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Sorry, I wrote 8000+ characters the first time but HN limits the character count on text posts. I'd be happy to add some more details here as I think you raise
by krowfooten 3y ago
Sorry, I wrote 8000+ characters the first time but HN limits the character count on text posts. I'd be happy to add some more details here as I think you raise some great points! I'd tend to agree with you for most things but let me clear up a few things too :)
> there's an undercurrent of "the world is out to get me personally" to it. Everything bad happens to him, he's not responsible for anything that may have put him in his situation.
I'm 100% responsible for choosing to leave a good company to pick up a contract with a company working on something similiar to my FOSS project, a contract that explicitly stated any and all public work I have will remain mine, not to mention the fact my project is AGPL licensed.
> Glosses over why he chose a psychologist who apparently is also an astrologist as well.
I didn't choose my psychologist, they came highly recommended to me by a psychitriast I was seeing who I've had to since stop seeing due to the fact his case load was too much and he moved to a different province. I didn't actually know she was an astrologist until she brought that up, that's when I started paying attention/learning about red flags to watch out for.
> "No" was an option. And he was hired for his work on an open source project. And they wanted to pay him to work on it and sell a product or service around it. And? Why was that so intolerable to him?
I find it amusing you bring up "framing", that's what you are doing. I wasn't hired to work on my open source project, the contract I signed explicitly stated my public work will remain mine, although the reality turned out different :)
> And apparently he left his previous job in such a way they wouldn't have him back.
I did yes, I wasn't working with them for very long and they were quite pissed I left so soon. I'll own that mistake
> exaggerates his own skills. Like the claim he "social engineered" his way into being a visitor at a hospital. Yeah. That's just straight up lying. You go sit in a visitor's area and say you're visiting. It's not difficult or challenging. Most people don't do it because there's no need to.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/social%20engineering https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/social%20engineer...
> management of human beings in accordance with their place and function in society : applied social science
You're correct, it's cold and I don't want to freeze so I lied and claimed to be a visitor. Perhaps I misunderstand this definition found at this dictionary I linked, would you be so kind as to explain it like I'm 5?
> This dude needs to make life traumatic because that's the only thing he knows. It's the only thing he's comfortable with. Everything has to be a confrontation, a challenge, adversarial, because for the first 8 years of his life, that was his life. He thinks that's normal.
I would much rather life not be traumatic, I try my best to be kind to people but regardless I make mistakes sometimes, like all humans do. I'm curious as to what I said that indicates my circumstances are me trying to make my life more traumatic than it already is. Please do explain, I'd love to learn about/hear more about that perspective :)
> You could take him in. Give him a roof, three hots, and a cot. And yeah, for the first few weeks
That's not what I'm requesting, could you please quote what I said that indicates that? Perhaps I need to work on my communication more :) I kind of was more or less just looking for people I could talk to who would be kind/understanding. Someone reached out saying they would be willing to pay for a hotel for me for a couple nights but I replied that I wouldn't really feel comfortable with that coming from a stranger but also that I wouldn't say no and I'd do my best to pay them back once I'm back on my feet
I really do hope you never experience hardship in life, take care of yourself :)
- bena 3y ago[flagged]
- krowfooten 3y ago> didn't choose his psychologist. Apparently he was forced to see them. Against his will. He had no choice. Where did I claim I was "forced" to see them? I was seeking help/support with my mental health so I asked a psychiatrist I trusted for advice. What would you recommend doing for someone in a position like mine? You throw a whole lot of accusations around but seem to offer very little practical advice lol > left as soon as he learned they were an astrologist rather than giving them a chance. I also don't think I claimed this but feel free to quote where I perhaps miscommunicated this. I actually kept seeing them probably far longer than I should have because I grew attached to them/learned to trust them depsite them very likely not being a great choice for me and for improving my mental health. > not gaining access to anything anyone really cares about No shit sherlock, but if you don't lie about being a visitor you'll get kicked out right away This clearly isn't going to be a productive conversation and you've made it obvious you have no knowledge or interest in offering any sort of practical advice for someone experiencing hardship, however you're very good at being demeaning, insulting, and rude so I guess this will be my last reply to you. Good luck with your life, and once again, I really do hope you don't experience much hardship in life and if you do, hopefully someone offers you some practical advice/kindness rather than being shitty and demeaning towards you