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> And marriage can only be good if the parents know and acknowledge that they together go first, kids come second. Period. Eye-opener for me. This is very true
by throw-a-way-3 14y ago
> And marriage can only be good if the parents know and acknowledge that they together go first, kids come second. Period.
Eye-opener for me. This is very true, and a harsh truth at that.
You made me finally understand what broke my parents' relationship. One of them focused on children, with "at all costs" mindset. And the cost was great indeed.
> and you won't even have much control over theirs for more than the 10-15 early years.
That much just as well.
- danparsonson 14y agoThat's a false dichotomy - putting your children first doesn't have to mean 'at all costs'. Strike a balance between the two. Parents' first responsibility should be to their children, who didn't choose to be born (that was the parents' choice) and haven't yet learned the important lessons in life - such as how to care for others. It's not about controlling so much as guiding. Selfish behaviour begets selfish children.