I love to give more. That’s what life’s about. But it should be done freely and without expectation. What I’m talking about is taking - do this or I’ll be annoy

I love to give more. That’s what life’s about. But it should be done freely and without expectation. What I’m talking about is taking - do this or I’ll be annoyed. It’s overt vs covert contracts. I ask you to do X because it would be helpful/make me happy. Versus I ask you to do X because it’s helpful and also I want to feel in control of you, and maybe you’ll be more willing to do Y later. I don’t agree with the last comment, maybe I am a cynic.