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Having someone around you who either intentionally or unintentionally creates an environment that makes you want to, and therefor enjoy putting in the effort, i

Having someone around you who either intentionally or unintentionally creates an environment that makes you want to, and therefor enjoy putting in the effort, is crucial. I am just finishing up The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle [0] and it has been an interesting short read. In a nutshell, it boils talent down deep practice, ignition, and master coaching. [0] https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/5771014-the-talent-code https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/5771014-the-talent-co...

sbarre 2y ago
A good simple example: I don't like cooking alone. Cooking for my wife and me together? Love it..
- scrapcode 2y ago
  Going deeper it can mean anything from having a person you want to impress, a parent that you just can't ever seem to make proud, or seeing someone succeed their way out of your impoverished upbringing.
- airstrike 2y ago
  There are six human needs, they say: certainty, variety (uncertainty), significance, love, growth and contribution Cooking alone doesn't check the same boxes. It probably gives you only more "certainty" of being fed, but you're not craving more of that. Cooking for you and your wife probably gives you some significance (you like being appreciated for making a nice meal), love and a sense of contribution. Way more satisfying!
taylorius 2y ago
I am a counter example that rule (though perhaps it is indirectly in agreement). I grew up alone, in the middle of the UK countryside without much regular contact with other kids. My inner monologue grew constant and loud - it acted like a companion, urging me to create things and ideas.
- scrapcode 2y ago
  Similar situation. The book does delineate between certain activities and how they're reinforced/guided- so I'm not sure your example is a counter-example. It actually fits the narrative of the book quite well. For example, it uses Futsol as an example of a sport that is self-reinforcing: you do the right things, you keep the ball and get a goal- if not, it gets taken from you. In contrast, a student playing the piano is much more successful with an experienced teacher to guide the rights and wrongs.
kody 2y ago
Painfully accurate. Nothing is worse for me creatively when the work environment is paranoid, ass covering, disinterested in the work.
- hinkley 2y ago
  Or one person has a monopoly on creativity.

sbarre 2y ago

A good simple example: I don't like cooking alone. Cooking for my wife and me together? Love it..

scrapcode 2y ago
Going deeper it can mean anything from having a person you want to impress, a parent that you just can't ever seem to make proud, or seeing someone succeed their way out of your impoverished upbringing.
airstrike 2y ago
There are six human needs, they say: certainty, variety (uncertainty), significance, love, growth and contribution Cooking alone doesn't check the same boxes. It probably gives you only more "certainty" of being fed, but you're not craving more of that. Cooking for you and your wife probably gives you some significance (you like being appreciated for making a nice meal), love and a sense of contribution. Way more satisfying!

taylorius 2y ago

I am a counter example that rule (though perhaps it is indirectly in agreement). I grew up alone, in the middle of the UK countryside without much regular contact with other kids. My inner monologue grew constant and loud - it acted like a companion, urging me to create things and ideas.

scrapcode 2y ago
Similar situation. The book does delineate between certain activities and how they're reinforced/guided- so I'm not sure your example is a counter-example. It actually fits the narrative of the book quite well. For example, it uses Futsol as an example of a sport that is self-reinforcing: you do the right things, you keep the ball and get a goal- if not, it gets taken from you. In contrast, a student playing the piano is much more successful with an experienced teacher to guide the rights and wrongs.

kody 2y ago

Painfully accurate. Nothing is worse for me creatively when the work environment is paranoid, ass covering, disinterested in the work.

hinkley 2y ago
Or one person has a monopoly on creativity.