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Not only that, the whole school system makes it so hard for parents. Say you have a few kids. They most likely will go to different schools in different areas.
by dalore 3y ago
Not only that, the whole school system makes it so hard for parents. Say you have a few kids. They most likely will go to different schools in different areas. So now you have to get them all to different schools at the same time, at the same time as everyone else, and get to work. Then after school, they will all have different activities to go to at different places.
It's no wonder people are stopping at 1 kid or none at all.
- dudul 3y agoWhy do they need to go to different schools? Why do you need to pack them with evening activities? Honestly, I think it has nothing to do with that. Nobody, once they reach the age of having kids sits down in front of a spreadsheet to start thinking of how to deal with dance and soccer activities. People just think having kids is expensive and will take up most of the free time they currently have, both are true.
- sgerenser 3y agoNot to mention in almost every part of the U.S. kids can either walk (if close enough) or take a bus. The “having to go to two different schools” issue never once crossed my mind as we were deciding whether and how many kids we wanted.
- angmarsbane 3y agoIt blew my mind when I learned that other states have free school buses. In SoCal you have to pay for the bus so everyone drives their kids to school which adds more traffic to already congested roads.
- kristjansson 3y agoWow, I’ve lived here for years (without kids) without knowing that. That’s LAUSD, or other parts of socal?
- angmarsbane 3y agoI grew up in Ventura county so outside of LAUSD. Other Californians will have to chime in about Riverside, Orange County etc.
- nerdbert 3y agoHow expensive is this bus, that it's actually worth people's time to drive them in a car instead?
- dalore 3y agoBecause you have kids a few years apart. So there is the transition to high school. Then some schools are single-sex.
- dudul 3y agoOk so now it's even more ludicrous. So a couple in their early thirties is gonna sit down to discuss having kids and the deal breaker will be "well in 16 years Alice will be in high school and Bob will be finishing elementary school, so for 2 years we will need to drive them 15min from each other. You know what? Let's just not have kids, I don't think I can deal with this."
- wharvle 3y agoSome absolutely see how full their schedules are gonna be with one, give some consideration to what that’ll look like with two, older and at different ages, and stop at fewer than they might have if they hadn’t thought about that.
- maxsilver 3y ago> Nobody, once they reach the age of having kids sits down in front of a spreadsheet to start thinking of how to deal with dance and soccer activities. I don't know why you say this. As a single parent, who is close to another single parent, and with 5 total children in the mix, we absolutely do stare at the Google Calendar spreadsheet view, trying to think of how to deal with dance and soccer. > Why do they need to go to different schools? Different kids are different ages, or have different needs. Pre-K is a different building from K-5, which is a different building from 6-8, which is a difrerent building from 9-12, which is a different building from the Montessori Learning center, which is a different building from the Special Education center, which is a different building from the Intermediate School District building. It's absolutely possible to have 5 kids, each of them only 1 year or so apart, all of them in the "same district, same zone, same address", and still end up with kids spread across 2 to 4 different schools. This is especially true if any of your children are outside of perfectly average, in literally any way.
- dudul 3y agoI was talking about before having children.
- gsich 3y agoPublic transport exists, although it's not usable for everything.