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>When the person you love decides that someone in the world brings him or her only frustration and pain, that person is your enemy, even if that person has alwa
by Dalewyn 2y ago
>When the person you love decides that someone in the world brings him or her only frustration and pain, that person is your enemy, even if that person has always been cool to you in the past, or you’ve never actually met the person, or your partner has never actually met the person. The more you love someone, the more ardently you should feel not just obligated but driven to want to destroy the people your loved one wishes ill.
If you're going to betray a friend just like that, you're a mentally ill asshole rather than a loving family man.
- ubermonkey 2y agoThat's... a wild take. Your spouse is your partner. This is your primary relationship. If someone you know is treating them poorly, and you choose to retain that friendship because, you know "gee, they've always been cool to me," then you're being grievously disloyal to the person who should matter more than anyone else in your life.
- whatshisface 2y agoYou're overlooking the subtle different between someone doing wrong to your wife, and someone being your wife's enemy. Relationships where you're expected to cut off all your previous friendships are some of the most prototypically abusive ones.
- Dalewyn 2y ago>If someone you know is treating them poorly That's the thing though, re-read what the author said very carefully: "that person is your enemy, even if that person has always been cool to you in the past, ... or your partner has never actually met the person." If your spouse decides for any or no reason to hate your friend that they never even met, you're just an asshole if you then decide to mirror that sentiment just because.