being the stated one. "Very little shared interest" and "scheme to keep property values elevated" appear contradictory to me. Property values are a very strong shared interest for most people. Avoidance of noisy or otherwise disruptive neighbors are another strong shared interest. Folks just don't always agree on all the details. > One of them addresses pragmatic and real problems, however flawed the implementation may be. That would be HoAs, of course, which prevent my neighbor from unilaterally tanking my outrageously expensive (relative to my income) investment. CoCs in contrast are a recent trend and thus obviously unnecessary for productive collaboration.
  - butter999 2y ago
    By "appropriate" I meant "fitting" or "suitable". Just in case you took my meaning as "inappropriate in conversation," I could have been more clear, my mistake. My supposition about the necessity of ground rules is precisely as supported as the alternatives offered in this discussion. Poorly supported by the standards of rigorous debate, I agree, but supported enough for casual discussion. No one has offered any evidence CoCs are caused by busybodies. ("Silently" seems unnecessary, it wasn't silent, I stated it aloud and described why I thought it was so. I can't help but point out again, you go on to dispute it, but not with any evidence. I think that's fine for casual discussion, but it's not meeting the bar you're setting.) "Scheme to elevate property values" is a shared interest if all of the homeowners primarily view their homes as financial instruments. People get bent out of shape with HOAs because they want their home for other things. Some people would rather put up radio towers or paint their house a garish color or park a truck on their lawn than maximize their property value. CoCs are as old as dirt. I signed one every single year in elementary school, decades ago. They've been a norm in workplaces for a long time. They're more recent in open source projects, and they started because of problems projects were having - people being creepy at conferences, people starting drama on mailing lists, etc. What's recent is the politicization of CoCs. If it helps, I would agree that busybodies might abuse both of these mechanisms to impose themselves on their neighbors and colleagues. I disagree that that is the root of why they exist, on the basis that they can be explained by incentives and pragmatic considerations. On an Occam's razor basis, if I don't need to assume busybodies are the motivating force to explain the existence of these things, then I won't, until such a time I receive evidence I can't explain without them. Were we colleagues, and I were involved in drafting a CoC, "I don't want a CoC because I'm worried it will be abused by busybodies" is a concern I'd take seriously.